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Since rape is all the rage on DU today, I'd like your opinion of this: (Original Post) patrice Aug 2012 OP
Pretty fucked up and inappropriate. opiate69 Aug 2012 #1
Rape jokes are not cool, no matter the "context" Warren DeMontague Aug 2012 #2
I am stupid because what I took away from it: Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2012 #3
Men basically only get raped in prison. Warren Stupidity Aug 2012 #4
I don't know if that's accurate. MADem Aug 2012 #5
nit picking. Yes I meant forced raped of adults not pederasty. Warren Stupidity Aug 2012 #6
Well, I had a friend who left the seminary as an adult because there was too much MADem Aug 2012 #7
he was an adult who was forcibly raped in a seminary? Warren Stupidity Aug 2012 #9
Thats because men won't report them. William769 Aug 2012 #13
There is a very strong stigma 4th law of robotics Aug 2012 #16
No smart ass answers here. lumberjack_jeff Aug 2012 #17
I didn't say that. He resisted, but he was bullied for resisting and left. MADem Aug 2012 #23
"That sort of thing" ProudToBeBlueInRhody Aug 2012 #14
Absolutely NOT. He meant older instructors preying on young men. MADem Aug 2012 #22
I think you're missing the word "reported" in your assertion, frankly. nt MADem Aug 2012 #24
Only? Really? 4th law of robotics Aug 2012 #10
another nit picker. "basically only" is not "only". Warren Stupidity Aug 2012 #11
Please do 4th law of robotics Aug 2012 #12
I don't think it was meant as a joke. I think it was meant as a Statement -- Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2012 #15
Mostly? Probably. Only? No way. Major Nikon Aug 2012 #19
Prison is not the only place where men get raped. Okay, this may be anecdotal; but it does ... radicalliberal Aug 2012 #25
Not cool. Not in the slightest. n/t ElboRuum Aug 2012 #8
I've seen all kinds of crazy shit on DU. I've seen people here openly advocate killing all men. Warren DeMontague Aug 2012 #18
Meh. Mildly amusing at best. MrSlayer Aug 2012 #20
Sound and fury signifying nothing... TreasonousBastard Aug 2012 #21

Warren DeMontague

(80,708 posts)
2. Rape jokes are not cool, no matter the "context"
Mon Aug 20, 2012, 10:07 PM
Aug 2012

And Todd Akin is a gimungous asshole.

Those are my two initial thoughts.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
3. I am stupid because what I took away from it:
Mon Aug 20, 2012, 10:57 PM
Aug 2012

Men can be raped, too.

Rape is not just a Female thing.



to me it just showed how much more stupid is Akin because Rape has nothing to do with pregnancy.

I did not think it was a joke -

what is the joke?

 

Warren Stupidity

(48,181 posts)
4. Men basically only get raped in prison.
Tue Aug 21, 2012, 07:14 AM
Aug 2012

Despite the Deliverence Meme, that is where men get to experience some of the reality of sexual predation that women live with. However, many people, even here on DU, see prison rape as either funny or just or both.

The post wasn't funny to me either, just sick.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
5. I don't know if that's accurate.
Tue Aug 21, 2012, 10:05 AM
Aug 2012

Sandusky and those pedo priests weren't doing their nefarious deeds in prisons.

 

Warren Stupidity

(48,181 posts)
6. nit picking. Yes I meant forced raped of adults not pederasty.
Tue Aug 21, 2012, 10:11 AM
Aug 2012

Child rape is a whole different aspect of sexual predation.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
7. Well, I had a friend who left the seminary as an adult because there was too much
Tue Aug 21, 2012, 10:15 AM
Aug 2012

of "that sort of thing" going on--so I dunno. I think there might be a bit more of it happening that we realize, and it is under-reported, because it's not "manly" to admit victimization of that sort in this culture.

 

Warren Stupidity

(48,181 posts)
9. he was an adult who was forcibly raped in a seminary?
Tue Aug 21, 2012, 12:19 PM
Aug 2012

Why didn't he press criminal charges?

But that really wasn't my point. You can google the stats yourself, the vast majority of adult male rapes occur in prison.

William769

(55,147 posts)
13. Thats because men won't report them.
Tue Aug 21, 2012, 05:03 PM
Aug 2012

I know I am one of them.

I was in my late 20's and it wasn't a man that did it to me it was a female. I still have nightmares to this day over what had happened.

And before anyone has a smart ass answer to what I just said remember this, When you are put in a situation of this magnitude, reality goes right out the window!

