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Tree-Hugger

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Thu Jan 16, 2014, 04:05 PM Jan 2014

Have you ever been punched in the face over and over and over again? [View all]

That's exactly what it's like being poor. It's getting a swift kick to the balls, or the gut, or a punch in the face - or all three - several times a day on a daily basis. For the poor, it's a constant stream of bad news. For a group that is constantly portrayed as "takers" they have high demands placed on their own wallets each day.

I've written here a bit about my family's struggles. They just keep getting worse. And I see it happening to struggling friends and acquaintances all around me. There's a constant theme in our lives. Among the steady stream of motivational Facebook memes about "Staying strong" and "thinking positive" is a cold harsh reality - just when you think you can't take anymore, you get hit again. Maybe I'm too young to remember - I'm only 35 - but I simply do not remember a time when it was this bad for so many. Never in my wildest dreams did I think this would be my life. I never thought I'd be raising children in poverty, rationing my food, eating leftover Halloween candy for breakfast, say no to a child who is hungry, begging for charity, and all of the other things that poor people do in their oh-so-glamorous (by teabagger, GOP, Christian Right standards).

Just today, we got a notice that our rent will be increasing from $1,078 per month to $1,122 per month. That is base rent and does not include any utilities or services. Will my husband get a raise at any of his three jobs? No. Will he get more hours? Nope. In fact, his hours were just cut at two of the jobs (the third has always been a low hour job). He asks, begs if I'm honest, for more hours and his bosses...oh, how they cry that they just can't give more hours because, you know, the economy is so bad and their company only took in a few billion last year and their CEO might have to lay off at least one chef. I am still unemployed and it doesn't look good for me at this point. Even so, I still haven't even made it to the waiting list for child care subsidy for my kids. Already today, my husband mentioned to a manager that our rent is increasing and he needs all the hours he can get. Advice? Just move somewhere cheaper. Because moving is free. Breaking a lease is free. Poor people obviously have amazing credit and can get great apartments for super cheap. Because super cheap housing exists. Right? Of course not....but this is the fantasy land of the affluent. People just don't get it. They lack perspective. My husband earns less than $8.00 at two jobs, less than $10.00 an hour at the other. Yet utility costs go up, gas prices increase, rent goes up, food costs go up, our food stamps got cut, car repair costs go up. Everything increases so companies make a profit while us little people just wait for the shit to roll to the bottom of the hill. Is it ever going to stop?

I'm told everyday to just pray, stay graceful, or put positive thoughts out to the Universe and welcome abundance in my life. Fuck that shit. As much as I do believe somewhat, fuck it. None of that is keep gas in the car and food on the table. And we're the bad guys. Being poor means we're vilified. It means I obviously don't work hard enough. My husband is obviously a loser because he lacks skills. We're moochers. My SNAP card means everyone else has the right to inspect my food choices and comment on them as they go on the conveyer belt at the grocery store. My son should have to work off his free crappy lunch at school. People assume we're in this place because we made poor choices. We.Did.Not. My husband lost a somewhat good job. It wasn't perfect, but he was making a bit more than he is now and we were doing fine. And we had a savings! A savings. He lost that job, we lived off our emergency fund. And that was it. Once money is gone, it's gone. We have no credit card debt. We don't have cable. We don't buy tech shit. No video game systems or iAnything. Our debt is student loans (which have actually been paid in full if you go by amount, but the interest rate makes sure you pay until you die) and medical debt. I'm still paying for a miscarriage I had in 2010. A dead baby and debt. We're here because of the lack of decent wages for people who work hard. Three jobs. In what world is it even moral for a man to work three jobs and not be able to support his family. Three mother fucking jobs, we still need government assistance, and we still can't make it. That's not okay! And politicians and corporations want us to have LESS. It's insane. And religious leaders tell us we need to be more godly or some shit and throw a prosperity bible our way. It's bullshit. It's a miracle that I'm even here. It really is.

I continue to rant about this to bring an everyday voice to this struggles. I know folks on DU understand this. Too many of us here understand this life. Too many of my friends understand it. We have to work hard to elect people who will raise the minimum raise. We have to work hard to topple the power that corporations have over this country. It's 2014 and it's a big year for elections. I have a gut-wrenching fear what another 2010-style teabaggy win would do to people like me. I don't want to see it happen.

