How long do you think it should take to get a wedding thank you

[Danmel]

We went to a wedding in June. Traveled 900 miles round trip. Gave a generous gift. No thank you. Am I expecting too much.

[hueymahl]

1. Is that why you went and gave a gift? To get a thank you?

If not, let it go.

That said, it has been too long. They are either rude, made a mistake, or the thank you got lost in the mail. You are not expecting too much, but I would still advise let it go.

[HopeAgain]

5. Good advice.

My thoughts exactly. A resentment is like taking poison and expecting the other person to suffer.

[MLAA]

2. Hmmm do you know for sure they got the gift? I mean did you see them open it?

[Grammy23]

3. A niece got married 3+ YEARS ago. She made a post on Facebook promising

Thank you notes after she got settled into her new job about 5 - 6 months after the wedding. We’re still waiting. Well, no not really. We know there won’t be any at this late date. Her grandmother and father had been nagging her to send them, which is what prompted the Facebook posting. I know she got the gift because I watched her open it. My recollection is she never sent a thank you for her high school or college graduation gifts either. My sister is rolling in her grave because when this young woman was a baby, my sister sent out thank yous from “the baby” and taught her they were expected. If she was still alive, she would have insisted they be written if she had to sit down with her and make it happen.

Not sure if this is a thing with this generation or if my niece is just lazy. Her excuse at the time was she was too stressed and busy. I said she and her husband could have split the list, vowed to do 10 per night each and gotten them knocked out in a week. But that’s just me. Sigh....

[Danmel]

4. They cashed the check

That's how I know

[lunasun]

6. yep I noticed no thank yous for any occasion lately

[LisaM]

7. I have been waiting five years for one.

All I really would have cared about was a quick email. I dropped a gift card in an envelope into a pile of envelopes and never heard a peep. To this day, I have no idea if they actually got it or if they think we stiffed them!!

It's really rude not to acknowledge when someone travels that far, though - because you partly thank guests for being part o f the event.

[Phentex]

8. I think a year is okay

not sure I understand what could take so long especially if two people work on them together but I think the old etiquette rules were you had a year to buy a gift and a year to get a thank you.

Keep in mind, many people today don't think there's anything wrong with just saying thank you or emailing thanks. So I try not to be too offended........ but I still find it odd.

[Coventina]

9. One year is the expected time frame.

I know this, because I did scrupulous research when I got married.

[SCantiGOP]

10. I have about 25 nieces and nephews

I like to remember them, so each gets a card, and after they are 10 they also get a check in the amount of their birthday ($15 for fifteenth birthday, etc).
I have told them all not to waste time sending a thank you card, but I do expect an email or text letting me know that they received it. This has worked so far.

Funny thing is, almost all of their parents have said that when they got their first check, they had no idea what it was or how to convert it to money. One nephew came running in the house one day because a neighbor's kid was selling chocolate bars for $2 each as a school fundraiser. He wanted to get his $12 check that just arrived and give it to the kid for 6 bars.

[Danmel]

11. That's cute

But they are almost 30 years old and it was a generous gift.