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steve2470

(37,457 posts)
Thu Apr 6, 2017, 04:36 PM Apr 2017

Emotional abuse, some thoughts

Last edited Thu Apr 6, 2017, 10:28 PM - Edit history (1)

One good thing did come out of my pain today (see another post today): I was emotionally abused by my father. I had absolutely no idea until today. I was a psychotherapist for 20 years until I burned out and retired. For whatever reason, I never learned all of the symptoms. I admit, I did not specialize in emotional abuse. I learned some basic info, but for sure not the whole ball of wax. My therapist told me I was, when I called her up in tears. I do NOT cry easily, at all. Typical 58 year old American male in that one regard.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_abuse

That site is only a start, of course. It might have inaccuracies. I don't really know, since I'm no expert.

My emotional fragility (which I've spoken about a long time ago) comes directly from the EA as well as emotional neglect. No, I don't sit around moping and feeling sorry for myself and bashing my parents (who are now both deceased). Been there, done that, got the lousy T-shirt.

At any rate, DO NOT DIAGNOSE YOURSELF. Talk to a QUALIFIED PROFESSIONAL. That means Ph.D or Psy.D or Ed.D psychologist (or the equivalent), a MA or MSW or MS or M.Ed level clinician (or equivalent), a M.D. psychiatrist (or equivalent), an ARNP nurse practicioner (or equivalent), psychiatric nurse (RN, MSN, BSN, DSN, or equivalent), or whatever it is in your country.

I hope this helps at least one fellow sufferer. Best wishes to our group and all lurkers.

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Emotional abuse, some thoughts (Original Post) steve2470 Apr 2017 OP
I agree. no_hypocrisy Apr 2017 #1

no_hypocrisy

(46,210 posts)
1. I agree.
Thu Apr 6, 2017, 04:56 PM
Apr 2017

The best 3-1/2 years of my life were with my therapist, twice a week. Like you, my father tried to hurt me emotionally and psychologically. I still feel the repercussions.

I'm sorry for your pain. I hope you can manage it.

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