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Kick JustAnotherGen Jan 2014 #1
Thanks for the kick Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #3
One idea that keeps coming to me is that if government won't act upaloopa Jan 2014 #2
We do this JustAnotherGen Jan 2014 #4
I agree one of the most fucked up things is our upaloopa Jan 2014 #5
The resentment is insane Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #41
My father used to say.. Sissyk Jan 2014 #45
That is a such a great perspective about giving. I will keep that one. nt GoneFishin Jan 2014 #97
Love this nt Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #101
My husband used to work at Wal-Mart Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #40
During the depression most newspapers printed upaloopa Jan 2014 #47
Yuck nt Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #50
It would be wonderful if... ReRe Jan 2014 #82
That would be a wonderful thing nt Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #102
Our food bank is run by local churches. raven mad Jan 2014 #64
Ours is independent Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #103
Absolutely! Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #12
LBJ's War On Poverty, which has been a thundering success for 50 years, is now a curse word Doctor_J Jan 2014 #118
Truth nt Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #121
Tree-Hugger, this is powerful writing. enough Jan 2014 #6
Thank you Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #14
What can we do to encourage you? Liberal Jesus Freak Jan 2014 #56
I will definitely share here Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #60
The others who have said this are right. kag Jan 2014 #58
Thank you Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #109
Atta girl! kag Jan 2014 #159
Speak to the editor of the paper. Perhaps he or she will allow you to write as "anonymous." MADem Jan 2014 #78
I will do that Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #107
Not telling you how to write (because you do it really well) but if you push points of MADem Jan 2014 #157
+1 It really is Matariki Jan 2014 #73
Right wing politicians know whats going on... busterbrown Jan 2014 #93
I think for some politicians it is more cynical than that. I think that keeping large swaths of GoneFishin Jan 2014 #98
It's a version of Stockholm syndrome Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #110
The constant stress of being poor, of not knowing redqueen Jan 2014 #7
i know this 30-something year old woman who's a biiiiig Ayn Rand fan. BlancheSplanchnik Jan 2014 #11
It's sad how easy it is to exploit people's selfishness, to their own detriment redqueen Jan 2014 #16
yeah...sucker born every minute.... BlancheSplanchnik Jan 2014 #18
I know someone like that, too Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #46
It's insane.... BlancheSplanchnik Jan 2014 #51
Yep, it's all a scam Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #53
When God Almighty tells you to vote Republican, merrily Jan 2014 #76
in the months running up to the bewsh enthronement, BlancheSplanchnik Jan 2014 #83
The first time that I saw Bush on TV announcing his candidacy, it was on the merrily Jan 2014 #86
woa! I didn't know about that part. BlancheSplanchnik Jan 2014 #88
When you saw Tim Russert announce merrily Jan 2014 #89
The first time Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #111
holy shit! BlancheSplanchnik Jan 2014 #117
I highly recommend Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #122
oh, we know what they do with a cardboard figure of PBO. BlancheSplanchnik Jan 2014 #123
Makes me nauseous nt Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #125
For years, Republicans have gone after America's youth at younger and younger ages. merrily Jan 2014 #119
It is frightening Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #124
Yes, but it would be less frightening (to me anyway), if merrily Jan 2014 #152
Apathy Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #155
Apathy at the DNC level? merrily Jan 2014 #156
You mentioned one issue I see as well Thav Jan 2014 #62
in my not very humble opinion, i think they swallow BlancheSplanchnik Jan 2014 #85
They worship the pastor Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #113
Supposedly, the pastor has been called to ministry by God and anointed by God merrily Jan 2014 #120
I've known people in these religions Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #147
I've been people in these religions. merrily Jan 2014 #151
Glad you made it out! Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #153
I was never in that cult, thank heaven. merrily Jan 2014 #158
If Jesus were here now Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #112
I have friends in the same Faux mode. They have been brainwashed. It's PROPAGANDA! The Wielding Truth Jan 2014 #116
Yes, the stress is very dangerous Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #19
It seems insane, but it is no accident. redqueen Jan 2014 #29
Definitely not Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #44
Thanks for the reminder JustAnotherGen Jan 2014 #70
That is what burns me up about all this. kag Jan 2014 #61
EXACTLY Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #133
In Massachusetts, the cops and RMV are merciless. Flatulo Jan 2014 #91
Ouch! Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #134
K&R... awoke_in_2003 Jan 2014 #8
Most definitely worse nt Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #21
..... BlancheSplanchnik Jan 2014 #9
They need to be deported to some other galaxy Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #22
