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Why was Hillary fashionably tardy after the break? (Original Post) hootinholler Dec 2015 OP
What happened? I missed it. reformist2 Dec 2015 #1
Post removed Post removed Dec 2015 #2
that is repulsive. bettyellen Dec 2015 #7
This message was self-deleted by its author zigby Dec 2015 #25
That's not the only time that poster has had these kind of remarks about Hillary and gotten Cha Dec 2015 #44
Did your grandchildren take over your account? Starry Messenger Dec 2015 #14
Your posts suck tonight. Codeine Dec 2015 #20
Oh, please grow up? Hepburn Dec 2015 #21
Yes you should. n/t JTFrog Dec 2015 #22
I'm not the one making bathroom jokes Codeine Dec 2015 #24
You got it! Hal Bent Dec 2015 #92
Gotta side with the others on that. That was a needless and ignorant jibe Scootaloo Dec 2015 #34
Really petty and mean spirited.. again. you don't learn Cha Dec 2015 #45
Hillary's bathroom break pnwmom Dec 2015 #151
Because madamesilverspurs Dec 2015 #3
People have heard of "institutionalized racism." This was "institutionalized sexism." pnwmom Dec 2015 #40
If you're really claiming this was sexism, then you have to agree that you're being ageist. Quackers Dec 2015 #101
I would be defending him, too, if he'd made it back a couple minutes late. pnwmom Dec 2015 #103
How long was the debate? treestar Dec 2015 #118
It was than two hours, and they left during a commercial break. Clinton was about 15 seconds late. George II Dec 2015 #127
Didn't know that. For some reason thought it was 40 minutes. treestar Dec 2015 #154
I have a friend, younger than me, that can only last an hour between trips.... George II Dec 2015 #158
Most people aren't standing on a national stage talking for more than two hours, pnwmom Dec 2015 #153
OK thanks treestar Dec 2015 #156
Are you serious? JaneyVee Dec 2015 #4
It takes women a bit longer to get in madaboutharry Dec 2015 #5
Exactly, women don't use a urinal and she washed her hands. Thinkingabout Dec 2015 #10
You must know her well. 840high Dec 2015 #56
Bathroom studies also show almost all women wash their hands pnwmom Dec 2015 #61
I didn't ask you. 840high Dec 2015 #71
You didn't ask anybody anything. You made a comment on a public board. pnwmom Dec 2015 #72
More of a snark, huh. Thinkingabout Dec 2015 #112
I wish I could find it, a while back I read a study that found that about 80% of men... George II Dec 2015 #159
If you are a man then you may not know rest room habits of Thinkingabout Dec 2015 #111
Your inferences seem irrational. LanternWaste Jan 2016 #164
Bathroom line. Starry Messenger Dec 2015 #6
That was really disrespectful on their part, esp freeplessinseattle Dec 2015 #11
I'm not liking this panel or the format. Starry Messenger Dec 2015 #13
The moderators were horrible, and they seemed to intentionally lock O'Malley out of most of it. George II Dec 2015 #128
Extremely disrespectful. n/t pnwmom Dec 2015 #41
Exactly. That was nasty of them. n/t pnwmom Dec 2015 #38
It takes we ladies, especially we older ones, a little longer. MoonRiver Dec 2015 #8
It takes all women longer. We can't just whip it out over a urinal. pnwmom Dec 2015 #43
I think she had to go the bathroom. bigwillq Dec 2015 #9
There was a LINE. MADem Dec 2015 #12
Wouldn't it have been fairly easy to add a 30 second nc4bo Dec 2015 #15
You would think so Hekate Dec 2015 #23
ABC sucks. nt nc4bo Dec 2015 #26
She was Skyping with her granddaughter. DURHAM D Dec 2015 #16
I said dropped a deuce Dem2 Dec 2015 #17
This message was self-deleted by its author JTFrog Dec 2015 #130
Indeed Dem2 Dec 2015 #131
This message was self-deleted by its author JTFrog Dec 2015 #133
I posted as a joke and Dem2 Dec 2015 #134
This message was self-deleted by its author JTFrog Dec 2015 #135
I am on your side and was last night Dem2 Dec 2015 #136
This message was self-deleted by its author JTFrog Dec 2015 #137
You missed the point Dem2 Dec 2015 #138
This message was self-deleted by its author JTFrog Dec 2015 #140
Eh, people actually do those things you know - it's a normal bodily function Dem2 Dec 2015 #141
Fucking disgusting. Manny needs company. nt LexVegas Dec 2015 #18
No need to threaten people. senz Dec 2015 #35
This message was self-deleted by its author JTFrog Dec 2015 #129
He sure does. mwrguy Dec 2015 #148
Seriously. The moderators were RUDE not to wait for the lady. Hekate Dec 2015 #19
From what I've heard the abc mods sucked in general .. why would they be smart enough to Cha Dec 2015 #48
If men had to do their business like BlueMTexpat Dec 2015 #110
Thanks for this very informative post! pnwmom Dec 2015 #152
Some interesting stuff treestar Dec 2015 #157
Absolutely. eom BlueMTexpat Dec 2015 #160
Post removed Post removed Dec 2015 #126
Classic attention-seeking behavior. Making a grand entry. southerncrone Dec 2015 #27
Post removed Post removed Dec 2015 #28
So, what's your point? southerncrone Dec 2015 #29
I thought so too. She could have slipped in quietly without speaking. senz Dec 2015 #36
ABC handled it poorly, not Hillary. They had no business making a spectacle pnwmom Dec 2015 #47
No, it's not about "disturbing the men," it's about respecting the proceedings. senz Dec 2015 #57
They disrespected HER by starting without her and by scheduling a bathroom break pnwmom Dec 2015 #58
No, she should have subsumed herself within the procedings. senz Dec 2015 #68
She should have HUMBLED herself? What century are you living in? pnwmom Dec 2015 #69
We're talking about her entrance, not how long a break she took. senz Dec 2015 #73
Of course it put her at a real disadvantage for them to start without her. pnwmom Dec 2015 #75
Okay, now I see your point, pnwmom. senz Dec 2015 #89
Phew! In general pnwmom Dec 2015 #90
Aw, communication can be a challenge senz Dec 2015 #95
It's a lost cause with some. Agschmid Dec 2015 #85
That's a very creative allegation lacking any objective evidence LanternWaste Jan 2016 #165
She said "Sorry." You know, what people with COUTH say when they're a bit late. nt MADem Dec 2015 #105
Researchers have done timed studies -- with stop-watches -- to study how long pnwmom Dec 2015 #39
And yet another CT from the sanders bunch Cha Dec 2015 #50
She is an older woman. Maybe there wasa long line in the ladies' room.there usually is. JDPriestly Dec 2015 #30
It's called "potty parity" -- and Hillary was denied it. pnwmom Dec 2015 #51
Post removed Post removed Dec 2015 #31
I thought she handled it well renate Dec 2015 #32
What I find strange is that some feel that she had to wait in a line. Really? demmiblue Dec 2015 #33
Yes, I doubt she was in line with members of the audience. senz Dec 2015 #37
Doesn't matter. Researchers have done time/motion studies of bathrooms pnwmom Dec 2015 #42
This has been repeated so often artislife Dec 2015 #74
Sometimes people have to go, even if they already went. And women on the average pnwmom Dec 2015 #76
Diaper? WTF? I just think artislife Dec 2015 #78
Wow. Like she can't be a human being who might have to go when she wasn't planning to. pnwmom Dec 2015 #87
I buy the groceries...no depends artislife Dec 2015 #93
Why don't you criticize her for actual things? You're scraping the bottom of the sexist barrel here, pnwmom Dec 2015 #94
How is this sexist? artislife Dec 2015 #96
When the NORM is based on the needs of the male and disregards the differing needs pnwmom Dec 2015 #99
This seems to be your area of interest. artislife Dec 2015 #100
I do have a special interest in the needs of girls worldwide who stay home for school pnwmom Dec 2015 #102
Roll eyes artislife Dec 2015 #123
This message was self-deleted by its author JTFrog Dec 2015 #132
Tsk Tsk, says the hall monitor artislife Dec 2015 #142
This message was self-deleted by its author JTFrog Dec 2015 #144
I don't defend Hillary. nt artislife Dec 2015 #145
This message was self-deleted by its author JTFrog Dec 2015 #146
Oh, no...she isn't offensive at all...wink wink. artislife Dec 2015 #147
That is a snarky joke, intended to illustrate the "potty parity" issue - it's not a literal argument MADem Dec 2015 #107
Agreed. JVS Dec 2015 #120
She needed to show her disdain for the debate process NobodyHere Dec 2015 #46
I need to show my distain for anyone who is judging her because she is a woman pnwmom Dec 2015 #63
She couldn't go before the debates? NobodyHere Dec 2015 #66
Women need to go more often than men and they take longer, due to physiology, pnwmom Dec 2015 #70
Do you ever listen to yourself NobodyHere Dec 2015 #97
Do you? pnwmom Dec 2015 #98
This entire thread is absolutely fucking disgusting. NuclearDem Dec 2015 #49
You described it awfully well. Thank you. Cha Dec 2015 #52
There is a lot of disagreement on this thread. So which side are you taking? pnwmom Dec 2015 #55
I'm on your side. NuclearDem Dec 2015 #59
Yup. Awful. JaneyVee Dec 2015 #67
Yup. Agschmid Dec 2015 #86
This. A thousand times this. Codeine Dec 2015 #119
Does anyone know if the candidates are allowed to talk to their aides during breaks? Yupster Dec 2015 #53
This was a scheduled 5 minute bathroom break, including transit time. n/t pnwmom Dec 2015 #60
But my question is Yupster Dec 2015 #143
What a joke. As if Hillary isn't in total command of the facts. pnwmom Dec 2015 #149
I wasn't talking about Hillary Yupster Dec 2015 #150
Some replies to this thread are disgustingly low. Drunken Irishman Dec 2015 #54
Trashing thread Kalidurga Dec 2015 #62
Good idea, Kalidurga. Maybe tomorrow. pnwmom Dec 2015 #64
Thank you Kalidurga Dec 2015 #65
I can't believe I'm having to explain this to otherwise intelligent people. n/t pnwmom Dec 2015 #77
I can't believe it takes a line to the bathroom to create any kind of solidarity but there it is. Kalidurga Dec 2015 #83
LOL pnwmom Dec 2015 #84
I'm thinking the break was too short, and the moderators were PatrickforO Dec 2015 #79
It was only 5 minutes, including transit time. And what do you want to bet pnwmom Dec 2015 #91
Please cut her some slack. She said sorry! akbacchus_BC Dec 2015 #80
This message was self-deleted by its author JTFrog Dec 2015 #81
If this is your only issue with Mrs. Clinton, akbacchus_BC Dec 2015 #82
Amazing that this piece of shit is still going! akbacchus_BC Dec 2015 #88
As a non-Bernista ... NanceGreggs Dec 2015 #104
I am a Bernie supporter, TDale313 Dec 2015 #109
Oh she pulled that 'stunt' last time too. Getting old Hillary. eom Purveyor Dec 2015 #106
Stay Klassy. n/t TDale313 Dec 2015 #108
The irony is there are those... DemocratSinceBirth Dec 2015 #113
My guess: it was a tactical move. Debate theater. JustABozoOnThisBus Dec 2015 #114
This is a ridiculous post. Vinca Dec 2015 #115
She was eating the brains of a Sanders supporter. Obviously. randome Dec 2015 #116
It could have been several things Le Taz Hot Dec 2015 #117
People make my head hurt mythology Dec 2015 #121
Why on Earth do you care? MineralMan Dec 2015 #122
This message was self-deleted by its author JTFrog Dec 2015 #124
to distract certain types of people wyldwolf Dec 2015 #125
Another new low ronnykmarshall Dec 2015 #139
You're fucking kidding right? Arkana Dec 2015 #155
This is NOT cool and I have supported Bernie before hardly anyone ever heard of him Douglas Carpenter Dec 2015 #161
And so the fuck what? awoke_in_2003 Dec 2015 #162
The grade-school petulance with which a post like this is created LanternWaste Jan 2016 #163

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Response to bettyellen (Reply #7)

Cha

(297,237 posts)
44. That's not the only time that poster has had these kind of remarks about Hillary and gotten
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 01:39 AM
Dec 2015

a hide. Apparently doesn't learn it's not acceptable.

 

Scootaloo

(25,699 posts)
34. Gotta side with the others on that. That was a needless and ignorant jibe
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 12:18 AM
Dec 2015

I suppose we all make them now and then, but damn man.

madamesilverspurs

(15,803 posts)
3. Because
Sat Dec 19, 2015, 10:51 PM
Dec 2015

the moderators didn't take into account that there's NEVER a line for the men's room, but it's a different story for the ladies.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
40. People have heard of "institutionalized racism." This was "institutionalized sexism."
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 01:21 AM
Dec 2015

The 5 minute bathroom breaks ABC built into its schedule are adequate for the average man but not the average woman.

And there are academic studies showing this, conducted by researchers with stopwatches. Even if there is no line women need more time.

They can't just whip something out over a urinal. It takes significantly longer.

Quackers

(2,256 posts)
101. If you're really claiming this was sexism, then you have to agree that you're being ageist.
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 05:40 AM
Dec 2015

Ignorantly saying that men can just whip it out and go. Did you forget about the 74yo man up there?

Urinary hesitancy affects people of all ages and occurs in both sexes. However, it is most common in older men with an enlarged prostate gland.

https://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/003143.htm

Also, we don't know what really held her up. You're assuming it was bathroom issues. I assume that she was checking the data on how viewers were responding to her. With that being said, this whole thing is silly. I think you're making something out of nothing.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
103. I would be defending him, too, if he'd made it back a couple minutes late.
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 05:43 AM
Dec 2015
But he didn't. So I don't know how you can accuse me of ageism simply because I didn't assume he was the victim of prostate problems that needed accommodation.

(I assumed she was gone on a bathroom break because that's what I read somewhere -- that the schedule called for a 5 minute potty break.)

There were only 3 candidates in this debate, each of them important. ABC should have waited till each of them was at a podium before they began.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
118. How long was the debate?
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 09:55 AM
Dec 2015

Why did they even need a bathroom break? Most people can go before and last 45 minutes or longer.

George II

(67,782 posts)
127. It was than two hours, and they left during a commercial break. Clinton was about 15 seconds late.
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 01:09 PM
Dec 2015

treestar

(82,383 posts)
154. Didn't know that. For some reason thought it was 40 minutes.
Mon Dec 21, 2015, 12:21 PM
Dec 2015

I couldn't watch it because the TV somehow only plays one channel lol. Thanks.

I could last 2 hours by going right before, but a break is a break.

George II

(67,782 posts)
158. I have a friend, younger than me, that can only last an hour between trips....
Mon Dec 21, 2015, 12:41 PM
Dec 2015

...in fact, when we go up to Boston for a game, we have to plan around rest stops.

Also, I think someone also correctly pointed out that she has a lot more security overseeing her movements (no, not THOSE movements! ) than the other candidates.

I just don't see why people are now dwelling on her bathroom habits, just as I can't see why many of them have been dwelling on her faint southern accent. To me those are signs of desperation.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
153. Most people aren't standing on a national stage talking for more than two hours,
Mon Dec 21, 2015, 08:48 AM
Dec 2015

trying to drink enough water to keep their throats from drying out and worrying about if they'll make it to the next bathroom break.

Update here:

http://www.democraticunderground.com/1251931800#post2

treestar

(82,383 posts)
156. OK thanks
Mon Dec 21, 2015, 12:21 PM
Dec 2015

they should have waited for her. It's hard to believe the excuses in other threads to attempt to make it her fault.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
72. You didn't ask anybody anything. You made a comment on a public board.
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 02:52 AM
Dec 2015

If you don't want me to reply, then block me. Otherwise, I'll reply when I want to.

George II

(67,782 posts)
159. I wish I could find it, a while back I read a study that found that about 80% of men...
Mon Dec 21, 2015, 12:48 PM
Dec 2015

...do NOT wash their hands. I recall years ago being in a men's room with my "classy" boss during a seminar break. He pointedly said, as I was washing my hands, "I don't have to wash, I didn't pee on my hands"! Suffice it to say, I never shook his hand again.

 

LanternWaste

(37,748 posts)
164. Your inferences seem irrational.
Mon Jan 11, 2016, 04:45 PM
Jan 2016

Your inferences seem irrational. One might even say it drips with a foul bias...

freeplessinseattle

(3,508 posts)
11. That was really disrespectful on their part, esp
Sat Dec 19, 2015, 10:56 PM
Dec 2015

after the way they seemed to let the debate kind of go it's own way

If it wasn't for having to wrestle with pantyhose! Heck, she may have gotten a run and had to change them, for all we know

Starry Messenger

(32,342 posts)
13. I'm not liking this panel or the format.
Sat Dec 19, 2015, 10:59 PM
Dec 2015

Not my favorite debate, although the discussion is going well, it's kind of in spite of the debate moderators.

MoonRiver

(36,926 posts)
8. It takes we ladies, especially we older ones, a little longer.
Sat Dec 19, 2015, 10:53 PM
Dec 2015

Same thing happened in the last debate. Sorry it's no big deal.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
43. It takes all women longer. We can't just whip it out over a urinal.
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 01:35 AM
Dec 2015

They've done time and motion studies on this and women require significantly more time -- not that we needed a study to show us this, but architects and building departments did.

All ABC was allotting was 5 minutes, including transit time.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
12. There was a LINE.
Sat Dec 19, 2015, 10:58 PM
Dec 2015

Old building--not enough ladies' bathrooms!!




It's usually true at old venues that the lines for the women's restroom go out the door; and the men's room never has a line.


I'm only joking...but just. It's an equality issue, really, at public venues.

In any event, it WORKED for her--she's sitting pretty in this debate, thus far--she's commanding the stage.

Dem2

(8,168 posts)
17. I said dropped a deuce
Sat Dec 19, 2015, 11:02 PM
Dec 2015

But I was being a smart ass here at home, I don't expect this sort of silliness here.

Response to Dem2 (Reply #17)

Response to Dem2 (Reply #131)

Response to Dem2 (Reply #134)

Dem2

(8,168 posts)
136. I am on your side and was last night
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 01:31 PM
Dec 2015

Carry on. Hate me now based on a misunderstanding - it's your choice.

Response to Dem2 (Reply #136)

Dem2

(8,168 posts)
138. You missed the point
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 01:34 PM
Dec 2015

OMG, DU can have the most frustrating interactions - I still will like your posts even if you're angry and have made a snap choice based on a misreading of my intent.

Response to Dem2 (Reply #138)

Dem2

(8,168 posts)
141. Eh, people actually do those things you know - it's a normal bodily function
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 01:40 PM
Dec 2015

I can make a joke at home (and even mention it as an ice breaker) and still object to the ridiculousness and misogynous intent that was clear in the O/P. I'm sorry you found it so offensive.

Response to LexVegas (Reply #18)

Hekate

(90,686 posts)
19. Seriously. The moderators were RUDE not to wait for the lady.
Sat Dec 19, 2015, 11:15 PM
Dec 2015

Men: stand up against the wall urinal. Unzip. Do business. Zip up. Job done.

Women: squeeze into undersized stall. Take off one half of garments. Put paper on seat. Hope paper doesn't fall off while turning around. Put paper on seat again. Sit. Do business. Clean up. Get dressed again. Wash hands. Job done.

And you wonder why the lines for women's restrooms are so loooong. And that's without all of us who have to bring in small children.

Cha

(297,237 posts)
48. From what I've heard the abc mods sucked in general .. why would they be smart enough to
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 01:53 AM
Dec 2015

wait until all 3 were on stage?

They have to show what big powerful mediassholes they are.

BlueMTexpat

(15,369 posts)
110. If men had to do their business like
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 08:36 AM
Dec 2015

women, situations like this would not arise: http://time.com/3653871/womens-bathroom-lines-sexist-potty-parity/

From the link, following a description about several physical activities/events that concern women only:

... Additionally, women tend to wear more binding and cumbersome clothes, whereas men’s clothing provides significantly speedier access. But in a classic example of the difference between surface “equality” and genuine equity, many public restrooms continue to be facilities that are equal in physical space, while favoring men’s bodies, experiences, and needs.

Legislation to address the design and provision of public restrooms in new construction often requires more space for women’s rooms. But that has hardly made a dent in many of our oldest and most used public spaces. This is especially true in powerful institutions, such as schools and government complexes, where old buildings, and their gendered legacies, dominate. In the United States, for example, women in the House of Representatives didn’t get a bathroom near the Speaker’s Lobby until 2011. Prior to that, the nearest women’s room was so far away that the time it took women to get to the bathroom and back exceeded session break times. The nearby men’s room, meanwhile, had a fireplace, a shoeshine stand, and televised floor proceedings.

Additionally, old building codes required more space for men, as women’s roles were restricted almost entirely to the private sphere. That reality has often confused the “is” with the “ought.” As scholar Judith Plaskow noted in a paper on toilets and social justice, “Not only does the absence of women’s bathrooms signify the exclusion of women from certain professions and halls of power, but it also has functioned as an explicit argument against hiring women or admitting them into previously all-male organizations.” She cites examples, including Yale Medical School and Harvard Law School, both of which claimed that a lack of public facilities made it impossible for women to be admitted as students. Schools like the Virginia Military Institute used this excuse as recently as 1996.


In 2001, I was on a work-required visit to Saudi Arabia. No government buildings - at least at the time - contained bathroom facilities for women. We coped because one (1) room was set aside for us with a guard posted outside. It is a crying shame that the US - supposedly #1 in so many areas - is still not that far ahead of Saudi Arabia in this respect.

The OP is simply stupid and ABC's moderators were discourteous, to say the least. But for anyone to deflect by referring to Hillary's using this to make a "grand entrance" is outrageous.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
157. Some interesting stuff
Mon Dec 21, 2015, 12:23 PM
Dec 2015

and you can bet that if something had been a problem in the men's room and caused delay they'd have waited for Martin or Bernie.

Response to Hekate (Reply #19)

southerncrone

(5,506 posts)
27. Classic attention-seeking behavior. Making a grand entry.
Sat Dec 19, 2015, 11:23 PM
Dec 2015

Distracted audience from Sanders answer, too. Very obvious. Not attractive.

Response to southerncrone (Reply #27)

 

senz

(11,945 posts)
36. I thought so too. She could have slipped in quietly without speaking.
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 12:39 AM
Dec 2015

This is how people normally handle late entries and it is far more respectful of others. I honestly believe that in her mind, it's all about her. There's just nobody else.

(And I'm sorry a devoted fan insulted you like that.)

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
47. ABC handled it poorly, not Hillary. They had no business making a spectacle
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 01:52 AM
Dec 2015

of her by aiming the camera at the empty podium and announcing that they were going on without her -- as if she weren't as important as the other two.


You've heard of "potty parity"? They've done academic studies with stopwatches proving women need significantly more time in the bathroom just to use the basic facilities. These 5 minute breaks ABC had built in -- including transit time -- were enough for the men but not most women.

This is an example of unconscious but institutionalized sexism -- where the function is built around men's needs without taking into account women's. It might seem trivial but it's not.

You can see right in this thread that it made her the object of some mockery, all because she can't just whip something out and hang it over a urinal.

P.S. Why should she slink in like she's an INTRUDER who had to be careful not to DISTURB the men? ABC was wrong to start the 3 way debate without her.

 

senz

(11,945 posts)
57. No, it's not about "disturbing the men," it's about respecting the proceedings.
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 02:09 AM
Dec 2015

Haven't you been in similar situations where some group activity is ongoing and those who are late enter quietly and take their posts without drawing attention to themselves? It's the right thing to do; it shows respect for what is occurring.

It happens all the time, pnwmom. When a person tries to be cutsie about it, it comes off for what it is: attention seeking. She seems to think she's the center of the universe.

I'm beginning to wonder if she surrounds herself with sycophants. If so, it could account for this attitude.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
58. They disrespected HER by starting without her and by scheduling a bathroom break
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 02:13 AM
Dec 2015

around men's needs, not men's and women's.

She was on the STAGE. To act as if she's supposed to slip in quietly is just ludicrous. They made a point of noting her absence. Saying sorry as she slipped in was perfectly fine.

The fault was ABC's entirely, not hers. This wasn't some group activity where she was a minor player. She was one of only three major players and they had no business beginning without her.

 

senz

(11,945 posts)
68. No, she should have subsumed herself within the procedings.
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 02:32 AM
Dec 2015

She should have respected the gravitas of the event. She, Bernie, and Martin were expected to show themselves to the American people with the moderators facilitating. The most important element in the entire exercise were the audience and television viewers. The moderators were representing us. The candidates are asking for our votes.

We rule. She should have sensed that and humbled herself enough to take her place quietly until it was her turn to speak.

She seems lacking in the humility department.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
69. She should have HUMBLED herself? What century are you living in?
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 02:40 AM
Dec 2015

Studies have shown women need twice as much time in the bathroom as men. They had no business starting without her, simply because the men were able to make it to the stage within the 5 minutes.

 

senz

(11,945 posts)
73. We're talking about her entrance, not how long a break she took.
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 02:53 AM
Dec 2015

It didn't hurt her one bit that they started without her, since the question that was being answered would be asked of her, as well.

Yes, Hillary should be humble enough to appreciate that the American people -- those peons living in apartments and little houses, trying to make ends meet -- are her superiors, by dent of her having chosen public service as a profession.

Surely you can see that? Again, in a political debate among candidates for office, the voters -- not the candidates -- rule.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
75. Of course it put her at a real disadvantage for them to start without her.
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 03:06 AM
Dec 2015

Last edited Sun Dec 20, 2015, 03:45 AM - Edit history (1)

In the normal give and take, the candidates are supposed to be LISTENING and RESPONDING to each other. By starting without her, they denied her the opportunity to listen to and formulate responses to what the other candidates said.

It was a blatant act of disrespect to start the proceedings without her, as if her presence wasn't as important as that of the men.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
90. Phew! In general
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 03:42 AM
Dec 2015

I've always felt you were a reasonable person, and I was getting frustrated about not being able to explain this well enough. Thanks for letting me know I'd finally found a way.

 

senz

(11,945 posts)
95. Aw, communication can be a challenge
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 03:54 AM
Dec 2015

especially in a medium like this. I admire your persistence/patience and sorry about the frustration!

 

LanternWaste

(37,748 posts)
165. That's a very creative allegation lacking any objective evidence
Mon Jan 11, 2016, 04:49 PM
Jan 2016

"She seems lacking in the humility department..."

That's a very creative allegation lacking any objective evidence; i.e., a bumper sticker with all the concomitant wisdom they provide.

But no doubt, you'll certainly point towards the posts indicating you yourself are a humble person, else we're to presume you hold yourself to a lower standard than you hold others to...

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
39. Researchers have done timed studies -- with stop-watches -- to study how long
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 01:18 AM
Dec 2015

women need just to go to the bathroom compared to men. Even if there is no line.

I don't go into the details, but they need more time. And the schedule with ABC only allowed 5 minute bathroom breaks.

CNN's Anderson Cooper didn't make a big deal about it; he just began the proceedings a minute or two late. This was a bad call on ABC's part.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
51. It's called "potty parity" -- and Hillary was denied it.
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 01:55 AM
Dec 2015

Researchers have proven women simply need more time to go through all the necessary motions. (And younger women even need more time during some parts of the month.)

The 5 minute bathroom breaks, including transit time, that ABC scheduled were set up based on men's needs, not women's.

Response to hootinholler (Original post)

renate

(13,776 posts)
32. I thought she handled it well
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 12:07 AM
Dec 2015

No big explanation or joke, just a genial "Sorry." Most of us (not all!) in our household prefer Bernie, but we all liked the way she owned it.

demmiblue

(36,852 posts)
33. What I find strange is that some feel that she had to wait in a line. Really?
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 12:10 AM
Dec 2015

I do believe it was staged for effect (potty issues were a part of the first debate, as well).

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
42. Doesn't matter. Researchers have done time/motion studies of bathrooms
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 01:26 AM
Dec 2015

to determine how many stalls need to be in public buildings.

And they discovered women need significantly more time than men, just to use the basic facilities.

ABC only gave them 5 minute bathroom breaks, and part of that time was just spent walking to wherever the bathroom was. It was rude and sexist for them to make a show of starting without her.

Institutionalized sexism at work here: making men's needs the norm.

 

artislife

(9,497 posts)
74. This has been repeated so often
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 02:57 AM
Dec 2015

I am beginning to think it is a lie.

We get it. My question is why wouldn't you go before the debates started? When I think of the drive home, I visit the ladies before I leave. They really aren't that long.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
76. Sometimes people have to go, even if they already went. And women on the average
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 03:11 AM
Dec 2015

need to go more often than men, if they want to avoid bladder infections, due to their short urethra. Also they take longer.

Do you think she should have to wear a diaper, like an astronaut? Why couldn't they just let their commentator blab on for another minute or two? Their schedule wasn't sacrosanct.

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/04/13/sports/baseball/13potty.html

Studies show that women take about twice as long as men in the restroom.

 

artislife

(9,497 posts)
78. Diaper? WTF? I just think
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 03:17 AM
Dec 2015

The debates weren't half the day. Go before they start. If she has to go again, I think she may already have some issues.



I take a woman in her mid seventies out to the store and to get her hair done. She goes before we leave and we never stop for the 3 hours we are together. Most people can plan their "evacuation".

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
87. Wow. Like she can't be a human being who might have to go when she wasn't planning to.
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 03:39 AM
Dec 2015

So what if your friend doesn't need to go. She's probably not advertising the pair of Depends she has on just in case.

And even if she doesn't, it doesn't matter. ABC planned for a bathroom break and it should have waited till all three participants got back. Period.

 

artislife

(9,497 posts)
93. I buy the groceries...no depends
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 03:48 AM
Dec 2015

but if Hillary needs to go, she needs to go!


Really, she needs to go.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
94. Why don't you criticize her for actual things? You're scraping the bottom of the sexist barrel here,
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 03:52 AM
Dec 2015

for some inexplicable reason.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
99. When the NORM is based on the needs of the male and disregards the differing needs
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 05:31 AM
Dec 2015

of the female, then the norm is sexist.

When you criticize a woman for having a female body that requires more time for hygienic elimination, that is sexist.

Researchers with stopwatches have measured the amount of time needed for men and women to physically accomplish the various tasks involved in urination, and there are many more steps for women, who can't just use a urinal. (They have to enter a stall, close the door, remove clothing, etc., etc.) Women also are more likely to wash their hands and to use soap, both adding crucial seconds to the procedure. Overall, women take about twice as long as men to do their business.

The ABC break time was only 5 minutes, including transit time. This was probably the length of time ABC has always had for debates and it never occurred to them to adjust the schedule because a woman would be one of the debaters.

This is unconscious, institutionalized sexism -- where facilities and schedules are designed around the needs of one gender over the other. It's so pervasive that most of us don't even notice it, unless we're in a line of twenty women outside of a ladies' room while men are whipping in and out of the men's room.

Building codes in the past called for more men's rooms than women's, on the theory that women weren't out in public as much. It was only when researchers started doing studies in the latter part of the past century that they realized that women needed more bathrooms than men, not fewer. But many of these old buildings are still around today, and still putting women at a disadvantage. If the ABC building was like many old buildings, Hillary might have had to go to the other end of the floor -- or even to another floor -- simply to find a bathroom.

ABC could have easily waited the one or two minutes for Hillary to return. Instead, they made the demeaning decision to start the debate without her -- as if the presence of one of their three debaters wasn't important-- so she wasn't there to hear what the other candidates were saying. She had to join in mid-question, not knowing what she had missed.

Poor form for ABC. And I'm really shocked to see how many progressives seem to be clueless about this.

Bathrooms are a feminist issue. Without adequate bathrooms, women are at a disadvantage participating in public life. This is true in the US Senate (where women often have trouble with distant and rare ladies' rooms) and it is true worldwide, where inadequate sanitary facilities affect women (who are elevated risk of bladder infections) much more than men.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/01/07/womens-restrooms-sexist_n_6431184.html

A winding line of women waiting for the restroom may seem like a simple inconvenience, but feminist critic and activist Soraya Chemaly calls it a prime example of "male-centeredness."

Chemaly joined HuffPost Live on Wednesday to discuss her piece for Time, which argues that long lines at the ladies' room constitutes "everyday sexism" that favors the bodies of men. Chemaly explained to host Nancy Redd:
Whose bodies are worthy of prioritization? Whose bodies need to be recognized as legitimate? Those are really fundamental issues in society, and they come together in super interesting ways in public space and in public toilets. So when you see a line, as I did last week, of 50 women standing waiting patiently and quietly while men breeze in and out of the restroom, it's really not just this minor irritation. It's reflective of much deeper issues about bodies, embodiment, ... elimination and social justice. I also think it's just one aspect on a very broad spectrum of how important bodily needs and sanitation are to people's equal rights.




http://time.com/3653871/womens-bathroom-lines-sexist-potty-parity/

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
102. I do have a special interest in the needs of girls worldwide who stay home for school
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 05:40 AM
Dec 2015

because they don't have sanitary supplies, or just drop out at the age of menstruation.

But this is a related issue.

P.S. The 7 minutes includes transit time and no one has any idea where the bathroom Hillary was assigned to was located.

Response to artislife (Reply #74)

 

artislife

(9,497 posts)
142. Tsk Tsk, says the hall monitor
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 01:47 PM
Dec 2015

Pfft


Your shaming has no effect. It is a pathetic tactic in itself.

Response to artislife (Reply #142)

Response to artislife (Reply #145)

MADem

(135,425 posts)
107. That is a snarky joke, intended to illustrate the "potty parity" issue - it's not a literal argument
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 06:33 AM
Dec 2015

at all. That IS a real issue, though-- and it is something that really needs addressing, even today. Architects do incorporate bathroom equality into new construction, if they're good, and smart. But not everything is "new construction."

Clinton's level of security ensures that she's got a room cleared just for her--it might be a little ways away, though, down a corridor that has been secured for her use alone, but she's not sharing with anyone.

As a complete aside, the ONLY reason that the Pentagon has sufficient bathroom facilities for both genders is because they used to have segregated bathrooms back in the Bad Old Days. After the desegregation of the Armed Services, when more women started joining the forces, they were able to convert a lot of the segregated bathrooms for use by women.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
63. I need to show my distain for anyone who is judging her because she is a woman
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 02:20 AM
Dec 2015

and women need more time in the bathroom than men. This was established by researchers with stopwatches decades ago.

ABC only gave them 5 minutes, including transit time. Not enough. Focusing on the empty podium and going on without her was inexcusably rude.

 

NobodyHere

(2,810 posts)
66. She couldn't go before the debates?
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 02:22 AM
Dec 2015

I hope she isn't in the bathroom when she gets that 3am phone call she touted last election.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
70. Women need to go more often than men and they take longer, due to physiology,
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 02:43 AM
Dec 2015

clothing, and the facilities themselves.

Your sexism and or ignorance is noted.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
55. There is a lot of disagreement on this thread. So which side are you taking?
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 02:00 AM
Dec 2015

Those who think she should have just quietly slipped in and not said "sorry"?

Those who think she was grandstanding?

Those, like me, who think ABC was remiss not to delay the start for a minute or two since one or their 3 participants was still in the bathroom?

Women need more time in the bathroom to get their basic business done. This is not disgusting; it's just a simple fact backed up by time and motion studies conducted with stopwatches.

ABC's 5 minute breaks were not enough. They should have just let their commentators blab on for a little longer -- it's what they love to do -- instead of making a point of starting without her.

 

NuclearDem

(16,184 posts)
59. I'm on your side.
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 02:13 AM
Dec 2015

I just can't properly articulate what I just read for fear of my brain shutting off and dying.

People actually sinking so low as to turn a slightly longer bathroom break into a fucking Clinton campaign dirty trick.

Absolutely no shame at all.

