My goddaughter is making one bad decision after another.

[no_hypocrisy]

She is 22 and single. Lives alone. Had a baby last year. Court gave the baby to the mother of the babydaddy because my goddaughter couldn't afford to raise her (among other things). No college, no job.

Mental issues. Not on medication. Drinks and smokes pot a lot.

Goes after men who use her for her money and her body.

Has been relentless going after this one man whom she recognizes as getting another woman pregnant and going to the Bahamas with. My goddaughter now announces on F/B that she's four weeks pregnant with his child. (She imagines already she can feel the "fluttering".)

All that I can project is that if she doesn't have an abortion, it's one more child that Child Protection will remove. This new babydaddy isn't a fool; he's claiming it isn't his (like she didn't see this coming).

And the thing is that she's heartbroken. Not that I think that she's in love. It's that she couldn't manipulate a man to leave another woman who's already pregnant with his child by getting pregnant herself, making him choose between them, and getting him to marry her so she has someone to take care of her.

And no, you can't talk to her.

[Croney]

1. It sounds like you are talking to her,

since you know not only her actions, but also her thoughts and motivations. Some of your assumptions might be seen differently by another observer, so maybe there is a relative or friend of hers you could reach out to and suggest they visit or call her. You sound really worried about her, and helpless, so it's time to make a change in your relationship with her.

How can men use her for her money if she has no job? Who supports her?

At 22, she is living her life and struggling to grow up like we all did. It's hard to watch young people make mistakes. If only they would listen to our admonitions and accept our advice! (...says every generation).

I hope things work out for her. It does sound like she needs help. Maybe if she can be asked what kind of help she would welcome, her needs could be better addressed. Otherwise, it might be time for you to take a step back and extricate yourself from this drama.

[rug]

2. Sounds to me like the new guy manipulated her.

Exploited each of her vulnerabilities and now walks away.

[steve2470]

3. +1 nt

[Phentex]

4. sounds familiar...

just like my niece. Who ended up with four kids (none live with her). Seems like she is always trying to escape into a new life. She did finally kick the drugs and drinking and is supposedly back in school for something (but I've heard this SO many times so who knows?) She's now with a man about 25 years her senior and has called him her finace for a few years. Last I heard from her mother, they were having problems.

Some people can't be helped.