That moment when your ex-girlfriend posts this on Facebook...

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http://hopeforwholeness.org/healing-from-homosexuality-through-jesus-christ-articles/10-years-a-reflection-by-miranda-pettit/



It would be nice if she posted her whole story instead of just passages from the Bible. I would like to know who had an influence on her life and what torment she had to go through. But then, maybe she was never gay. Or maybe, as the quote goes, "sexuality is fluid."

Whatever the case, just using Bible quotes to justify something as the right way will NEVER fly with me. And from my ex? Come on now, you can do better than that. Actually, I would be really pissed if anyone posted this on Facebook.

Sorry, I know i don't post on here a lot, (and when I do, I vent) but I would like some feedback as to whether or not I am being totally ridiculous in my outrage right now. I've had a hell of a week.

[TygrBright]

1. Outrage is a feeling, and you're entitled to them.

If a former lover of mine posted something on Facebook that completely invalidated the relationship we had, I would probably be outraged, too.

That said, the pictures and the fact of where this appeared and the overall creepiness of the whole milieu lead me to believe that this is more about her and her discomfort with herself than it is about you or any other past relationship of hers.

That someone would be miserable enough with their self to elect this kind of self-repudiation and punishment, not to mention the flight into an assumed self of such narrow and painful denial, indicates a pretty high level of misery.

She might never have shared that with you, and likely not with anyone she ever had an honest relationship with. She may now be trotting out her past "sins" (including you) as a way to get approval for the new mask she's wearing, but that's even less honest than concealing her fundamental pain from you.

You put real into that relationship? Take that as a validation of your own honesty and comfort with your self, and let the past slide into the past, taking her and her pain with it.

You have a better today and tomorrow than she does.

speculatively,
Bright

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5. Thank you for that

And I agree. I feel like she got suckered into the church (mind you I don't think all churches are bad) because she went through some stuff and they were a healthy outlet for that stuff at first. But to be honest, I think if she had had a better outlet than that, she wouldn't be feeling this way. But what do I know?

[marym625]

2. of course you have a right to be upset

She basically negated your relationship and stated how horrible it was with bible quotes and how ashamed she was. What a fucking shitty thing to do.

Worse, if those pictures are you two, fuck that bitch. Well, don't, let some dude do it while she twiddles her thumbs.

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4. Well, luckily, no

that is not me or her. But Thank you for validating my hurt. It's just the fact that I once thought I would spend my life her, and now she has become this holier than thou person who I would like to consider a friend but makes it very hard. In the end, I win I suppose because I have a very loving woman that I love very much. But it is still shitty.

[ZombieHorde]

3. I would probably defriend her.

Not because of the bible quote, I have a Christian fb friend who posts Christian stuff from time to time, but because that person was making me unhappy. If I was having hard feelings about someone, I wouldn't want to see them when I log into fb in the morning.

[closeupready]

6. +1. I sadly unfriended many former classmates due to fundie-freakiness

overload. I just Can't. Go. There. I've come too far, that was so long ago. Over it!

Life is short. Enjoy it. Don't share precious time with people who bring you down or who betray your trust or invalidate the relationship you had with them.

[shenmue]

7. Oh no

It's a shame they got to her. Fundamentalists piss me off.