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The problem of being assaulted, beaten up and killed is a woman's problem. Men wouldn't understand. (Original Post) Bonobo Jan 2015 OP
That's true Major Nikon Jan 2015 #1
All I can think is that the argument is that if men do it to other men Bonobo Jan 2015 #2
Remember... Veilex Jan 2015 #3
Also don't forget... Major Nikon Jan 2015 #4
Indeed. Veilex Jan 2015 #5

Major Nikon

(36,827 posts)
1. That's true
Wed Jan 14, 2015, 02:53 AM
Jan 2015

I don't understand how the gender of the perpetrator in relation to the victim makes the crime more or less relevant.

Bonobo

(29,257 posts)
2. All I can think is that the argument is that if men do it to other men
Wed Jan 14, 2015, 03:57 AM
Jan 2015

than somehow it means "Too bad for you, you did it to yourselves..."

Seems like a rather cruel -and might I say victim-blaming mentality...

But more to the point, it ignores that actual day-to-day reality of mens' lives. Lives that are, from the time we are young, very much a struggle to deal with the threat of physical harm.

I do not understand how that point can be either a) overlooked or b) called "misogyny"/"denial" or "changing the subject".

 

Veilex

(1,555 posts)
3. Remember...
Wed Jan 14, 2015, 11:58 AM
Jan 2015

"Don't hit your sister" and "Don't hit girls" mentality?
Little girls are not told to not hit anyone.

The study found that a young woman's IPV was just as predictive of her male partner's future IPV as the man's own past IPV. In other words, whereas we often think of men as the only abusers and also as serial abusers, the OYS found that a woman's violence against her man was as predictive of his violence to her as his own history of violence.

Moreover, the study found that men's physical aggression changes significantly when they find a new partner. Instead of a man being either a batterer or not, often it was his female partner's violence or nonviolence which heavily influenced whether he would be violent to her.


http://www.huffingtonpost.com/glenn-sacks/researcher-says-womens-in_b_222746.html
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