My mom died today.
We drove down to be with her for her last 90 minutes. All we could do was stroke her hair.
She made it to 100 and one month exactly. We had a family party on Saturday despite her being jaundiced and in some pain, she really wanted us to celebrate with her.. Her health deteriorated quickly the past few months. They discovered a tumor in her Liver 2 weeks ago. She had gallbladder issues in September. Falls led to a fractured foot. And finally this week a 2nd mini stroke.
My youngest brother has been her caregiver. I feel for him. He tries to find humor in everything. This past week was hard on him and my sister, who has been staying with them. All five of her kids (I'm the oldest) were there. I finally understand what is meant by person passes peacefully with their family around them. Morphine drops made that possible. We were there for her last breath.
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Loving, supportive, and merciful. Peace to you all.
I lost my mom in September of 2022. Home Hospice was an incredible resource both physically and psychologically. I'm sending all my positive vibes for you and your family during your grieving process that it will be healthy and full of love and remembrance.
I lost my mother, too (after an accident) and I stayed with her in the ICU as well. My brother was having panic attacks, so he kept coming and going, but I stuck it out and wouldn't have had it another way, hard as it was. My deepest sympathies to you, no matter the age or circumstances, this is one of the toughest losses. 
console myself with the thought that she passed in her home, surrounded by her children and grandchildren. The morphine was a godsend. Don't forget to take care of yourself through all that comes next. May you find tranquility in the near future.
Amidst the deep sadness, it is definitely a gift that the family was able to gather round as she passed peacefully.
What a blessing to have had your mother for 100 years. My condolences to you and your family. May your mom rest in peace.
and she died a month before that date. She had very big 90th, 95th and 100th birthdays since she always wanted to live to be 100. I think her shear hatred for the GOP kept her alive for years.
My dad died suddenly in his sleep 5 years ago at the age of 85 and he was in great health. I am still in shock and grieving. I am glad he died peacefully in his sleep which is what we all want.
I hope you recover from your enormous loss better than I have. I have 100% empathy. I also hope she is able to visit you in your dreams. My dad did right after he died. It wasn't creepy at all and was comforting instead.
It's a tough loss, always.And I am glad you were able to be there with her at the end. I was present at the death of my mom and of my dad. Held their hands as they took their last breaths.
I know how much that has meant to me over the years. I have a feeling that for all of you to be there with your mom will bring you a lot of peace, as it did for me.
For your Mom
my worst fear 
May she rest in peace.
It is hard when your loved ones pass on. The good memories will help you in your grief. Sending hugs.
May you find comfort knowing that your mother's love ❤️ continues to live on.
To me, moms seem especially tough to lose. Hug your remaining loved ones tight, and hopefully you can draw strength from each other.
It is hard to say goodbye to someone so close and dear.
We are a safe community here at DU, and anytime you need to hear a word of encouragement you can count on us.
Hugs to you and a heart, too, because yours must be broken.
100 years old, wow she has seen it all.
But glad that you were there with her.
My condolences to you and all of your family
I'm going to share some photos of our mom. She was a beauty. She'd been a model. She dated actors and hung out with the golden era of Hollywood's movie stars.
This was mom on her 90th birthday...
This was her just this past Saturday at her 100th bday party...
I'll dig out some glamor shots later.
Since I lost my mother (right after 9/11) I've learned that you'll always carry the best of her with you. And there's some peace in that. Hold those you love close, share memories of her and make so many more.
So sorry for your loss but, sounds as though
you all gave her a very peaceful transition.
All six of us were able to be there with our mom when she passed over. I know that you’ll always be thankful that you could all be together then.
Glad that you were able to be with her in her last moments.
Thank you for sharing your experience of your mother's peaceful passing.
as you recall a wonderful life with gratitude, joy and some tears.
Walk and talk with her every day in your mind, as I often do with my Mom who I lost in the '90s. I'm 76 now and she's still reminding me of my responsibilities!.....
Thank you for sharing.......
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When she was 62...
And when she was about 22...
21 I think...
