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mzteris

(16,232 posts)
Sun Feb 23, 2014, 02:20 PM Feb 2014

Something to know about

If you've never found yourself, or known first hand, of a woman in this position, it probably never occurred to you that someone's "pet" might be one of the things holding them with an abuser.

". . . Research shows that up to 48% of domestic abuse victims delay leaving an abusive relationship because they have no safe place for their animals. Countless victims stay with their abuser to protect their beloved animals. . . "

Sheltering Animals of Abuse Victims http://www.saavprogram.org/

Strengthen the ability of victims to leave abusive relationships by reducing barriers to safety.

Act as a change agent to create conditions in which victims and their animals are safe and free from abuse.

Advocate for the safety of animals at risk of abuse.

Validate the bond between domestic abuse victims, their children, and their animals.

The abuser might threaten the life of a beloved pet of the woman or children. Even if they don't threaten the pet, it's hard to walk away from a "member of the family" - especially if that "member" can't fend for themselves, has provided comfort, is a loyal companion. You can't stay, but you can't leave them with the monster either . . . And most women's shelter will NOT take pets.

This is a very interesting program. I don't know if it exists anywhere else in some form, but I just heard about it and wanted to share. Maybe you can generate some interest in your community.


I'm Interested In Starting A Program Like Yours, Where Do I Start?

We are pleased to provide information to start-up nonprofits or other individuals interested in starting a sheltering program. Additionally, our volunteers are available to speak on the link between domestic abuse and animal cruelty and other similar topics. In addition to providing shelter services, we also hope to inspire others to make a difference in their own community and we are happy to serve as a resource to facilitate shelter programs in other communities. Please email us any time for assistance, use the contact form. Email: info@saavprogram.org

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Something to know about (Original Post) mzteris Feb 2014 OP
Yes. We think of the kids being a deterrent to leaving, but heavens, the pets... hlthe2b Feb 2014 #1
Thank you so much for this. CrispyQ Feb 2014 #2
Excellent information! ismnotwasm Feb 2014 #3
K&R RBStevens Feb 2014 #4
This is very interesting indeed. Jackpine Radical Feb 2014 #5
I think I'll call the womens sorefeet Feb 2014 #6
Those who would abuse a person... discntnt_irny_srcsm Feb 2014 #7
Thank you for posting this. It is a huge problem for many women. MadrasT Feb 2014 #8

hlthe2b

(102,408 posts)
1. Yes. We think of the kids being a deterrent to leaving, but heavens, the pets...
Sun Feb 23, 2014, 02:30 PM
Feb 2014

Maybe not always obvious, but I could never leave mine behind and heaven knows we have a shortage of pet-friendly housing in this country, much less shelters.

Great program.

 

RBStevens

(227 posts)
4. K&R
Sun Feb 23, 2014, 03:25 PM
Feb 2014

As is well known abusers often kill the abused animal friend/s in retaliation. Often it's the first step in the escalation of deadly violence against the abused.

Jackpine Radical

(45,274 posts)
5. This is very interesting indeed.
Sun Feb 23, 2014, 03:35 PM
Feb 2014

I'll bring it up with my UU pastor next time I see her. There is quite a hotbed of pet lovers among us, and there has been talk of a "pet support group" for members who become unable to care for their pets. This would fit in wonderfully, especially given the church's interest in assisting a women's residential 12-step program.

sorefeet

(1,241 posts)
6. I think I'll call the womens
Sun Feb 23, 2014, 04:28 PM
Feb 2014

shelter tomorrow and see if they have this or have heard of it. I have been thinking about fostering a dog because the animal shelters are getting full. This sounds like a great program.

discntnt_irny_srcsm

(18,482 posts)
7. Those who would abuse a person...
Sun Feb 23, 2014, 09:40 PM
Feb 2014

...would not hesitate to harm a pet.

Why are people so possessive, evil and controlling? There's a gene we could do without.

MadrasT

(7,237 posts)
8. Thank you for posting this. It is a huge problem for many women.
Sun Feb 23, 2014, 09:49 PM
Feb 2014

(and their pets)

I hope to be involved with helping this situation at some point in the future and I appreciate this information very much.

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