My cat, Bevy.
I posted in distress a while back about my cat, Bevy. He has a chronic illness and he is getting older. Sometimes he has episodes and it seems he is really suffering and it is time to put him down. Then he bounces back and has many good weeks in a row and we are so glad we didn’t have him put down. Then he has another bad spell and we wonder if we are deluding ourselves and being selfish.
Recently, he’d been sick for about 36 hours and he threw up in my husband’s chair. My husband and I got in a huge argument about how I wouldn’t let him have the cat put down back when we had more money and now he’s suffering and we can’t afford to take him to the vet and it’s all my fault.
I came here in a terrible state and received wonderful support and guidance.
Since that time we have found that the Humane Society does offer sliding scale vet care. But Bevy also immediately recovered and has been doing really well.
He was born with this condition which is not correctible but can be somewhat managed with diet. Our vet in Brooklyn, where we used to live, trained me to do “the procedure” that periodically has to be done when he has a bout. I have been performing all his medical and care duties for many years.
I think that our household is under extreme financial stress (like so many others) and that is making it more difficult for my husband and I to judge clearly and have reasonable responses to the things going on around us – like our sick cat growing older. Obviously my husband had an emotional reaction to Bevy getting sick in his chair and he lashed out at me, and I immediately made it all about my powerlessness to improve anything in our lives because my income only goes so far.
Anyway, I promised many of you updates. I know how much you love animals and don’t want any animal to suffer ill care. I’ve been embarrassed to provide an update so I’m late in delivering it.
Thanks you all for caring and making yourselves available to me.
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And it is good to know that you have an option when you need it with the Humane Society. That has to make things easier for you. But let's all hope that you don't have to worry about that for a long long time.
And so sorry other things are stressful.
Glad he is feeling better! I know it's stressful. Our oldest is hanging in there- she has good days and bad days. We have to be really mindful not to take out our emotions on each other. Keep us posted!
