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We dont talk honestly enough about what its like being a teen girl. If we did talk about it, what it was like for us, perhaps we wouldnt be so harsh on them. Perhaps we wouldnt throw our hands up in the air and exclaim oh, teen girls, theyre so difficult! Perhaps they wouldnt be so scary. Perhaps wed see their lives for the small and large violations theyre often made up of; and what those violations do.
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I experienced quite a lot of the things she described. Is it similar to anyone else's experience of what it is/was like to be a 12 year old girl?
(I was 12 in 1977. I don't know what it is like being a 12 year old girl now but it seems like it would be even harder to me because the pressure for women to be sexxxxxxxy seems much more intense now.)
ChairmanAgnostic
(28,017 posts)where 4-6 yr olds are dressed in gowns, bathing suits, and made up like adults?
I think that borders on child abuse.
MadrasT
(7,237 posts)redqueen
(115,103 posts)And people who watch those shows are just enabling it.
yesphan
(1,588 posts)It was very creepy and made me feel angry towards the parents.
I don't understand how this kind of thing is now accepted and mainstream.
redqueen
(115,103 posts)And OMG yes, I identify for sure, and I would wager that many women do.
ismnotwasm
(42,014 posts)At a party. I was drunk. (I didn't go to school much) that caused a certain amount of teasing, what we would call bullying today. My body was certainly part of the discussion.
I responded by calling the origin of the problem "no dick Rick" which did nothing to enhance his status. Since I never had the experience of 'normal' teenage girls, I ran away, lived on the streets etc. while I can tell horrific stories, that's probably the one that's closest to 'normal'
I never was any good at taking any shit. Talking it maybe.
redqueen
(115,103 posts)And when I was punished by the woman who taught the class for my outspoken negative reaction, while the boy was unpunished, I learned an important lesson.
I was 18 when I decided to dress up in a mini skirt and heels to go to a hard rock concert. I was treated like I had a 'grope me' sign around my neck. Another important lesson learned.
boston bean
(36,223 posts)We were at our desks before school actually started.
My friend Henry and I were goofing around. We were both lifting our shirts.
The teacher came in. I got yelled at and sent to the principals office.
Henry didn't receive the same treatment.
I remember being so embarassed and didn't even know why I felt that way.
Funny how you can remember these things sometimes......
redqueen
(115,103 posts)I imagine we could fill a thread with all of our experiences... they are all too frequent.
But it seems like these ones, the ones in which some larger impression is made, are the ones most vividly remembered.
boston bean
(36,223 posts)But it was the first time I was made to conform to a role.
And at the time, I didn't even know it. I was made to feel shame.
redqueen
(115,103 posts)As she said they just serve as reminders of our place in society.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)empathize. create discussion and dialogue. it is really not that challenging.
i had many growing up. even older i have experience many.
i was at a company party a couple years ago. my husbands company. i didnt know anyone. a group of us outside chatting, drinking. i heard a man over me saying something, bigger smaller. i was listening to someone else.
i glance up and he had gotten to me.
big boobs. i look down at my boobs, to see what he is talking about. look up at him. down at his crotch. back up to his eyes. frown. and say.... little dick.
wtf????
i dont know these people. fuck him.
this was perfectly stated. and so true. said it in a way that better explains what we talk about.