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debm55

(25,355 posts) Mon Apr 1, 2024, 08:42 PM Apr 1

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A question for anyone. Is it normal to feel very down on the first birthday of my father since his death? His Birthday [View all]

is the April 3. This was the first Easter without him. I would always make him deviled eggs everytime I went up to the house regardless of the occasion. He liked them with mustard, mayo and relish. My mother and sister didn't like them, but then they don;t like me either. I am sad.

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A question for anyone. Is it normal to feel very down on the first birthday of my father since his death? His Birthday [View all] debm55 Apr 1 OP

Very normal mercuryblues Apr 1 #1

I took Dolly for a walk today and felt a burst of sorrow in my heart. I sat down at the bench at the bus stop and cried debm55 Apr 1 #8

You will find peace with his death.......it will be awhile.....but it will happen. a kennedy Apr 1 #9

Thank you, a kennedy. debm55 Apr 2 #26

So many people are soldierant Apr 2 #55

Thank you Solderant. for your kind words. No, I was never told about it as I was on my life's Journey. All the extended debm55 Apr 2 #58

Thank you, mercuryblues. debm55 Apr 2 #25

Absolutely! Anniversaries are difficult, especially the first one. Phoenix61 Apr 1 #2

Thank you, Phoenix61 debm55 Apr 2 #27

Yes. Anniversaries can be tough, but it's normal. Ocelot II Apr 1 #3

Thank you, Ocelot II debm55 Apr 2 #28

Maybe it is, but I/we kind of celebrate it, 11/13, a big week in our family, elleng Apr 1 #4

Thank you elleng debm55 Apr 2 #29

Yes. 2naSalit Apr 1 #5

Thank you, 2naSalit. debm55 Apr 2 #30

It's definitely normal Frances Apr 1 #6

Thank you, Frances. debm55 Apr 2 #31

It's very normal, but it gets better with time. rsdsharp Apr 1 #7

Thank you rsdsharp. sorry about your daddy's anniversary. debm55 Apr 2 #32

Hugs snpsmom Apr 1 #10

Thank you snpsmom. debm55 Apr 2 #33

I remember something like that phrase... electric_blue68 Apr 3 #66

Normal! DaBronx Apr 1 #11

Thank you so much, DaBronx. debm55 Apr 2 #35

I'm so sorry, debm55! Another yes from me, too. 50 Shades Of Blue Apr 1 #12

Thank you 50Shades of Blue. debm55 Apr 2 #37

Yes Deb, it is very very normal. emulatorloo Apr 1 #13

Thank you emalatorloo. debm55 Apr 2 #39

I too lost my father in January vapor2 Apr 1 #14

Thank you, vapor. debm55 Apr 2 #40

not only normal, predictable. mopinko Apr 1 #15

Thank you mopinko debm55 Apr 2 #41

It's important to remember ...we don't move on from grief, we move forward with grief. Niagara Apr 1 #16

Thank you Niagara. debm55 Apr 2 #42

You're welcome, Dearest Debbie. Niagara Apr 2 #52

debm55, I am so very sorry for your loss. KarenS Apr 1 #17

thnk you, KarenS debm55 Apr 2 #43

Seems pretty normal to me. Grief happens in its own time and patterns. Stay open, stay strong. n/t TygrBright Apr 1 #18

Thank you, TygrBright. debm55 Apr 2 #44

No, and take care of yourself. LisaM Apr 1 #19

Thank you LisaM debm55 Apr 2 #45

Oh, dear! And understandable. Glad at least your dermatologist asked the right question! electric_blue68 Apr 3 #67

It is totally normal. AmBlue Apr 2 #20

Thank you AmBlue debm55 Apr 2 #46

It gets easier but never gone. Delmette2.0 Apr 2 #21

Thank you Delmette2.0 debm55 Apr 2 #47

For me, after my fathers passing, Prairie_Seagull Apr 2 #22

Thank you Prairie_Seagull debm55 Apr 2 #48

very normal. my mom has been gone 25 years last december 21 i still get emotional around AllaN01Bear Apr 2 #23

Thank you AllaN01Bear. debm55 Apr 2 #49

Totally normal. But why should you care? malthaussen Apr 2 #24

Thank you Mal, debm55 Apr 2 #50

In truth, my feelings never mattered. That is why I asked. debm55 Apr 2 #59

Part of the normal grieving process... lots of milestones JT45242 Apr 2 #34

Thank youJT45242 debm55 Apr 2 #51

Your year of firsts SARose Apr 2 #36

Thank you SARose. That is beautiful debm55 Apr 2 #53

I found that after I lost my dad Diamond_Dog Apr 2 #38

Thank you Diamond_Dog. I was in the same situation. But when we adopted my son, I saw a part of him that was very debm55 Apr 2 #54

I think any milestone date can be hard csziggy Apr 2 #56

Thank you csziggy debm55 Apr 2 #57

I imagine it's very normal. Elessar Zappa Apr 2 #60

Ty Elessar Zappa. debm55 Apr 2 #61

Yeah, holidays are hard. Rizen Apr 2 #62

Christmas wasn't bad but Easter was terrrible and his birthday tomorrow. debm55 Apr 2 #64

Yes malaise Apr 2 #63

Thank you malaise debm55 Apr 2 #65

Yes, and you might have various different feelings at times... electric_blue68 Apr 3 #68

Ty electric _blue 68 Saturday I went to the refrigerator to get the eggs to boil. It hit me that there was no reason to debm55 Apr 3 #71

Yw. All this will come, and go at various times. Good you had a Mass for him. One minute, one hour, one day at a time. electric_blue68 Apr 3 #73

Without past joys there are no sorrows... Harker Apr 3 #69

Thank you, Harker. debm55 Apr 3 #70

... Harker Apr 3 #72

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