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calimary

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11. NO no no no no no no no you did NOT hijack anything here! Shit, CoffeeCat, that is PART of it!!!!
Mon Oct 28, 2013, 02:27 PM
Oct 2013

Gotta tell you, and this is momentarily shocking to say until you get the next sentence in afterwards. I know. I saw it in people's faces this weekend - because my next-oldest sister held an open house in my honor for all their friends and neighbors with whom they grew up and people who knew their (oops - my) family for years and years and who would be MOST interested in this. The house was full of people who wanted to meet me and hear my story and how my journey finally led me there. During the first phone conversation I ever had with my next-oldest sister, one of the things she told me straight off was that "you should know there's cancer in our family." And my reaction was - um - well, I was THRILLED to hear this! Yeah, I know I know, WTF?

But I WAS thrilled to hear this. I was thrilled to hear ANYTHING. ANY such information. ANYTHING. SOMETHING. Even just a little bit - even a little bit was a whole lot more than I had before! I finally had SOME biological information, after all these years, about what was REALLY my background and my genetic inheritance. Previously, I had NOTHING. I couldn't look at my adoptive mother with her congenitally-enlarged heart, or her high blood pressure, or her arthritis, or her bad teeth, or anything else, or my adoptive father with his late-onset diabetes and polyps in the colon and heart condition and believe that I should be on the lookout for any such symptoms or manifestations in my own later life. I didn't know WHAT to look for or what to expect or what to do specific preventive care for, or anything. Now I do!

Sounds to me like you're an especially great candidate for this. Sounds like you need to find REAL family. If you're like me, you probably chose, or even appointed some "family" members. I appointed the little old lady next door as my grandmother when I was a little kid. 'Cause I didn't have one. My best friend since we were in 4th grade was the closest thing I had to a sister. I still consider her one, and my kids consider her kids cousins. Again - because this is pretty much all we had. If you ever wanna talk further about it, please message me!

