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In reply to the discussion: I Look Down on Young Women With Husbands and Kids and I'm Not Sorry [View all]LibertyLover
(4,788 posts)but unfortunately I can't. Back when we were discussing adopting a child my husband and I determined that it made more economic sense for him to stop working and stay home with her and then go back when she went to school full time. Well, about a week later he came home and told me he'd quit his job. That was 13 years ago. When I begged him to find a job when she was 6 or 7 and I was having trouble paying the mortgage and the bills, he refused. When we lost the house and I had to declare bankruptcy he refused to find a job. When we moved from shitty rental to shitty rental because we didn't have enough money for a nice place, he refused to find a job. Finally he agreed to work as a cafeteria worker in the school system. That lasted 8 weeks. Then he quit. He got a temporary job for 3 weekends at the local Ren Faire a few years ago and was asked back for the full run the next year. On his second weekend he got into a fight with one of the parking people and was let go. Then he found out his knee will probably need to be replaced in the medium future and that he has diabetes. Added to that our daughter, now in middle school, plays an instrument and has to be taken to lessons and practices. Now whenever we discuss him getting a job, it's more a whine about how much he has to do and that he can't find time to get a job. I don't look down on stay-at-home moms, I envy the shit out of them.