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In reply to the discussion: I'm The Duke University Freshman Porn Star And For The First Time I'm Telling The Story In My Words [View all]marions ghost
(19,841 posts)is that so many people on a progressive website think that what this very young woman gets done to her in films is just fine. This type of humiliation and degradation is currently being promoted as healthy and cool, that's obvious. But the vast majority of these videos show men abusing women, not the other way around. A woman abusing a man only appeals to a few men, and even less to women--so it's totally one-sided--men abusing and subjugating women. This is all about ritualized male dominance, I think it's fair to say. And these rituals may be popular because all of us feel so powerless in this society.
You have to think there is a relationship to the rising incidence of rapes and violence on campus, the military, and in society in general. When no means yes, when (at least) 25% of women are sexually assaulted, Houston you have a problem. People who are very literal and not too smart don't do the finer points of kinky, they do brutality and violence. What people practice in fantasy and in private comes out in their lives eventually. As sick as our society is now, I could see that learning this behavior could help a man (or aggressive woman) compete in a world where dominating others is the name of the game.
Every choice you make in life has a repercussion of some sort. I don't think this is a great way to work out your inhibitions. But I'd like to hear the rest of the story from this woman in 5-10 years, or from other women who are older who have experienced acts of humiliation and violence from a man. I want to know if the women later in life say this helped them form relationships of Trust (as this is touted to do). I'm skeptical.
Anyway, I'm interested in the connection between this BDSM porn world behavior becoming "the norm" (if it is) and what we see in the daylight hours in society. I'm an observer/researcher, not a crusader for people to be different than they are.
I study a social phenom objectively, I don't try to persuade.
The fact that apparently so many people see this as a positive thing is IMO possibly indicative of the way we all have been subjugated and reduced to a state of powerlessness in this increasingly un-democratic society where wages are the lowest they've ever been, there is huge lack of job security, lack of social and health safety nets, etc. A lot of fear and anger. So this behavior becomes a substitute for attainment of personal power--of the type characterized as "power over" others. But for the individual I think using this as a displacement activity may be as false and unrewarding in the long run as getting a drug fix.