Atheists & Agnostics
Related: About this forumFunny Friday (a little late)...
My mother passed away yesterday morning. Although I know she did not go "to a better place" I do know that she was a beautiful woman who had 11 great kids and loved everyone as much as they loved her...which in my case was so very much.
One thing that comes out of death and mourning is that instead of dwelling on the death I choose to celebrate my mothers long life doing what she loved and that was caring for her family and friends.
The thing that stands above all else in my mothers life was that she always tried to look on the bright side of life...so to honor her...here is the bittersweet "funny friday"...
Thanks Mom for my sense of humor, love of music, enjoying spontaneous family get-togethers and most of all for giving me an open mind. I know you weren't not happy I was an non-believer but you never judged me.
I am really going to miss our talks.
PassingFair
(22,434 posts)Especially those of us with self-less parents.
I am also lucky to be and have been in that crew.
You will miss her, but you will always have her in memory and intellectual inheritance.
progressoid
(49,996 posts)That's a great choice.
So sorry for you loss. Cherish those memories.
Here's to your Mom
ZombieHorde
(29,047 posts)Curmudgeoness
(18,219 posts)It is always hard on those of us who are still here when we lose someone special. You are doing the right thing in focussing on the life and not the death, and keeping the memories.
Thanks for the humor at a time that is not normally set aside for it. You will miss her, but her memory will be there as long as you are.
GliderGuider
(21,088 posts)I lost a very good long-time friend yesterday. He was only 52, and I'm 61. It's a classic reminder that the best legacy is a life well-lived. It sounds like your mother lived very well.
pink-o
(4,056 posts)...and she was an atheist as well. When asked how I dealt with my lack of faith, not believing that she ascended to Heaven and sat on the right hand of Jesus, I just told them that she's in my heart, my memories and all the lives she touched during her time on earth.
That life is cyclic, and we're all transient. Humans would love to believe we're immortal, that we can last forever, but like everything else, we're beholden to the natural laws of the universe.
NOT believing in an afterlife actually gave me more comfort than faith in the Supernatural. We've this illusion of ourselves, of our needs being so important and our purpose so divine. But truly, we are humble beings. Doesn't mean it hurts any less--I miss my mom every day--but I feel freer for knowing there's order amongst Chaos. Nothing and no one lasts forever--and Time is the bringer of grief, and the healer of heartache.
Best to you. We are our parents' "afterlife" as we carry them with us always!
mzteris
(16,232 posts)She sounds like a wonderful person to have known.