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http://www.huffingtonpost.com/kayla-matthews/6-things-worry-free-people-do-to-avoid-stress_b_9375958.html03/13/2016 01:20 pm ET | Updated 5 hours ago
Kayla Matthews
Huffington Post blogger
It might be amazing to think about, but not everyone is stressed all the time. Those people who aren't always stressed aren't necessarily peaceful monks either, but normal people with similar pressures and expectations that you and I have. So what's the difference between the stressed and the nonstressed?
You could say that stress has become a badge of honor in today's society, and if you aren't stressed, you aren't busy enough, but that's probably not it. Really, these are just people who have figured out how to deal with their stress more effectively. The good news is that you can do it, too.
1. Figure Out What Causes Your Stress and Find a Better Way to Handle It
You don't always have control over what happens to you, but you can always control how you handle it.
. You can't avoid meetings at work, deadlines or the pressure that comes with a family, but you can change how you view these things.
You can practice reframing those problem areas. Try thinking about how neat it could be to explain to your co-workers what you've been doing, or how wonderful it is that you have enough food for your family, even if the dishes pile up. The ability to reframe how you view certain situations can change a stressful event into a joyful one.
2. Be Mindful
There's a difference between being mindful and being watchful. Anxious people tend to be watchful, waiting for something to go wrong. Mindful people are simply aware of what's going on, both externally and internally. More than that, though, they're focused on the present so they're less likely to get caught up in a chain of what ifs. Stay present and focused on what's going on around you, and you'll find there's less time to worry and more time to be happy. It takes practice though, so make sure to take time to do it.
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I am not "worry free"...perhaps more of the opposite..but I need to give these ideas a try as often as possible. I would add only one...
quiet daily meditation 10 to 15 minutes...does help to relieve stress
Skittles
(153,169 posts)and I will show you a sociopath
Solly Mack
(90,773 posts)Thanks!
Stuart G
(38,436 posts)I am always glad to add something to someone's life. Now I am worried that you are worried about something negative..It seemed like a positive article to me, but I worry that others here worry about the worry affect too..oh oh
What me worry?...
Solly Mack
(90,773 posts)Stuart G
(38,436 posts)I couldn't stop worrying and wondering why that book never helped me to stop worrying...oh my
Solly Mack
(90,773 posts)I actually do take joy in the little things.
GusBob
(7,286 posts)8. Do charity work
9. Spend more time outdoors
10. Nap. Even God naps
11. Grow plants
12. Avoid heavy traffic and road rage
13. Have a savings account
14. Stay out of GDP
Stuart G
(38,436 posts)eppur_se_muova
(36,271 posts)This does more to combat stress than anything else I know.
NightWatcher
(39,343 posts)Marie Marie
(9,999 posts)OK... so then I started to worry about what I was NOT worrying about that could happen.
Then as I matured along life's journey, I learned to develop a good old fashioned case of the "screw its" and I've been better off ever since.
So Far From Heaven
(354 posts)Populist_Prole
(5,364 posts)Others have posted many good points. Mine are few and simple.
Watch no TV news. Major step. Not doing so doesn't make one less informed, despite the snarky statements of MSM TV addicted types might use as retorts to your aversion to MSM TV. They're ignorant assholes; Admit it, even if they are otherwise good in other ways. Fuck them. You'll find yourself somewhat at odds with pseudo-outraged types that can't understand your lack of outrage. NOT always being pissed off is a reward in itself; seeing other ignorant assholes expending great effort in impotent rage is yet another.
Be not judgemental: always be aware there are things you don't know. Don't try to extrapolate from tidbits of whatever, or what you think you know. You'll feel so much more at peace with yourself and the world around you...or at least your corner of the world. What you do learn will come as that much more rewarding.
katrin-ru
(2 posts)Watch these videos guys http://undepress.net/stress-relieve-videos-take-a-tissue/ , You won't be stressed anymore))))
Duppers
(28,125 posts)TY.
Orrex
(63,216 posts)I guess I'll blow my whole paycheck on ice cream and video games today, and I don't have to be mindful of my overdue utility bills until they're due in three weeks and I have no money to pay them. Sweet!
Blue Dalek
(178 posts)does the trick for me
Gidney N Cloyd
(19,842 posts)We have a lot of people around here, particularly the psych faculty who double as counselors, who don't sweat anything because they know at some level one or more of the rest of us will pick up the slack.