RANT

[Kali]

who in the FUCK would turn down a chance to go to Germany for 3 weeks basically for FREE???

My spouse, that is who. God damn it. I am so pissed right now I can't see straight. This could be the ONLY chance he will EVER have to go there. His roots are there (not recent immigrants or anything but still) He knows the people he would be staying with pretty well - they have been here many times. He LOVES the food. He would have so much fun...fuck...I am in tears. How can somebody turn an opportunity like this down? I can't comprehend this

[seabeyond]

1. what is the reason he told you, he turned it down. nt

[Kali]

2. none just doesn't want to

of course I lost it and wasn't anywhere near being a compassionate listener...

[seabeyond]

11. lol. first, hubby wouldnt want to leave us (me) for three weeks

he has just gotten too comfortable and LIKES being with me.



am i really going to chew his ass off for that, lol.

i betcha your hubby just cant see himself without you for that long of a time. he would miiiiiiiiiss you.

[Kali]

15. nah

I leave at least once a year for a couple weeks (have gone a month before) and he has had jobs on the road (and still talks about his travel adventures - arrggghh)

the first time I took off for Mexico I ended up being gone for 10 days and that was pretty much pre-computer or even cell phone days. That freaked him out a bit, but now it's kind of "You're still here?"

[seabeyond]

21. ah ha. how interesting. hmmm

dunno

[rug]

3. Send him a post card from Bremen.

[Kali]

7. I have been, this was to be his turn.

yeah I suppose I should just go again myself...man

[taterguy]

4. He has a secret identity that would be revealed if he got a passport

Sorry you had to find out this way.

[Kali]

6. I fucking got the passport for him already.

I knew he was nervous but I really thought he would come around. I was getting ready to look for flights (our friend is paying for the flight too!) tonight and I jokingly said, so are you OK with going I need to start looking for a ticket and he said he didn't think he wanted to go...the conversation kind of plummeted off a cliff after that.

[MiddleFingerMom]

5. check Email

[Kali]

8. answered

yeah I know - things like that are everywhere, people are the same all over the world. You make friends.

[Ptah]

9. That gives me a sad.

[Kali]

16. yeah

not like we are loaded and could do this sort of thing on a whim (or even by planning!)

[Ptah]

10. Not only that, where else could a stonemason learn

[Tuesday Afternoon]

12. what is it? is he afraid to fly?

I don't get it. at all. sorry.

[Kali]

17. well, he doesn't like it but he certainly has done it

it isn't some paralyzing fear. Like going to Germany seems to be.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

20. indeed -

is it just Germany or all of Europe or



send me his ticket instead. we will have a ball and we can see MissHc, too. She would love it j/k <---- kinda.

[Kali]

24. I don't think it is the destination so much as it is FAR and maybe too long?

me, I'm like tickets are looking like WELL over $1000, I'd be looking to stay at least a month because the opportunity is probably not ever going to happen again. Talkin' silly lottery odds, pretty much.

shit my sister is going to Egypt for the 6th time in April (work) after getting evacuated last year - and things haven't settled down completely there yet.

I guess I will have to admit he is a more typical American that doesn't need or want to experience the rest of the world. This is his first passport too. I guess he will at least be able to go to lunch across the border with me once in a while now. (I got him the new passport card too - I don't even have one of those yet) He hasn't been to Mexico, even Rocky Point (Arizona's Mexican beach ), in YEARS.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

13. Ah, my dear Kali...

Some people just don't like to travel that much, esp. if the spouse can't go too...

Never mind whose turn it is...if he won't go, then you should.

He has no idea what he's missing...

I'm really sorry.

[Kali]

18. He thinks he doesn't like it but he ALWAYS has a good time

and talks about it forever.

[elleng]

27. Sorry, but would be MORE sorry if he said YOU couldn't go.

To each his own (even when it seems silly.)

[Angry Dragon]

14. It sounds as if he needs a Skittles and Kali ass kicking

[Kali]

19. !

SKITTLES!!!

[seabeyond]

22. lmao

there is always the ultimate.... skittles.

[Aristus]

23. If you still have the chance to go, Kali, take me!

I LOVE Germany, and can't wait to go back. Forgive me, but your husband is an idiot.

I mean: GERMANY!!!!

[Kali]

25. frigging castle on every damn hill!

[Aristus]

26. Very nearly.

The density of castle-covered hills reaches maximum in the Rhineland. Solid-gold real estate in the dark ages. Had to be protected...


BTW, you haven't said 'yes'...

[bluedigger]

28. I'm sorry you are so disappointed.

I don't get it, either.

I'm sure you will have a good time, though, with or without him!

[geardaddy]

29. Does he just not like travelling?

[Dystopian]

30. Sory Kali....

Kali

When he went before, did he go alone? You mentioned distance.....I have anxiety involving distance, but am okay when I'm with someone.

I'm sorry this is making you sad because I see that you want him to have some fun and joy in life....
This shows much love and kindness....But I guess he just can't do it.

I suppose you must take the situation as it is...and be the one to have fun.
You are the bold and the beautiful!

I hope you can start concentrating....and getting excited about your adventure.
I wish I could travel....You're lucky to have this opportunity.

Wishing you happiness...


peace~

[Swede]

31. That is too bad,Kali.

My brother lived there for six years and he loved every minute of it.

[LNM]

32. I had that problem with my husband

He always said "there is so much to see in America, we don't need to go to Europe". Then my college-age daughter studied abroad for a few months and I told him "That's it, we're going now".

Except for some anxiety regarding language in France and driving on the "wrong" side of the road in Scotland, he loved it and we've been back twice since then.

Could it be something like that that is keeping him from going?

[Kali]

33. I don't have a clue - really

he won't talk about it and I lose my temper too fast

and of course he developed a minor medical problem the day after I posted this so I haven't even been able to bring it up again. sigh

I think he has a little anxiety about it in general. I dragged him off to Guaymas for our honeymoon before I realized he had never been past Nogales before - his whole family was a little nervous about that (and this was decades ago - pre drug war) so it is likely "hereditary" if you know what I mean.

I agree a bit with your husband - there are a lot of cool things to see here - this is a big and varied place, but when you have a chance like this, (especially paid for) you have to go when and where you can! These things are not to be passed up if at all possible, in my book.

[LNM]

34. I agreed with my husband as well

That's why we didn't really discuss Europe much. We've traveled to every state in the U.S. You're right there is a lot to see.

I hope you get him to change his mind.