FUUUUUUCKK!
My mother was diagnosed with Parkinson’s summer of ‘19. Personally, I think it’s Louis Body dementia with Parkinsonion symptoms. She’s fucking rocketing down the dementia hill, man.
Today, I’m cooking dinner and she calls me upstairs. The toilet overflowed. I get the wet/dry vac and get to it, dig? Get it dry enough to go in and I find this....
And of fucking course, she didn’t do it. Yeah, just me n her here but “someone” must have done it. It’s always fucking “someone” but not her. I’ll tell you this, if I ever find “someone’ in this house, “someone” is being dragged to the woodshed and getting his ass kicked. Fuck!
I was much more calm when dealing with her even though I was feeling white hot anger at the moment....
Just needed to vent. Thanks DU.
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Means more than you know! I think I feel your vibes coming on, although, could be the weed. 
Seriously, though. Thank you. 
But there’s times where it’s being spread over too much toast, you dig? I’m doing my best not to blow up, brother. I was on the edge with this one. Marching through the house mumbling “Jesus fucking Christ. The toilet overflowed, oh you think. Etc.” Dude, I almost lost my shit. Hence the venting post.
you will smile about this one day!!
I took care of my dad (dementia) for his last few years. .
he was absolutely convinced that my partner had taken his long underwear and he was upset
he found his way down to the local car dealer and wrote a check (he still had his checkbook- big mistake) for a new Ford Escape and had the salesman drive it home for him
so many stories we have to remember him by 
You could be thankful she didn't burn down the house. Sounds like "proofing" the house is in order. My mom kind of crashed into dementia real hard about 20 months ago and it was hard to keep her from being hurt at home so we had put her in assisted living. She died from covid on 12/31... a little over two weeks ago.
The dementia is the hardest part, you can also look into hospice care that is not end of life care but someone who comes and gives you a hand in caring for your mom and help you with ideas on how to deal with some of these little nightmares, they are two separate services. It might help to look into that. It becomes too much to deal with after a time and you are only qualified for so much of the care she needs. Also, memory care is something you might consider.
Caring for an elder parent is hard and you should remember to not beat yourself into the ground trying to do it all yourself. You have to take care of yourself too, dear.
I had no idea! I am so sorry! I’m a shit online friend. I am so sorry to hear! Oh man. My deepest condolences, sister. I’m so sorry.
It's okay. Really. I didn't really announce it here so don't feel like you missed it. She was in her nineties and barely with us at that point.
She had a few lucid moments with my sisters in the last few weeks where she said that she wanted go and they told her it was okay if she was ready. Then a couple days before xmas she tested positive for the virus. We knew it would kill her, so we made sure she was not suffering through medication. It was kind of a blessing in that she was ready to go and might have lived for years being horribly miserable. It feels better to know she isn't suffering anymore. She was declining for ten years and two of my sisters were caring for her much of that time. And we all learned that there comes a point when family cannot provide the care and safety an aging parent requires.
Just remember to take care of yourself too, it's not being selfish, it's making sure your needs are also met because what you are doing is fucking hard in every way imaginable and you can't take care of others if you are not well.
You made me cry man!
Your words spoke to me soul. Thank you!
You'll be okay.
If you have a place where you can go, I suggest a cornfield or something, and just yell at the top of your lungs for a moment, would be helpful. Give yourself a release valve, it helps.
empathize. Feel free to vent whenever you need.
