What's Wrong With Boys, Luscious 'Lolitas' and Yummy Mummies?

[ismnotwasm]

17. A young women in nursing school was showing me the Dove "you're more beautiful than you think"

Commercial. (I bring up feminism as often as possible to my co-workers)

I told her that one irritates me, buts "lets watch it and Ill tell you why"

So we watched it. I acknowledged the discrepancies of actual appearance vs. real appearance. Then I asked her "why be beautiful at all"? I used some comments from this group to try to explain, that while aesthetics aren't wrong, what adds up to Beauty to women is compliance what men find --supposedly---sexually desirable.

Instead of women not wearing make up, I want to see men wearing it. I want to see less macho or men in black crap and more Edwardian type fashion for men. Instead of denying beauty, I want to broaden the perimeters and descriptions of what's beautiful, not just what's fuckable.

I didn't downplay the pressure to be attractive. She is attractive in the first place and doesn't feel the pain of others not so blessed. But she does feel the pressure of it. But she said she hated the dumb blonde characteristic, and was far more insecure than I realized once we got talking.

Excellent article!