An open letter to myself about being a man

[ismnotwasm]

Dear Me,

Pardon the profanity, but it’s time that you got your shit together.

Yeah, yeah, yeah . . . as the father of three girls, raised by a kick-ass mother and always surrounded by powerful women, you have always fancied yourself a fairly liberated male and one of the “good” guys.

Blah. Blah. Blah. Blah. Blah.

Men have been raising daughters and strong women and have been raising boys since time began. That does not give you a pass. Seeing the world through their eyes may have taught you much, but if you have been watching the news and have been paying attention to your own internal reactions to conversations about rape, gender and maleness, you know that you and many men and women today still have work to do.

Again it’s time. [see opening sentence]

So here is what I have done for you. I have put together a list of things to remember when it comes being male today. I wish there was a “Be a good man!” app or that there was this magic list that, when followed, would make you the perfect dude, but alas you’ll have to muddle through just like the rest of us. Deal with it.

So in no particular order, here are a few challenges for you — Bruce.

http://reyes-chow.com/2013/03/an-open-letter-to-myself-about-being-a-man/

[Gravitycollapse]

1. Part of feminism is the inherent questioning of the "masculine" narrative.

So #2 is kind of a flawed statement.

[ismnotwasm]

2. He's not saying he's a feminist

He's questioning his privilege. Rare enough.

[seabeyond]

4. i disagee. i think it may be the challenging conditioning of how society creates....

but, i absolutely do not think it is challenging the authentic masculinity. i do not think authentic masculinity is challenging to, or harmful to women and womens issues.

[seabeyond]

3. ya. it really is not so hard. and it is not like we all do not get this. so when we see men

proclaim that they are for women, but ignore this and make it that much harder, they wonder why their voice means absolutely nothing. why we are not fooled.

i am so fuckin tired of a pretend world that only causes so much more problems. self dishonesty.