This is just amazing Harmony Blue Oct 2013 #1
It's just turning my head inside out and upside down. In a good way, of course. calimary Oct 2013 #4
That's awesome! CoffeeCat Oct 2013 #2
If you ever want to look, pm me Marrah_G Oct 2013 #9
NO no no no no no no no you did NOT hijack anything here! Shit, CoffeeCat, that is PART of it!!!! calimary Oct 2013 #11
I am so happy for you... CoffeeCat Oct 2013 #37
I am not an adoptee, but I was separated from my mother at the age of 5 Alameda Oct 2013 #65
I am so happy for you, calimary! sheshe2 Oct 2013 #3
Nope! Not touching the floor yet. Don't know if they ever really will, completely, ever again. calimary Oct 2013 #38
A lovely story; I'm very happy for you. Jackpine Radical Oct 2013 #5
Shoot, that is SO true, Jackpine Radical! SO true. That sense of grounding. calimary Oct 2013 #13
How very cool for you calimary. panader0 Oct 2013 #6
I've been there Marrah_G Oct 2013 #7
That's gotta be the understatement of a lifetime, Marrah_G! calimary Oct 2013 #14
She is your little sister :) Marrah_G Oct 2013 #49
Fantastic! Very happy for you (and your siblings). LoisB Oct 2013 #8
Hah! Siblings! Hard to believe! I'm still wrapping my brain around that one. calimary Oct 2013 #17
Wonderful story. Best wishes to you. n/t MicaelS Oct 2013 #10
Thanks! YIKES I have so many notes to write, and addresses to collect. calimary Oct 2013 #33
Contgrats!!! Sounds like you need some family tree software Thor_MN Oct 2013 #85
I found my birth family 10 years ago B2G Oct 2013 #12
Wow! Wilms Oct 2013 #15
I'm not just in the mood to use bouncing frogs - I feel like I AM a bouncing frog today! calimary Oct 2013 #46
. Wilms Oct 2013 #75
I'm on the opposite end of that equation. Blue_In_AK Oct 2013 #16
I think it depends on which state you're talking about. calimary Oct 2013 #32
The state was Texas, Blue_In_AK Oct 2013 #59
For you calimary! shraby Oct 2013 #18
Kudos, and good for you nadinbrzezinski Oct 2013 #19
So, not sure what you're saying, but what I'm hearing is: toby jo Oct 2013 #20
Mainly I found out I have honest-to-God family, in the biological sense. calimary Oct 2013 #45
Wonderful!!! vanlassie Oct 2013 #21
We recently found a new cousin when she contacted my aunt, her birth mother. SharonAnn Oct 2013 #22
That is so wonderful! Still Blue in PDX Oct 2013 #23
((calimary)) Rex Oct 2013 #24
i know that feeling !!!! unionthug777 Oct 2013 #25
Shit, unionthug777 - I'm starting to be a mess all over again, just reading this. calimary Oct 2013 #35
Wonderful Story! redstatebluegirl Oct 2013 #26
How wonderful, the beauty in life :) arthritisR_US Oct 2013 #27
Oh calimary, what a wonderful story and you told it so beautifully. I agree with you, your life monmouth3 Oct 2013 #28
Thanks, monmouth3! calimary Oct 2013 #99
That is wonderful - LibertyLover Oct 2013 #29
Have you seen the ads for 23andMe? DNA testing? aquart Oct 2013 #84
I loved reading your story. How wonderful LibDemAlways Oct 2013 #30
Yeah, they just always were fully open about that. From the very earliest I can remember. calimary Oct 2013 #44
Not exactly adopted LittleGirl Oct 2013 #31
YEAH! No kidding, LittleGirl! That was one of the first things we said to each other at the calimary Oct 2013 #93
That's exactly how I'd describe it LittleGirl Oct 2013 #98
Your joy and excitement is oozing from the page. UtahLib Oct 2013 #34
BIG hugs to you, UtahLib! Glad you're here! calimary Oct 2013 #94
Just wondering onlyadream Oct 2013 #36
Half. There was only information about the mother in the paperwork we received. calimary Oct 2013 #40
I have a friend onlyadream Oct 2013 #86
Dang....you have me in tears!!!! OneGrassRoot Oct 2013 #39
Hug you!!! calimary Oct 2013 #41
it's like you played "Let's Make a Deal" and you picked the right door rurallib Oct 2013 #42
Yeah! Seriously! calimary Oct 2013 #95
Wow!! BlancheSplanchnik Oct 2013 #43
Very happy for you! vankuria Oct 2013 #47
hugs to you calimary... handmade34 Oct 2013 #48
Amazing story! One question concerning medical histories . . . markpkessinger Oct 2013 #50
I doubt there are laws like that, having been on the other side pnwmom Oct 2013 #55
That is so cool. We are really happy for you. klyon Oct 2013 #51
Love you too, klyon! calimary Oct 2013 #96
Well you made me cry lunatica Oct 2013 #52
K&R. This is a very cool development.......nt Enthusiast Oct 2013 #53
Someday we're going to be on the other end of that kind of story. pnwmom Oct 2013 #54
happy for you calimary!!! Skittles Oct 2013 #56
"YOU are part of my family, too". Rebellious Republican Oct 2013 #57
congratulations!!!! my college roommate was adopted noiretextatique Oct 2013 #58
Thanks for sharing. Your joy is infectious. appacom Oct 2013 #60
Thank you for sharing... ScreamingMeemie Oct 2013 #61
Ahhhh, you made me tear up with happiness for you BanzaiBonnie Oct 2013 #62
Congratulations to you! DrewFlorida Oct 2013 #63
calimary, I'm so happy for you!! AmBlue Oct 2013 #64
calimary, soooo happy for you! SaveOurDemocracy Oct 2013 #66
amazing. Liberal_in_LA Oct 2013 #67
My DEAR Calimary! annabanana Oct 2013 #68
My first born was adopted out (I know just what you went through) Omaha Steve Oct 2013 #69
I sometimes take my big, raucous family for granted. Thank you for your insight. joanbarnes Oct 2013 #70
Hey, can I just say thank you to everybody here? calimary Oct 2013 #71
Thank you for sharing this wonderful, happy event in your life. LiberalAndProud Oct 2013 #72
(((HUG))) WilliamPitt Oct 2013 #73
What a great story greatlaurel Oct 2013 #74
Welcome to DU, greatlaurel! calimary Oct 2013 #92
Thanks and great to hear, calimary. elleng Oct 2013 #76
What a wonderful story! SheilaT Oct 2013 #77
AWESOME!!! IGoToDU Oct 2013 #78
Welcome to DU, IGoToDU! calimary Oct 2013 #97
what a wonderful story. i am so so happy for you. nt seabeyond Oct 2013 #79
Congratulations! me b zola Oct 2013 #80
Blessings. I'm so happy for you. Hekate Oct 2013 #81
Welcome to your new world... Ferretherder Oct 2013 #82
This was pure joy to read. aquart Oct 2013 #83
so very happy for you--thank you for sharing this beautiful news with your DU family niyad Oct 2013 #87
Congratulations to you! myrna minx Oct 2013 #88
Beautiful that it's worked out momrois Oct 2013 #89
So wonderful - I'm thrilled for you! Thanks for sharing it with us. polichick Oct 2013 #90
I am so truly happy for you! lucca18 Oct 2013 #91
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