History of Feminism
Related: About this forumWhat you hear on the Internet about sexism
"Mr Oh my god calm down it was a joke Everyone knows if you tack lol onto the end of a sentence, no one can get mad at you because you were being hilarious, and if anyone gets offended theyre being an uptight prick. You truly are the George Carlin
of our time.
Miss Validator. Im a girl, and I think this is HILARIOUS. Calm down feminists! Watch as everyone in the thread uses her as yet another reason why you are stupid and oversensitive and they are hilarious and right. May also apologise for her gender in a cosmic blast of internalised misogyny.
Mr I refuse to believe this happens. He would never cat call or rape and isnt sexist at all and thinks gender roles are outmoded. Therefore, he thinks, everyone else thinks just like me too. Cant line up womens experiences of sexism with his own worldview, so dismisses everything they say,demanding proof. Sees no irony in this.
Mr actually youve got this the wrong way round. Silly you! This is looks, feels, smells and tastes like misogyny but is actually misandry. Dont worry, easy mistake to make, anyone could have done it. Just dont say Im wrong or Ill link you to pages explaining why you have female privilege and call you an ignorant b***h. "
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt219676.html
Sound familiar?
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)Helen Reddy
(998 posts)Kick and Rec.!
BainsBane
(53,035 posts)I find myself wondering what prompts these women to side with men against sexism. Then I wonder if these are the same women we have all met in our lives who just don't like other women. In any group conversation, they direct all their attention toward men, belittle other women, and have few if any female friends.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)of whomever. even if it is selling out, or not their job to be "friends" but a parent.
BainsBane
(53,035 posts)not women, or so it seems.
seabeyond
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it put it into wonderful perspective for me.
BainsBane
(53,035 posts)that these same women congregate in the men's group. Wow. My head is spinning.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)Because all these situations have made me wonder why is there no sense of female sisterhood, no sense of women speaking up for other women? Where is all the conflict and contention coming from? Recently, in an interview with the Observer, Gloria Steinem explained her thoughts on why people so often complain that groups of women can be catty, do women compete for the favors of men? Yes. Theyve spent 5,000 years competing. It is true of any subordinated group. But once you get a sense of possibilities and shared experience, it becomes the most powerful community. I see a form of it when I travel. Ill be walking through an airport, say, and my plane will be four hours late, and a woman cleaner will say: Here, take these magazines Ive collected, or: When Im tired, I sleep in the closet over there. Would you like to use it? Its the same with the flight attendants. Its a floating community.
So it seems that women, just as other oppressed groups, often perpetuate the same prejudicial thoughts or behavior that theyve experienced in a way to separate themselves from the oppressed group and be accepted as part of the positive majority. Competition is formed in order to be ingratiated to those in positions of power or those seen as possessing positive characteristics. And yet, Steinem explains, when an opportunity is created for the sharing of experiences, a sense of community emerges. A sense of sisterhood, if you will.
I admit, Ive had my own problems with the notion of sisterhood. It always seemed like this sense of camaraderie between women was based upon some opposition to men (granted that was probably a very ill conceived notion of sisterhood but its the one I understood). But in thinking about it now this sense of sisterhood is important in that it should lead us to a greater sense of community, which in turn leads us to a better understanding of the oneness of humanity as a whole. It might just be a first step. If women can see other women as more than just these characteristics assigned to them by culture and tradition then we can use this same outlook towards men.
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But in response to this pattern of behavior, of underestimating and insulting women, so endemic to our culture and perpetuated by both men and women, and by social structures and institutions, lets promote this idea of sisterhood (men can promote it too!). Lets promote this idea that groups of women as well as individual women arent dramatic, catty, manipulative gossips. They are human beings endowed with the capacity to love, reason, understand, acquire knowledge and serve their community. Lets move beyond stereotypical tropes that have been perpetuated and supported by years of subjugation, lets question cultural norms of thought and behavior, and lets support each other in the process, as we move towards an understanding of the oneness of humanity.
http://engenderingequality.wordpress.com/2011/11/14/sisterhood/
BainsBane
(53,035 posts)That's very helpful.
Helen Reddy
(998 posts)smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)My wife wrote a law school thesis on women who uphold the patriarchy. Unfortunately, I'm the one who's here to discuss it.
hlthe2b
(102,285 posts)I doubt at least one or two of these are even female, but on an anonymous internet site, how can one know? Regardless, it isn't that women can not disagree, but when one of these "Miss Validators" eagerly steps forward to diminish the feelings of the majority of women by "granting" permission for blatant misogyny--well, my cup of contempt runneth over.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)to tell us that sexist slurs do not exist.
it really just makes me laugh. so much of the arguments make me laugh.
and yes. posters are anonymous. we hear often from MRA that they use female roles just for this. it is not an unknown.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)Mr *totally unrelated point*.
Mr Im so not the problem here. Hello ladies. ... STOP DOING THINGS I DONT LIKE!
that is funny bains. and yes. we hear it all. repeatedly.
redqueen
(115,103 posts)seabeyond
(110,159 posts)MadrasT
(7,237 posts)All hell breaks loose.
For reals.
It's surreal.
ismnotwasm
(41,988 posts)I float serenely and comfortably on my own methane gas, you bitter, bitter women. There's only 5 or 6 of you, after all.....
sufrommich
(22,871 posts)Yeah, I've seen every one of these examples on DU.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)those oppressed, right?
i do not know why so many hold him up as the one to listen to.
ismnotwasm
(41,988 posts)Right before his 'rape can be funny skit' he went into musings about war, guns and and penis size. Don't hear about that one do we? Carlin was talented, he was appalled at those who were entitled and self serving. I saw skits later in his life that sounded bitter, and I thought 'what happened'.? He would have made a great feminist advocate, but his sexism was entrenched and his time was past. His philosophy was words have only the power society gives them, and one word shouldn't have power over another. Which is true, but how do you change society? With OTHER words. Or bloody revolution.
I think he would have preferred revolution.