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In reply to the discussion: I had a personally staggering, explosive weekend - in a good way. Wanted to share. Adoptees note. [View all]CoffeeCat
(24,411 posts)I'm an adoptee too, and I can only imagine how wonderful this is.
I am estranged from my adopted family--because my parents were horrendously abusive. So, really--I have no family. I have always been afraid to search, because I was afraid to upset my adoptive mother. I didn't want her to know that I was raised by wolves. It certainly wasn't her fault.
I imagine that she has passed on. My adoptive parents told me that she had other children. I imagine that I do have brothers and sisters out there.
It would be nice to find them, as my brothers and sisters have all disowned me, because I spoke out against the raging abuses in our family. I tried to help them, even offer to pay for therapy. They are all very messed up--eating disorders, suicide attempts, alcoholism, loads of denial.
I didn't mean to hijack your amazing news with my sobby story, but you've given me something to think about. I have two teenage daughters who have no grandparents (both on my husband's side have passed) and no uncles/aunts/cousins on my side. It would be lovely to expand their circle too!
I think it's terrific that you have found your siblings. You must feel like a completely different person with an expanded world! No matter how much you know yourself--when you find blood relatives like that--you learn more. Your world and your personal history is made bigger. And there's more love too! That's really amazing.
I am very happy for you, and I wish you nothing but the best with these newfound siblings and relatives.
Thanks for your post!