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Elder-caregivers

narnian60

(3,510 posts)

30. So true.

Reply to niyad (Reply #23)

Sat Sep 9, 2023, 12:48 PM

Sep 2023

Nightmare situation for all involved.

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I'm in complete despair [View all] ThoughtCriminal Sep 2023 OP

I'm so sorry happy feet Sep 2023 #1

Wow, that's a lot. bucolic_frolic Sep 2023 #2

I came as soon as he went to hospital ThoughtCriminal Sep 2023 #3

Resign. Jirel Sep 2023 #5

I hate to say this, but I agree. Resign - take care of yourself. erronis Sep 2023 #9

Good grief! Just wash your hands of your own father when he needs help the most, and leave Doodley Sep 2023 #15

Unless you have been there, or know soeone who has, you are speaking niyad Sep 2023 #23

This message was self-deleted by its author Doodley Sep 2023 #28

So true. narnian60 Sep 2023 #30

This is profoundly good advice. enough Sep 2023 #10

So all the love that the parent gives when a child needs help, love and support the most isn't Doodley Sep 2023 #14

See post 23. Curious, is it hard to breathe with the lack of oxygen at that niyad Sep 2023 #25

I think you may have misunderstood the situation. yardwork Oct 2023 #35

Good advice, but there's probably some resentment that the others are doing the heavy lifting Doodley Sep 2023 #13

I'm so sorry, but... Jirel Sep 2023 #4

Correct enough Sep 2023 #11

I agree, Adult Protective Services should be alerted... Trueblue Texan Sep 2023 #19

Not necessarily true re doctors not being able to release him if there is inadequate care. No Vested Interest Sep 2023 #32

Let me re-phrase... Trueblue Texan Sep 2023 #34

This message was self-deleted by its author No Vested Interest Sep 2023 #33

Wow. What a horrible mess. bullimiami Sep 2023 #6

I feel for the OP too, it's hard when it's your parent and you so want good outcomes bucolic_frolic Sep 2023 #8

You may have a friend in your corner RainCaster Sep 2023 #7

You say the other family members have been dealing with this. By that do Doodley Sep 2023 #12

Yes, they have been doing all those things ThoughtCriminal Sep 2023 #20

Yes, those pills may not be safe. He may be in pain and need those pills. Yes, he may be addicted. Doodley Sep 2023 #27

Don't know if this fits your situation, but there are online counseling services that Gaugamela Sep 2023 #16

You could try bringing him home for a nice long visit once he is done at the rehab facility -- just diva77 Sep 2023 #17

Been there. Really. but that's no help Easterncedar Sep 2023 #18

You have so much on your shoulders Wild blueberry Sep 2023 #21

Sounds like an incredibly difficult situation waterwatcher123 Sep 2023 #22

I can't help, but I do offer you both empathy and sympathy slightlv Sep 2023 #24

so sorry you are going thru this orleans Sep 2023 #26

It's especially tough when they are mentally sharp but with zero insight Warpy Sep 2023 #29

When you are home away from your family Marthe48 Sep 2023 #31

Shot in the dark here - but is your father a veteran? EmmaLee E Oct 2023 #36