 

4th law of robotics

(6,801 posts)
16. There is a very strong stigma
Tue Aug 21, 2012, 05:31 PM
Aug 2012

against men reporting rape.

If you are raped it's assumed either you are less of a man (if done by another man) or you really enjoyed it and are just being whiny (if done by a woman). Police, the law, society, etc all view male-rape victims drastically different than female rape victims (in many places rape is defined with female as the victim, if it's a man that is a different charge).

It's unfortunate and it is definitely something we ought to work at changing. But it will be a long uphill struggle.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
23. I didn't say that. He resisted, but he was bullied for resisting and left.
Wed Aug 22, 2012, 10:10 PM
Aug 2012

He said that others were abused as well.

Why didn't the children who were abused by priests "press criminal charges?"

Shall we have a round of "blame the victim?" In the fifties and sixties, no one would believe a young seminarian making that sort of complaint--the priests would say he was a "homosexual misfit" and that they threw HIM out because he was the problem.

Who would be believed? I mean, come on--get real for a second, here.

 

4th law of robotics

(6,801 posts)
10. Only? Really?
Tue Aug 21, 2012, 04:56 PM
Aug 2012

That's a pretty extraordinary claim. You really should provide stats to back it.

Also are you intentionally excluding statutory rape from that? Because that seems to be fairly common outside of prison.

 

Warren Stupidity

(48,181 posts)
11. another nit picker. "basically only" is not "only".
Tue Aug 21, 2012, 05:01 PM
Aug 2012

And yes I mean forced rape of adults. Please see the statistics on male rape. If google is broken for you I can help you with that.

 

4th law of robotics

(6,801 posts)
12. Please do
Tue Aug 21, 2012, 05:03 PM
Aug 2012

provide your sources.

/really you can't honestly expect the burden of proving your point to fall on everyone else can you?

//provide sources that prove men are only raped in prison and then explain why statutory rape isn't "rape rape" (to channel my inner whoopi).

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
15. I don't think it was meant as a joke. I think it was meant as a Statement --
Tue Aug 21, 2012, 05:13 PM
Aug 2012

an "In Your Face" statement to be sure...

I took it to be a big FUCK YOU to Akin from a gay man.

Major Nikon

(36,827 posts)
19. Mostly? Probably. Only? No way.
Wed Aug 22, 2012, 12:12 AM
Aug 2012

BJS estimates about 70,000 prison sexual assaults each year. The NCVS (which doesn't survey prison inmates) puts male rape at about 15,000 per year.

radicalliberal

(907 posts)
25. Prison is not the only place where men get raped. Okay, this may be anecdotal; but it does ...
Fri Aug 24, 2012, 06:17 PM
Aug 2012

... contribute to the discussion. When he was in his late teens, a friend of mine suffered a nervous breakdown because his mother had been suffering physical abuse from his stepfather and because he had been experiencing bullying at school. He was incarcerated for a few weeks in a state mental institution where he was eventually raped by another inmate, a muscular man in his forties who overpowered him. My friend, who is now about sixty years old, suffered permanent psychological injury. He still has nightmares to this day; and the trauma also caused him to suffer a complete loss of his sex drive, with the result that he never got married and still is and will remain a virgin. At the time he was raped, the mental health profession did not recognize the fact that men also got raped; so, aside from being prescribed tranquilizers, he was given no treatment. Today he's a broken man.

Warren DeMontague

(80,708 posts)
18. I've seen all kinds of crazy shit on DU. I've seen people here openly advocate killing all men.
Tue Aug 21, 2012, 07:50 PM
Aug 2012

It's unbelievable, but I've seen the blatant and open promotion of gender-based murder, maiming, posters hooting, jeering, and high-fiving over the idea of men being herded into concentration camps, that sort of thing.

It's really astounding just how fucking sick some people are.

 

MrSlayer

(22,143 posts)
20. Meh. Mildly amusing at best.
Wed Aug 22, 2012, 08:08 AM
Aug 2012

Stupid at worst. I don't find it vile and offensive. No humor is off limits in my opinion, it just has to be funny. This isn't all that funny.

TreasonousBastard

(43,049 posts)
21. Sound and fury signifying nothing...
Wed Aug 22, 2012, 09:45 AM
Aug 2012

Half-assed and forgettable attempt at humor, social statement, profundity, whatever but the reaction was, predictably, pretty much over the top. If it wasn't locked, who knows how many hundreds of posts of outrage it would be up to by now.

Curiously, the one post explaining it as something everyone might agree on was hidden, while the OP was not. Nor were posts calling for OPer's head. More grist for the jury-hater's mill, I suppose.




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