yes we do.... BlancheSplanchnik Jan 2014 #28
Maybe there is a galaxy out there Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #43
Yes!!!!!! BlancheSplanchnik Jan 2014 #48
I was poor as a kid which was bad enough. Kingofalldems Jan 2014 #10
I hope it doesn't happen to my son Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #24
It shouldn't be an issue until puberty--be aware around that time. Kingofalldems Jan 2014 #39
I will. Thank you. nt Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #42
no George II Jan 2014 #13
Good nt Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #25
Thank You for Writing This cer7711 Jan 2014 #15
jeeezzzzz.....omg BlancheSplanchnik Jan 2014 #26
Thank You! cer7711 Jan 2014 #80
mostly, yeah....but there is a lot of diversity among liberals too. BlancheSplanchnik Jan 2014 #87
We have Wishadoo Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #149
Perfect! Thank you. cer7711 Jan 2014 #154
I am glad you are in a better job! Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #32
I Understand! cer7711 Jan 2014 #81
I was told to write porn Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #114
Kicked and Reccomended. stage left Jan 2014 #17
Thank you nt Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #33
I hope the teabaggers get stomped in 2014 as well as 2016. No Vested Interest Jan 2014 #72
Please keep on posting, and send this to your congressional delegation. LiberalEsto Jan 2014 #20
I have a big mouth Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #34
righteous rant... n/t ProdigalJunkMail Jan 2014 #23
Thank you nt Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #35
Great rant. russspeakeasy Jan 2014 #27
Thank you :) nt Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #36
Where do you live? Demo_Chris Jan 2014 #30
Southeastern PA nt Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #37
Ah. I had to leave Southeastern PA 30 years ago Matariki Jan 2014 #74
Yes, I would like them to answer that question. nt Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #126
A kick and a hug Hekate Jan 2014 #31
Thank you :) nt Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #38
K&R Sissyk Jan 2014 #49
Agreed Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #52
The US is sinking much like the Titanic did. Problem right now is, those on the RKP5637 Jan 2014 #54
This is the very sad truth Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #127
I don't get here often... Harry_Scrote Jan 2014 #55
That is valuable Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #128
Excuse me. I mis-spoke. stage left Jan 2014 #57
This is my hope, too Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #129
"2010-style teabaggy win". Millions living now and for years to come, per current and future policy. jtuck004 Jan 2014 #59
+1 nt Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #130
I hear you Prophet 451 Jan 2014 #63
Thank you Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #131
I can empathize. We are in the same boat. raven mad Jan 2014 #65
It's just not right? Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #132
Then you have the likes of Judge Judy looking down on the poor with contempt.... Spitfire of ATJ Jan 2014 #66
I could definitely have that! Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #135
I can picture her arguing with a decorator. Spitfire of ATJ Jan 2014 #140
Most likely Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #142
Best line in this great piece: pa28 Jan 2014 #67
Amen. cer7711 Jan 2014 #105
One problem I see first hand is that as the middle class sinks into poverty they are rhett o rick Jan 2014 #68
Divide and conquer. merrily Jan 2014 #75
+1 nt Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #136
I can't tell you how much your update needs for me. grantcart Jan 2014 #69
I will. :) nt Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #137
Don't give up shenmue Jan 2014 #71
Thank you. Your rant was perfect. Recommend. nt babylonsister Jan 2014 #77
The only way out of being poor is to have a lot of money. arcane1 Jan 2014 #79
k&r Liberal_in_LA Jan 2014 #84
KR El_Johns Jan 2014 #90
Talkin' 'bout a revolution... nikto Jan 2014 #92
Kicked and recommended a whole bunch... Enthusiast Jan 2014 #94
K&R Great Post Tree-Hugger! B Calm Jan 2014 #95
A big k&r! chervilant Jan 2014 #96
I'm on Wishadoo! Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #138
OneGrassRoot rocks!!! chervilant Jan 2014 #161
We can volunteer with her? Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #162
K&R ck4829 Jan 2014 #99
Righteous rant! JNelson6563 Jan 2014 #100
I hope your situation improves soon!!!! Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #139
The depression has not ended maindawg Jan 2014 #104
The gays make us poor Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #141
They feel like they need to protect themselves maindawg Jan 2014 #160
The rent and other things get raised treestar Jan 2014 #106
Food, gas, electricity, rent Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #143
k and r-- I wish I could make those arrogant, ignorant 1%ers HAVE to read things like your post, niyad Jan 2014 #108
I wish for a Scrooge-type moment Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #144
"Work and pray . . ." another_liberal Jan 2014 #115
And I'm doubly screwed Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #145
It's doubtful we'll get some anyway . . . another_liberal Jan 2014 #148
+1 nt Tree-Hugger Jan 2014 #150
Joe Hill Bragi Jan 2014 #163
The people need a thousand more just like him. another_liberal Jan 2014 #164
KnR. nt tblue37 Jan 2014 #146
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