Wedding Etiquette question

[La Lioness Priyanka]

I have tons of friends. This is not an exaggeration. I have friends from organizing, undergrad, grad, DU, work etc.
Naturally I cannot invite all 800 to my wedding. With that said, I usually post a lot about my wedding and associated things on facebook.

Since I am not inviting all my friends to my wedding, would it be rude to link to my wedding website on Facebook? I like sharing things about my life, but don't want to be mean.

What's the verdict?

[Chan790]

1. I think you can post it to your Facebook.

In fact, i think you should...it's a good way for those you can't invite to feel a part of your special day. I mean we're Facebook friends, I'm not expecting an invite. I'll probably post well-wishes to you on the wedding day. (I will, unless I forget the date. I tend towards absent-mindedness.)

[La Lioness Priyanka]

2. thanks!

[Turbineguy]

3. And then there are all your DU friends!

I love wedding cake. I love weddings! OK, there are a couple of funerals I'd like to go to as well. But I digress.

I am not Miss Manners, but I think it's OK to link the sites. I would just leave out the part about "Just because you haven't been invited that's no reason you shouldn't buy me a present!" part. After all, you're not a republican.

[VenusRising]

4. Absolutely, you should!

It's not possible to invite 800 people without the recent winning mega-millions ticket.

People will understand, and I'm sure will be glad to be included in whatever way you can.

[HopeHoops]

5. You could take the middle ground.

Link to the wedding page and say how wonderful the event was, but also add a disclaimer that Uncle Louie threw up beer all over the wedding cake.

[alphafemale]

6. Because people LOVE being invited to weddings.

Almost as much as they love being invited to 8th grade piano recitals.

Are you KIDDING?

Most people will be thrilled that you did not obligate them. Yet you are still sharing your joy with them.

Weddings suck. Maybe a paintball wedding. Yeah. Nail the Flower Girl dead center in the chest.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

7. well for straight people it may be your thousandth boring wedding

we've had very few in our community, and so people are excited to be at mine and the people i can't invite, have expressed being somewhat hurt.

[LynneSin]

8. Here's my suggestion

You better post your wedding on facebook - how else will we all get to see the photos?

One of my closest friends just got married about a year ago - a 2nd wedding for both of them. The wanted to keep the wedding simple and only immediate family was invited. A week later they had a big party at their house and invited everyone. A real casual event - everyone wore jeans, shorts, t-shirts - regular clothes. They asked for no gifts but just for people to come celebrate with them.

You could do something like that after your wedding - have a post-wedding reception, pick a favorite bar or club near your home and tell your friends if they'd like to celebrate your wedding to stop on by and join in the celebration.