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As a lover of leggings, I feel for Mattei, and for any student who now has to go and spend money that their family might not have in order to adhere to the dress code. But I also want to make it clear that what this school is doing is inducting these kids into rape culture. By declaring that women are responsible for controlling mens behaviour, the school is sending the message loud and clear: if men are distracted by you, or worse, its your fault for not dressing the way youre supposed to.
Thats rape culture. To their credit, some of the parents see it that way, too.
Some parents were bothered by this because they said it sends the wrong messages to girls. It is not our girls fault that these boys have quote raging hormones they cant control, said Lisa Simond, a parent of a student.
Simond is exactly right. If you want to make a school a safe, productive learning environment for all your students, start by teaching them to respect each others bodies. Teach them to do that regardless of what their peers are wearing.
This bullshit dress code does just the opposite: it teaches boys that there are certain circumstances under which they dont have to respect their classmates bodies and boundaries. And it teaches them that if god forbid they violate those boundaries, they wont be held fully responsible: itll be her fault for wearing yoga pants, or a belly shirt, or for drinking too much, or for walking alone, or for insert violation here. Finally, it teaches them that you just dont expect that much of them. You dont expect them to be able to control themselves, to treat their girl friends like human beings, to ignore distractions and focus on learning.
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We have to end the idea that boys and men are simply unable to control themselves.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)behavior.
HEY MEN... you gonna fuckin go with boys so fuckin out of control cause they have such god damn raging hormones that they cannot do shit.... in life? really?
or you gonna cheer this insult to every boy because it gives you tingles up the legs on what a man really is? and you talk about feminist insulting you men and your manhood?
cause i am getting really pissed that all we can say about our teenage boys, is their "raging hormones" and totally pretend like a girl is a fuckin sexual.
really?
Triana
(22,666 posts)disparaging way ie: "hysterical". When males are said to have them, it's done in a "oh he can't control that" way and/or considered "manly" or just something we all have to accept when we're told he raped because some wiley vixen tempted him in his delicate state.
IntereSTINK double-standard.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)this is. it is glaringly obvious the void of male voice. and then we see how much of our culture... even our fuckin progressive culture, rewards this conditioning, mentality, excuse.
Triana
(22,666 posts)These boys are taught by society and their parents that they don't *have* to control themselves - because they're male - and society will blame, punish and exert more control over someone else for / because of their behavior. But they will never be asked to take responsibility for or control their own behavior. And they know it. If they refuse to control themselves and rape someone (it's a CHOICE, not something they "can't" control), the person they raped will be said to have "asked for it" because...whatever.
I get so SICK of hearing: "well she shouldn't have been there"..."well she shouldn't have been drinking"..."well she shouldn't have been at that party"..."well she shouldn't have been out alone at night"..."well she shouldn't have been wearing that."
It's always "she shouldn't have...something".
But what we never hear is: HE SHOULDN'T HAVE RAPED HER.
Toni Morrison puts it well: