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Related: About this forumOur Sons Deserve Better Than Donald Trump’s Example of “Manhood”
http://johnpavlovitz.com/2016/10/17/our-sons-deserve-better-than-donald-trumps-example-of-manhood/Our Sons Deserve Better Than Donald Trumps Example of Manhood
October 17, 2016 / John Pavlovitz
My son is 11 years old; bright and beautiful and fitted with a heart far larger than it has a right to be. Hes that kind of brilliantly alive that only an 11-year old boy can be.
And this week, we let him down.
Donald Trump did.
The GOP did.
The Evangelical Right did.
Much of America did.
I did.
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I dont know if weve considered the collateral damage this is doing within the boys in our collective care.
I dont think we can fathom what our sons in a Donald Trump America are likely to grow into:
Men with a dangerous sense of entitlement when it comes to the bodies of women.
Men for whom violent, hateful, objectifying words about women are viewed as normal.
Men who believe that money and power and their penises give them license to do whatever they want with a woman regardless of what she wants.
Men for whom the very idea of consent is unimportant.
Men who believe they will get rewarded for their misogyny and sexism and filth, because theyve watched it happen.
Men for whom violent, hateful, objectifying words about women are viewed as normal.
Men who believe that money and power and their penises give them license to do whatever they want with a woman regardless of what she wants.
Men for whom the very idea of consent is unimportant.
Men who believe they will get rewarded for their misogyny and sexism and filth, because theyve watched it happen.
This week my son asked me what Donald Trump said about women, and I did the best I could to relay it all without using the actual words, because to use the actual words Trump used, would have meant subjecting my son to the kind of explicit, angry vulgarity that isnt normal and shouldnt be normal for 11-year old boysor boys of integrity of any age.
The words about women from a man who would be President, unfit to be repeated by a father to his son. Let that sink in for a minute.
Trying to find any scenario in which any man talking about grabbing a woman by the genitalia and forcing himself on her physically is at all normal or acceptable, underscores the tragic absurdity of it all. It also illustrates the depths to which weve fallen and the sickness which is so pervasive; that our politics now so easily trumps our humanity.
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I have better dreams for my son than this.
I want him to know that girls and women are worthy of respect and decency and gentleness.
I want him to know that dehumanizing a woman is never normal; not in a locker room or a frat party or a board room or a bedroom.
I want him to know that another womans body is not his jurisdiction.
I want him to know that a womans outward no is louder than his internal yes.
I want him to know that there is a huge difference between being a manand being a gentleman.
I want him to know that dehumanizing a woman is never normal; not in a locker room or a frat party or a board room or a bedroom.
I want him to know that another womans body is not his jurisdiction.
I want him to know that a womans outward no is louder than his internal yes.
I want him to know that there is a huge difference between being a manand being a gentleman.
I believe my son deserves better than this week. All our sons do.
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(20,998 posts)1. Please follow the link, this is well worth the read...
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Rationalizing sexual assault and violence toward women as just boys will be boys, is the best way to ensure that our boys grow-up to become abusive men who have contempt for women and believe that to be what all men do. I refuse to participate in that.
At this point, opposing this kind of language and behavior shouldnt be seen as a political movebut a human decency move. There shouldnt be an alternative side to choose here; not if we love our sons and daughters.
Right now my son and millions of other bright and beautiful boys with big hearts and bigger questions are watching and listening to Donald Trump, and to us.
He is failing them.
We cant afford to.