Welcome to DU! The truly grassroots left-of-center political community where regular people, not algorithms, drive the discussions and set the standards. Join the community: Create a free account Support DU (and get rid of ads!): Become a Star Member Latest Breaking News General Discussion The DU Lounge All Forums Issue Forums Culture Forums Alliance Forums Region Forums Support Forums Help & Search

moriah

(8,312 posts)
42. And as children age, the "best parent" may change.
Thu Nov 8, 2012, 09:14 PM
Nov 2012

If a couple divorces while a mother is still breastfeeding, I can see why there would be a presumption that the child should remain with the mother. But then let's say, 6 years down the road, the mother is letting the child be babysat by the TV and video games because she doesn't often take her son to the park to let him run his energy out... it might be time that the father would be the best parent, even if the mother was originally the best choice for the child.

My personal opinion -- whichever home is the best for the child is the one that should be chosen, but I also think that parents ought to work together more and develop their own workable custody arrangements, so that they aren't having to fight it out in court. It's better for the kids to see their parents working together to make sure they're taken care of than it is for them to see their parents fighting over them.

Oh, I thought it was a movement to give fathers marybourg Nov 2012 #1
LOL DURHAM D Nov 2012 #8
This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague Nov 2012 #2
Talk about a biased poll wording. MotherPetrie Nov 2012 #3
I don't know enough about the movement so I picked other Marrah_G Nov 2012 #4
I raised Go Vols Nov 2012 #5
I Was A Custodial Father The River Nov 2012 #6
Election season is officially over leftstreet Nov 2012 #7
i choose other. i do not support MRA. i do support father rights and fight for it equally seabeyond Nov 2012 #9
LOL! Fantastic push polling. cali Nov 2012 #10
As long as the father in question didn't rape the mother which resulted in a pregnancy LynneSin Nov 2012 #11
and isnt it sad we have to make this clarification. i think that says a hell of a lot. yes... nt seabeyond Nov 2012 #14
I know LynneSin Nov 2012 #20
The so-called men's movement is pretty ugly stuff. cali Nov 2012 #26
You said - DURHAM D Nov 2012 #12
+1000. And I will never support any movement to give parents custody based on their gender... Violet_Crumble Nov 2012 #43
I support equal protection under law. nt msanthrope Nov 2012 #13
+1. nt DevonRex Nov 2012 #29
me too liberal_at_heart Nov 2012 #35
Custody shouldn't be determined by gender LadyHawkAZ Nov 2012 #15
I believe fathers should be much more involved with parenting. redqueen Nov 2012 #16
lots of good info at www.fathersandfamilies.org grasswire Nov 2012 #17
I think it's very complicated blue_heron Nov 2012 #18
i did vote yes, but changed to other PowerToThePeople Nov 2012 #19
I support equal rights for both parents. I'm suspicious of "father's rights" movement, however. HuckleB Nov 2012 #21
"Hate your ex all you want, but don't spew it on your kids." +100 n/t moriah Nov 2012 #39
Here is some reading on this "movement" cali Nov 2012 #22
There are too many assholes involved Taverner Nov 2012 #32
Absolutely. Le Taz Hot Nov 2012 #23
And as children age, the "best parent" may change. moriah Nov 2012 #42
On paper, yes Blue_Tires Nov 2012 #24
This is true Taverner Nov 2012 #31
These groups are like groups for white rights. cali Nov 2012 #25
I used to think that way but Johonny Nov 2012 #28
Yes there are people with an axe to grind involved at times Taverner Nov 2012 #33
my brother in law was basically being screwed in the courts liberal_at_heart Nov 2012 #34
As long as there's no history of domestic violence, yes... nt Comrade_McKenzie Nov 2012 #27
Agree 100% Taverner Nov 2012 #30
do support legal rights of fathers, do not support some of the organizations involved liberal_at_heart Nov 2012 #36
I support The ERA. NT bemildred Nov 2012 #37
I do too - if the ERA had passed in the 70s.... Taverner Nov 2012 #41
Yep. I just think that's the right way to do it, same rules for everybody. bemildred Nov 2012 #44
As others have said, the concept yes, but not the organized movement Hippo_Tron Nov 2012 #38
OK - the issue - not the "movement" Taverner Nov 2012 #40
Fighting for Fathers to be there for their children Joseph Sparacino Nov 2012 #45
Welcome to DU! hrmjustin Nov 2012 #46
Agreed. Kids need a village, but if they have a dad, they need him Taverner Nov 2012 #47
Latest Discussions»General Discussion»Do you support the Father...»Reply #42