this whole thing has been much on my mind lately as well.
in particular i have been ruminating on recent advances is evolutionary psychology.
our dear judilynn posted a link to an article about- the survival of the friendliest. a new theory. it compared facial/structural changes in early humans and in dogs.
they found a very high correlation in the features, and also in the advance of human tribes that was happening concurrently.
iow, we survived and excelled because we became domesticated.
but a deeper discussion was in what it means to be domesticated. basically, it means that the potential for violence is maintained, but also controlled.
if your dog bites you, it flunks the first round of selection.
but if it fails to bite an intruder, it equally fails.
then i look around, and see that violence is rampant. we are not really domesticated any more.
i know that the road back from that is to take the violent out of the gene pool, out of control of others, but also to flood the zone w love and acceptance.
i feel i have made some leaps in that dept myself of late.
i have a trumpkin in my life, so these ruminations are not academic to me.
tbh, it has been an amazing ride. she is right. acceptance is key. as is trust.
the reward so far have been many.
i hope many can find this place.
so good of you to have helped dr brandi put out all this great info/advice.
i need to go back and read the first. i saw it, but declined to read it because it would have made steam come out of my ears not to be able to reply at the time.
take care friend.
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