 

Codeine

(25,586 posts)
119. This. A thousand times this.
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 10:11 AM
Dec 2015

We see what the bros are reduced to in the face of a strong woman; puerile children.

Yupster

(14,308 posts)
53. Does anyone know if the candidates are allowed to talk to their aides during breaks?
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 01:56 AM
Dec 2015

Until this year I never noticed candidates going offstage during breaks. It's probably always happened but I've never noticed it.

Yupster

(14,308 posts)
143. But my question is
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 01:51 PM
Dec 2015

are the candidates met by their aides who walk with them to the bathroom telling them what's going right and wrong and remember to say this about him, or are they supposed to be isolated during these breaks.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
149. What a joke. As if Hillary isn't in total command of the facts.
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 04:10 PM
Dec 2015

What would an aide know more about than she does? No one knows what questions will be asked in the second part of the debate.

Yupster

(14,308 posts)
150. I wasn't talking about Hillary
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 07:07 PM
Dec 2015

I'm talking about all of them.

During debates, I'm sure the campaigns are constantly saying that something someone said wasn't true or could be easily countered. I'm sure each campaign would love to grab their candidate during the debate and say, "he said he was against this, but on Oct 23 at the Davenport Foreign Legion he said he was for it."

I was just wondering if that was allowed during the commercial breaks.

Kalidurga

(14,177 posts)
62. Trashing thread
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 02:16 AM
Dec 2015

This is terrible. I am with Hillary supporters on this. I invite them to do a thread on bathroom parity I will visit and rec.

Kalidurga

(14,177 posts)
83. I can't believe it takes a line to the bathroom to create any kind of solidarity but there it is.
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 03:27 AM
Dec 2015

PatrickforO

(14,574 posts)
79. I'm thinking the break was too short, and the moderators were
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 03:19 AM
Dec 2015

assholes for starting before she got back.

But ABC really sucks anyway. You guys remember their hatchet job on Obama back in 08? I mean, that was pathetic, in a ridiculous and light weight way. I don't watch ABC much.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
91. It was only 5 minutes, including transit time. And what do you want to bet
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 03:43 AM
Dec 2015

the ladies was farther away?

Response to hootinholler (Original post)

akbacchus_BC

(5,704 posts)
82. If this is your only issue with Mrs. Clinton,
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 03:24 AM
Dec 2015

I feel very sorry for you.

The moderator repeated the question for Mrs. Clinton to respond. Who are you on this fecking totem pole? Are you making a difference in the debates?

Get lost!

akbacchus_BC

(5,704 posts)
88. Amazing that this piece of shit is still going!
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 03:39 AM
Dec 2015

The Mods need to delete it. Whether you like Mrs. Clinton or not, this post is fecking disgusting. Delete it please Mods and you will be doing yourselves a favour. More people will be willing to pay to be on here if DU is fair!

NanceGreggs

(27,814 posts)
104. As a non-Bernista ...
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 06:07 AM
Dec 2015

... I thought he did very well in tonight's debate.

I find it curious that his supporters are more interested in HRC's hairdo, outfit, and bathroom breaks than their own candidate's performance.

DemocratSinceBirth

(99,710 posts)
113. The irony is there are those...
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 09:16 AM
Dec 2015

The irony is there are those that argue misogyny and sexism are not part of the opposition to Secretary Clinton.


Thank you for reading.


Happy Holidays

DSB

JustABozoOnThisBus

(23,340 posts)
114. My guess: it was a tactical move. Debate theater.
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 09:17 AM
Dec 2015

It seems to have gotten everyone's attention. So it's a successful ploy.

 

randome

(34,845 posts)
116. She was eating the brains of a Sanders supporter. Obviously.
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 09:30 AM
Dec 2015

[hr][font color="blue"][center]All things in moderation, including moderation.[/center][/font][hr]

Le Taz Hot

(22,271 posts)
117. It could have been several things
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 09:35 AM
Dec 2015

but I don't think it was planned. She might have had a wardrobe malfunction, might have been a restroom issue, either way I thought she handled it well and I can't stand the woman.

No biggie.

 

mythology

(9,527 posts)
121. People make my head hurt
Sun Dec 20, 2015, 11:27 AM
Dec 2015

Why did you think this post was a good idea? All it does is make you look really small and petty.

Response to hootinholler (Original post)

Douglas Carpenter

(20,226 posts)
161. This is NOT cool and I have supported Bernie before hardly anyone ever heard of him
Wed Dec 23, 2015, 01:57 AM
Dec 2015

And I am not big fan of the Clinton's. But nasty, petty remarks like this serve no meaningful purpose and I am sure Bernie would be personally embarrassed. Shame on you and everyone who supports such nasty and personal sniping.

 

awoke_in_2003

(34,582 posts)
162. And so the fuck what?
Wed Dec 23, 2015, 02:00 AM
Dec 2015

Have you never had gastric distress? And if so, so the fuck what? We need the unrec feature back

 

LanternWaste

(37,748 posts)
163. The grade-school petulance with which a post like this is created
Mon Jan 11, 2016, 04:39 PM
Jan 2016

The grade-school petulance with which a post like this is created more often than not illustrates that character of poster much more than anything they may be righteously railing against. Which itself isn't pretty, either... but I'm sure you'll rationalize holding yourself to a much lower standard one way or another, regardless of how pretty, or distressful or even tactical.

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