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In reply to the discussion: A Fitting Final Gift From Jimmy Carter [View all]FirstLight
(13,395 posts)We never got to the hospice stage, Mom's stroke was so dibilitating that we had to make the decision to let her go, make her comfortable etc. It still took her 11 days to finally be at rest. (It was horrible having that conversation with the Dr and family in her room, she was still conscious and coherent, holding my hand. When the Dr suggested a feeding tube, she squeezed my hand so tight and visibly shook her head at me... I'm crying remembering it)
Dad's dementia spiraled after that, he was just lost without her. AFtter 60 years of marriage, I can't imagine. They were going to move him into hospice when his gallbaldder failed...he went septic before they could do anything. we spent the last days holding hands with eachother and telling jokes and stories so he could hear how wonderful our lives were because of our parents. We were so lucky to have parents that truly loved eachother...
They died exactly one year, and one day apart...by 12 hours...