Notice from a Group Host Re: Essence Magazine

[JustAnotherGen]

So we've had a hid back here to a link to that old stalwart up tere with Jet. . .

Essence Magazine is a magazine that caters to black American women.

Coolest Ranger posted a link to and content from an advice column to a black women who caught a bad man . . . Who happens to be white. His badness was hidden. She didn't know he was a callous bigot and would verbally and emotionally abuse her behind closed doors.

I'm sorry if a black women sharing this kind of ugliness based on race in regards to her intimate life gives one the vapors.

Carry on.

ETA - because I can I'm linking to the column -

Intimacy Intervention - My Husband (white) Uses Racial Slurs when We Are Having Sex.

http://www.essence.com/2013/04/08/intimacy-intervention-my-husband-uses-racial-slurs-during-sex?ESS+FB=ESS_socialflow_Facebook

I don't see what the big deal is - maybe because it painted the white male ivy league grad in bad light? The black female ivy league grad as the victim?

Discuss!

[randys1]

1. I saw that hide, I consider the source.

[JackInGreen]

2. I read it earlier this morning

And was confused when I couldn't find it again.
I'm the white half of an interracial couple and it was...disturbing to say the least but I thought the columnist gave decent advice (hell yes its abusive). I wouldn't know what to do if I found out anyone treated her like that, or any of our friends.
I won't lie, we've had a talk about 'racial dirty talk' but only philosophically as a "does this do anything for you?" I'm mystified why the first was hidden.

[Coolest Ranger]

3. Well according to one juror

Because I have a low post count, I'm a troll when I been posting on Democratic Underground for a long time. Can I help it if I have a life outside of Democratic Undergound? I can't post something that I think fellow African Americans and our allies can discuss in peace? I thought this was Democratic Underground.

[Warpy]

5. To me, a low post count is <10

If anybody has more than 10 posts and is a troll, he's got to be very good at it. 500 post trolls are extremely rare.

The good news is that it's a lot tougher to get hanging juries these days. The system is finally starting to work as it was designed to.

[JustAnotherGen]

7. Ugh - thanks for the results

The alerter and the juror are both ignorant about this group and your participation back here.

BTW - there are folks who will SOP Alert if they don't get their way on a jury - this one got their way. You posted nothing wrong.

[Warpy]

4. The ugliness of spousal abuse happens across color lines, across socioeconomic lines,

and the WHO calls it epidemic all over the planet. The article cited just one more layer of power imbalance with the racial component.

Some white male Ivy League grads deserve to be painted in a bad light. So do some hardworking black men. So do a few women out there from all backgrounds. Yes, it can go both ways, although men are overwhelmingly more likely to be the abusers.

The answer was a thing of beauty and I hope she takes it to heart. She'd probably resist mine, "DTMFA."

[JustAnotherGen]

6. This one was interesting. It for the abuse itself

But for the nature of it.

I'm in this marriage - never would my husband speak to me that way using racist language and slave (in the context of the plantation) language.

That's the key to it.

Especially with the move towards Womanism, the departure from the 'Strong Model', and the challenging of the American belief that black women are less feminine - I find this interesting . . .