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In reply to the discussion: PSA: No, Men, You Cannot Rape A Child Even If She Is Hot And Slutty And Only Says No Twice [View all]mythology
(9,527 posts)For example, in personal relationships does screaming at each other work better than sitting down and calmly talking an issue out?
That said, I'm not offended by this as a man, but mostly it's because I find the article to be insipid. Yes, the anecdotes she recounts are bad, but there's nothing in this that tells me the frequency of these sort of arguments working, or if that frequency is going up, going down or staying the same. That information would be helpful in determining the nature of the problem.
For an on point example:
The "Don't Be That Guy" campaign was first unveiled in 2010 and targeted alcohol-related assaults. The campaign has now expanded to include sexual assault of all types, including same-sex assault.
One of the newly designed posters shows two men sitting on a bed with one man's hand of the chest of the other. The text below reads "It's not sex...when he changes his mind."
According to the Globe and Mail the number of reported sexual assaults fell by 10 per cent last year in Vancouver, after the ads were featured around the city. It was the first time in several years that there was a drop in sexual assault activity.
http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/2012/12/01/edmonton-sexual-assault-awareness-campaign-dont-be-that-guy_n_2224228.html
Which of these has been proven to do something that reduced the number of reported rapes? Oh yes, not the one that is ranting and raving. Evidence, it isn't just for convicting rapists, it can be used to prevent rape too.
Ranting and raving feels good, but it's rarely productive.