I just want to vent
About a friend's abusive son. She is a goodhearted, retired person. Her adult alcoholic son came to live with her a few years ago. He was supposed to help around the house, such as yard work and she gave him money to paint the house. Within days after he got there, he became verbally abusive and broke things in her house and refused to leave when she told him to go. She called the police after a month of it, and they told her that she'd have to evict him. I ended up writing a letter to county elder abuse and she had a counselor until he finally left. He didn't do the work and she ended up getting a church group to paint the house because he wouldn't and he spent the money and never paid her back. He moved to another state for a couple of years, and it didn't work out. He told his Mom he quit drinking and the woman he was living with was crazy. So she let him come back. It was supposed to be for 3 months, but turned into another 2 years. I think he goes to AA meetings, but who knows? He tells everyone his mother is crazy and should be in a home. Her friends know differently and we make sure to defend her if we have to. He tried telling that to me, so that's why I avoid him.
The house she lives in belonged to her parents. She decided to sell it this summer, I suspect because it is the only way she can get him out of her home. She sold the house and it is going through closing. She is moving in with her friend and supposedly, the son is going back with his ex-girlfriend. My friend told me today that her son is threatening to stop the sale of the house and/or put a lien on the house. He isn't going back to his ex-girlfriend for another month, or should I say, she won't come and get him for another month, and being broke, manipulative, abusive, he has no place to go. I have told my friend repeatedly to contact elder abuse, but she is ashamed because she let him come back. I told her earlier this year that they'd understand that it is hard for a mother to give up on her child.
My usual instinct is to be helpful, but I don't want to help him. I told my friend about property management companies in our area. She said he doesn't want to pay nonrefundable deposits, he doesn't want to live in that apt. etc, etc. He has children and a sister and they won't help either. I told her today if he is in the house when the people move in, they can arrest him for trespassing.
I'm hoping my friend gets moved out and he doesn't snap before she does. I'm done venting. Thanks for reading.
