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Related: About this forumAdam Lanza’s Father, in First Public Comments, Says ‘You Can’t Get Any More Evil’
Since that morning, Mr. Lanza cannot go an hour without thinking about his child. And now, he says, he wishes his son had never been born.
You cant get any more evil, he said in his first public comments since the shooting. How much do I beat up on myself about the fact that hes my son? A lot.
In a series of emotionally wrenching interviews with the writer Andrew Solomon, Mr. Lanza detailed his sons medical history and increasing isolation, his ex-wifes struggle to deal with their troubled child, and his own role as the father of the person who committed one of the worst mass shootings in the nations history. Mr. Solomon, the author of the book Far From the Tree: Parents, Children and the Search for Identity, recounts the interviews in an article in this weeks issue of The New Yorker magazine.
http://www.nytimes.com/2014/03/11/nyregion/adam-lanzas-father-in-first-public-comments-says-you-cant-get-any-more-evil.html?hp
jehop61
(1,735 posts)Such a disturbed young man could have used a father in his life. But this guy washed his hands of him while alive and disses him in death. He should feel guilty.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)And I'm quite certain he feels guilty. In fact, he said so.
stopbush
(24,396 posts)He feels bad for Adam Lanza's victims because "they've lost a son." Well, so has he!
Adam Lanza had real medical/mental problems that had been diagnosed and treated for years. The parents get divorced, dad has an argument with Adam and doesn't communicate with him for two years. Two years??! Knowing this kid's already diagnosed problems, he ignores him for two years and leaves the burden of watching and raising his son to his ex?
Now, he says he wishes Adam Lanza had never been born? Well, with a parent like that, maybe he's right.
I'm sorry, but making the decision to have a family and to sire children is a huge responsibility that - for many parents - lasts a lifetime. As the Jason Robards character says in the movie "Parenthood," "it never ends." It's for better or worse, and this dad didn't deal with facing the worst, which turned out to be his son.
I know that many see those pictures of Adam Lanza and see the gaze of a weirdo, or a nut or a mass murderer-to-be. I see a troubled kid who - in retrospect - was tossed to the wolves that dwelled inside him, by his father and who knows who else.
The mass shooting was a tragedy, but that tragedy was entirely predicated on another kind of tragedy, the tragedy of casting aside people who are "a problem," the tragedy of imagining that people who are mentally sick can somehow make themselves healthy if we just ignore them and act like their problems aren't our problems.
This father helped to create the "evil" that Adam Lanza became, an evil that Adam Lanza couldn't control on his own, anymore than a cancer victim can control their disease on their own. Shame on him.
jehop61
(1,735 posts)Eleanors38
(18,318 posts)to be replaced by a severity scale for autism spectrum, this according to wiki. It is indeed disturbing what the father said, though I can imagine he saw failure in trying to raise the boy, and he broke. Very sad. I know folks trying to cope with autistic kids. It is all-consuming.