Daily Beast: A Dominatrix Reviews ‘50 Shades of Grey'

[RandySF]

From the point of view of a dominatrix, I wouldn't describe Fifty Shades of Grey as a realistic depiction of the relationship between two BDSM play partners. I've worked as a professional dominatrix and submissive for three years, and currently run a small fetish studio in Manhattan. I have worked in a commercial dungeon as well as independently, have had personal slaves, and have attended fetish/suspension parties. I would, however describe Fifty Shades of Grey as E.L. James’s watered-down BDSM-related fantasy that’s been translated into a Hollywood movie targeting the general population; a populist bondage film.

n reality, the characters Anastasia Steele and Christian Grey probably wouldn’t have met during a professional interview. The majority of dominant/submissive relationships begin online or after meeting at a fetish event. Because how would someone know if the person he or she is into shares similar views or kink interests? Although I could see why Grey is drawn to Anastasia Steele—she is young, reserved, and inexperienced sexually, or the perfect clay for a natural dominant to mold into his obedient, devoted submissive. But the odds of someone like Anastasia Steele considering a dom-sub relationship are slim. I would compare it to BDSM Cinderella; you're probably not going to meet your prince charming after losing your ball gag at a fancy ball.

Considering the audience Fifty Shades of Grey was made for—that is, the BDSM-illiterate but sexually semi-curious—I tried my best to keep an open mind. But there were some parts of the movie that made me laugh and shake my head in disdain.

http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2015/02/14/a-dominatrix-reviews-50-shades-of-grey.html

[lovemydog]

1. 'You're probably not going to meet your prince charming after losing your ball gag

at a fancy ball.'

Well-said.

[Marthe48]

2. Nope

I am always so careful to avoid pain, such as cutting myself with a knife, biting my tongue, stubbing my toe.