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In reply to the discussion: I Look Down on Young Women With Husbands and Kids and I'm Not Sorry [View all]bravenak
(34,648 posts)It's exhausting. I decided to give staying at home a try four years ago, Sabrina. I'm not good at it.
My daughter is Autistic. She needs extensive therapy, physical, occupational, educational, and lots of self care support.
Just don't have children is a stupid thing to say to a woman with two children. Should I get in my time machine and have an abortion? I guess I just wasn't born psychic enough to know she'd have these extensive problems. I'll tell her to pull herself up by her bootstraps so that I can get some rest, since my job never ends and I'd like a few minutes to myself a few times a day just to plan the rest of my day.
I'm glad your mother enjoyed raising her children and would rather be home taking care of them than working.
Having a disabled child at home who you know will be living with you and needing your care until the day you die is a daunting task and may be different than what she faced. Try it, walk a few days in my shoes and then tell me how you're going to do that and save for the future at the same time.