My Dad died

[ohheckyeah]

this morning. I'm in shock.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

1. Oh no, my dear ohheckyeah...

I gather it was unexpected, and that is horrifying. Even if he'd been ill, the shock is there.

I am so very sorry. Please take care of yourself. Cry when you need to...

<----these are for you.

I hope he didn't suffer.

[snappyturtle]

2. I'm so sorry ohheckyeah. Been there. It takes time.

[uppityperson]

3. I am sorry, hugs to you

rip dad

[ohheckyeah]

6. He was

an amazing man, difficult but good and loving.

[uppityperson]

10. I am 3 weeks out from mine dying. It is not easy. Best to him and you and yours

[TeeYiYi]

22. I'm sorry, uppityperson...

...I'm so sorry for your loss.

I'm watching my parents struggle; dying by inches. They're 82 and 83; it's only a matter of time. :/

TYY

[Major Nikon]

12. I lost my dad in '96 and it still hurts

I know what you're going through.

Take care.

[Angry Dragon]

4. I am very sorry for your loss ..............

[ohheckyeah]

5. Thank you.

He had congestive heart failure and was starting to go down hill. He died in his sleep. I can't imagine a world without him. I hate that I didn't see him last week as I wasn't doing well. At least the last time I saw him he saw me walk with a cane and that made him happy.

[elleng]

7. Oh golly. :-(

Sorry it happened in a shocking way. Have had several deaths in the past years, and the shocking ones are the worst.

Know we are with you, ohheckyeah.

[Curmudgeoness]

8. You have my condolences.

It is never easy to lose someone we love. Apparently, this was unexpected, and that is the worst. I hope you find peace.

[nadinbrzezinski]

9. Hugs

[Terra Alta]

11. sorry for your loss.

You and your family are in my thoughts.

[ohheckyeah]

13. Thanks to everyone.

The last real close death was my Dad's mom back in 1971.

I go from crying to shock.

[alfredo]

14. So sorry.

[mnhtnbb]

15. I am so sorry to hear this.

Sending you a cyberhug.

[ohheckyeah]

18. I'll take

all the hugs I can get.

[angstlessk]

16. My Dad died when I was 16

It was the only time my knees gave out on me and I collapsed to the floor in grief.

[ohheckyeah]

17. I'm sorry

you didn't get more time with him. That sucks.

I tell myself I should just be grateful for all the time we had, and I am but death sucks. He would have been 89 in August. I guess there is no good time to lose a parent.

[angstlessk]

21. You are right, there is no good time to lose a parent

They are our protectors and advocates, once they are gone security seems less assured.

[Skittles]

32. my youngest brother was 17 when our dad passed

I remember thinking how that would be super tough, losing a parent when you're still in high school

[TeeYiYi]

19. (((((((ohheckyeah)))))))...

...

TYY

[Solly Mack]

20. I'm so sorry!

Sending you love and hugs.

[Mira]

23. My heart goes out to you. I am so very sorry.

It hurts so much that the only thing you can do is roll with it until slowly it gets a little better. I know how it breaks your heart.

[Hoppy]

24. I'm sorry for your loss.

Words don't make up for any of it but just know that we are here for you in spirit.

[NV Whino]

25. So sorry.

[handmade34]

26. (((...)))

[ohheckyeah]

27. I'm usually

pretty private with my feelings but I have to say this hurts beyond anything.

[applegrove]

28. (((HUGS)))

[Adsos Letter]

29. I am so sorry to hear this.

I remember when my mom died and how that felt to me. No words from any stranger could possibly ease the pain you are going through, but please know that I hope that you find some measure of comfort as you pass through this anguish.

[ohheckyeah]

30. .....

[Skittles]

31. someone is always here, ohheckyeah

[ohheckyeah]

33. Thank you, it helps

knowing that.

[barbtries]

34. i'm so sorry.

it sounds as if it was unexpected. that happened to me when my dad was 49 and i was 13. it was a very hard time. condolences.

[ohheckyeah]

35. Thank you.

I'm sorry you lost your dad at such a young age.

[Blue_In_AK]

36. I'm so sorry.

[brer cat]

37. I'm so sorry, ohheckyeah.

It is very hard to lose a parent.

[bluedigger]

38. I'm very sorry for your loss.

[csziggy]

39. So sorry for your loss

It's always hard losing a loved one. If you're having a hard time, find someone to talk to. Grief counselors can be very helpful with dealing with this time. I went to one after my Dad died in August of 2013 and she helped me get back on track and also helped me handle family problems that blew up during his last illness.

My thoughts will be with you.

[ohheckyeah]

40. Good idea

about the grief counselor. I'm prone to depression and anxiety as it is and the stroke had me depressed already.

[csziggy]

41. It's so easy to be depressed in this situation

Even if you aren't prone to it. I don't know if you're working or what your insurance setup is, but see if counseling can be covered. When Dad died my husband was still working and his insurance covered the counselor completely. There may be community resources to guide you to where you can get help.

I'm thinking of going back to the counselor. Mom is failing - she broke her hip and her dementia is much worse. It's hard seeing her this way.

[ohheckyeah]

44. I'm still

recovering from a stroke so I'm not working. I've had complcations with my recovery. My deductible is $4000 so we will have to pay for counseling.

It's

[csziggy]

45. Try calling 211 - groups are trying to establish that as a national hotline

For help of all sorts. If you can get through they can refer you to someplace that can help.

Or go to http://www.211.org/

There is help available - the hard part is finding it.

[ohheckyeah]

46. I'll check that

out. Thank you very much.

[CC]

42. So sorry to hear you lost your dad.

Sending wishes for comfort and healing for you and the family. Hugs too. Lots of hugs.

[ohheckyeah]

43. Thank you.

[Mz Pip]

47. So sorry for your loss.

Losing a parent is so very hard. Take care.