Tomorrow is a big day for my family

[Marrah_G]

My daughter's partner is going for his first appointment to start the transition from female to male. He has so much courage. I am very proud of both of them for the courage to be themselves and not be afraid of what anyone else thinks. it's been quite a journey. First I thought she (my daughter) was a lesbian, then she came out as bi, then she tried to fit in by marrying a jerk (guy) then left the marriage and came out completely as a lesbian.....and now...her partner who she thought was a lesbian, has come out as transgender, so I guess that makes her bi again. OR as she says... "I am just me".

It will be wonderful when we are all "just me" someday instead of labels, genders, etc.

[shenmue]

1. Wow

[Behind the Aegis]

2. Congrats!

Just a word of caution for you and your daughter, keep an eye out for depression. Even though the transition is what they want and need, it can create a depressive state. It can usually be treated with counseling alone.

Glad your daughter found love.

[Marrah_G]

4. He is being treated at a place in Boston where weekly therapy is part of the process

I think this is especially important because his mother, who is not supportive of who he is has said that she will never speak to him again if he goes through with it. Frankly, her not talking to him can only improve things, since her toxic bigotry is poison to his soul already.

[Behind the Aegis]

5. That will be good for him.

The few people I know who went through this didn't have counseling. Of course, this was 20 years ago, so I am hoping the standards have changed.

[Marrah_G]

7. The most amazing part is that in MA the treatment is now covered by medicaid :)

How awesome is that?

[Behind the Aegis]

9. That is awesome and the way IT should be!

I was supposed to get some cream today, it was $457 AFTER insurance! Needless to say, I didn't get it an opted for Benadryl! Is it any wonder people are dying?! We have top notch insurance and it was still $457!

[Prophet 451]

3. I'll pray for him

Don't worry, I'm not doing the "pray for the awful sinner" bit. I'll be praying it all goes well and according to plan.

And I think eventually, coming out as gay or bi will be as unspectacular as saying "pass the salt". It will always need to be clarified, if only so that your colleagues know who they should try fixing you up with, but eventually, it'll stop being any sort of big deal and just be accepted as a normal, natural variation in the spectrum of humanity.

[Marrah_G]

6. We are so fortunate to live where we do.

My daughters partner grew up in Alabama and when my daughter was there with him she could not quite grasp why they could not hold hands in stares and such. She grew up in a place that was far more accepting....heck our towns mayor was/is openly gay (and married).

[Prophet 451]

8. I'm British

and the change for just when I was a kid (I'm 38) is amazing. We've gone from gay people having a separate age of consent and Section 28 that meant teachers couldn't even acknowledge homosexuality to having legal gay marriage passed by teh legislature to, effectively, a giant yawn from the public.

[littlemissmartypants]

10. Courage.

Courage is more exhilarating than fear and in the long run it is easier. We do not have to become heroes overnight. Just a step at a time, meeting each thing that comes up, seeing it is not as dreadful as it appeared, discovering we have the strength to stare it down.
Eleanor Roosevelt

All the best to you and your family.

~ littlemissmartypants 🙏

[marym625]

12. congratulations and good luck

You are obviously a very good parent to both of them. They are lucky to have you.
And what a brave couple!

Peace

[Marrah_G]

13. Thanks :)

I was just thankful to have my daughter back. Some of you know I had lost her for 5 years to an abusive relationship after she ran away with that guy just before her HS graduation. To have her back AND have her so happy with a truly good person makes my heart soar

[Not Me]

14. I am so happy for you...

Getting your daughter back is an incredible gift.
Your standing by her during her partners transition (especially in light of his family's rejection) shows your love.

My best to all of you.