The Gift Of Fear

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“It is understandable that the perspectives of men and women on safety are so different--men and women live in different worlds...at core, men are afraid women will laugh at them, while at core, women are afraid men will kill them.”
― Gavin de Becker, The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence

This book is incredible and I recommend it. --Especially to women who has had "funny feelings" about certain men but felt guilty about it. This book defends your intuition and recommends that you listen to it. After all, your intuition is your best ally, and will always have your best interest at heart.

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1. This is one of the best books I ever read. I have given it to a few men, who

ended up very educated on how women see safety. The book is not about women and men, but about why we all should listen to the inner voice (which manifests as an uneasy feeling) when our inner voice speaks. It is telling us that there is danger, and we need to listen.

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2. Yes, precisely! I love the book, too.

What I've noticed is that people are often ridiculed or shamed for listening to that inner voice. They forget that the uneasy feeling is a part of our old instincts, and is there for a reason. Once you begin to listen to your instincts when it comes to judging whether people are trustworthy/safe, you actually feel more at peace. (At least that's my experience.)