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In reply to the discussion: I want to thank you folks for the overwhelming kindness you have shown me today. (Edit) [View all]csziggy
(34,136 posts)Last August my family was where you are now. My Dad had a sudden catastrophic perforated ulcer and by the time he was gotten to the hospital he was unresponsive. We made the decision to give him palliative care and let him go.
He had turned 90 the previous March and spent that birthday in the hospital so we all knew his time was near before the final event. He was tough - it took nearly a week for his body to give up. He was the third family member we've had to watch die - my older sister went in 1993 and my brother in law in 2007.
It's never easy. Even though none of those deaths were sudden, we were not prepared to lose people we love.
Don't let other people tell you how to grieve. You have to deal with it in your own way. Take care of yourself and those you love.
Best wishes for the future and