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LynneSin

(95,337 posts)
Thu Feb 12, 2015, 06:55 PM Feb 2015

POST HERE - Bad first date movies....

Nothing like the first date. I remember one of my first dates - he took me to 'Return of the Jedi' which was a perfect date movie because we were both big 'Star Wars' fans (but not super Star Wars geeks) and the date had the right amount of adventure without too much sex or gore to turn the first date into something super awkward.

Of course not all first dates at the movie have turned out that well. I had one first date take me to one of those super extra gore movies which in reality isn't something I would normally see myself and I wish the guy would have asked - 'what movie would you like to see'. I mean I wouldn't have ruined the night by making him sit through a chick-flick. I like action films and would have been happy to see something where things blow up and people get shot and Arnold or Bruce saves the day. But Gore slashers are not my things and I figured that the guy bought the tickets without asking which means he probably isn't going to be good dating material (btw if he had asked 'would you mind seeing this gore flick I really want to see it - I might have said yes. But to assume is just bad).

I did have one potential first date suggest we see 9 1/2 weeks, I ended up with a 'family emergency'. I knew better.

I'm going to assume there will be several people trying to have their first date with 'Fifty Shades of Grey'. My money is that those will be relationships that do not last very long.

Post here your bad first date movie (or what you would think would be a bad first date movie).

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POST HERE - Bad first date movies.... (Original Post) LynneSin Feb 2015 OP
Eyes Wide Shut magical thyme Feb 2015 #1
I don't care how many dates I was on - that would have still been a bad choice LynneSin Feb 2015 #2
+1000 Blue_Tires Feb 2015 #32
Fatal Attraction pinboy3niner Feb 2015 #3
Even worse if the woman suggested it as the movie LynneSin Feb 2015 #6
And then you both go back to the car lovemydog Feb 2015 #19
Arachnophobia irisblue Feb 2015 #4
In the Company of Men Enrique Feb 2015 #5
Good answer! Tom Ripley Feb 2015 #25
Turned out that "Behind the Green Door" was not a sequel to "Love Story" after all .... Scuba Feb 2015 #7
I can't imagine that Romero's original hifiguy Feb 2015 #8
American Psycho IrishEyes Feb 2015 #9
Apocalypse now Danmel Feb 2015 #10
On their first date, my dad took my mom to the movies to see Blue_Tires Feb 2015 #11
+1 Joe Shlabotnik Feb 2015 #12
love your user name Danmel Feb 2015 #36
My very first ever date OriginalGeek Feb 2015 #13
I Spit on Your Grave, Joe Shlabotnik Feb 2015 #14
Candyman shenmue Feb 2015 #15
Last Tamgo in Paris cyberswede Feb 2015 #16
"Eating Raoul" Laffy Kat Feb 2015 #17
Any movie is bad on the first date. Jamaal510 Feb 2015 #18
That's not necessarily true LynneSin Feb 2015 #27
Nope Blue_Tires Feb 2015 #28
Magic (Anthony Hopkins) kentauros Feb 2015 #20
Debbie Does Dallas Art_from_Ark Feb 2015 #21
I know Joe Versus the Volcano was a bad first movie. boston bean Feb 2015 #22
I went on a first date to see Deliverance. hedgehog Feb 2015 #23
I'm going to ask the moderators to lock the thread - YOU WIN LynneSin Feb 2015 #26
That's actually a damn good date movie Blue_Tires Feb 2015 #31
Star 80 Tom Ripley Feb 2015 #24
Well, as I said in another thread NewJeffCT Feb 2015 #29
Nothing personal but the DUer who saw 'Deliverance' on a first date LynneSin Feb 2015 #34
yes, I agree NewJeffCT Feb 2015 #35
I have one DFW Feb 2015 #30
Since I don't really date... Let me tell you the one movie that was bad for me. Xyzse Feb 2015 #33
The Toxic Avenger jmowreader Feb 2015 #37

Blue_Tires

(55,445 posts)
32. +1000
Fri Feb 13, 2015, 11:03 AM
Feb 2015

I love Kubrick, and read in the papers how explicit the sex scenes were supposed to be, so I took a date (not our first date, probably our second or third) to see it one Saturday night, hoping it would get her warmed up for some action later...

Not only did my date fall asleep after the first hour, she kind of stretched herself out in a manner that I couldn't even put my arm around her...To top it all off, she *snored* (but luckily not so loud that the people around us complained or cared)...Didn't wake up until closing credits...

I think to myself, "Fine, at least I can enjoy Kubrick's filmmaking and some shamelessly graphic sex scenes" and of course both of those lived up to about 2% of the critically acclaimed hype...

 

Scuba

(53,475 posts)
7. Turned out that "Behind the Green Door" was not a sequel to "Love Story" after all ....
Thu Feb 12, 2015, 07:58 PM
Feb 2015
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Behind_the_Green_Door


A wealthy San Francisco socialite, Gloria Saunders (Chambers), is taken against her will to an elite North Beach sex club and loved "as she's never been loved before." There she engages in lesbian sex with a group of six women, for some reason all dressed in black, before being brought out wearing a white dress on stage through the green door.

The silent, largely masked audience become increasingly aroused[3] as her white dress is removed and she is stroked, kissed and given cunnilingus by the women. Her first heterosexual sex is with the African-American boxer Johnny Keyes, accompanied by a jazz soundtrack.[9][10] Over 45 minutes, he gives her more cunnilingus and then they have sexual intercourse, while Gloria continues to be stroked by the other women. When she has an orgasm, the sex stops and he is not shown to ejaculate.

Gloria then mounts a trapeze contraption suspended from the ceiling and then engages in vaginal intercourse with one man as she performs oral sex on another and masturbates two others.[11] The audience become further aroused and begin having sex with each other in what becomes an orgy.[12] In a psychedelic key sequence, an ejaculation is shown with semen flying through the air for almost seven minutes. The film features several multicolored, optically printed, slow-motion close-ups of money shots.[9] This is the only ejaculation sequence in the film. The narrator then runs from the audience onto the stage and carries Gloria off through the green door.[9] The film ends with him and Gloria making love alone.[9]

IrishEyes

(3,275 posts)
9. American Psycho
Thu Feb 12, 2015, 08:11 PM
Feb 2015

That was a movie I went to see on a first date. I went on a second date with the guy. I'm not sure why. We went to a comedy club and he didn't laugh once.

I also saw a movie called Bye Bye Love on another first date. We didn't have a second date.

Blue_Tires

(55,445 posts)
11. On their first date, my dad took my mom to the movies to see
Thu Feb 12, 2015, 10:34 PM
Feb 2015

"Two-Lane Blacktop" http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Two-Lane_Blacktop

Now I saw the movie for the first time in my late 20s, and I loved it...But I'm also a car guy and I personally *LOVE* the early 60s-mid 70s era of nihilist filmmaking (i.e., Vanishing Point, Easy Rider, Electra Glide in Blue, Bless the Beasts and the Children, etc.)...

Since my parents were neither of those at the time, it has to rank among the alltime worst first-date movies...

OriginalGeek

(12,132 posts)
13. My very first ever date
Thu Feb 12, 2015, 11:06 PM
Feb 2015

By ourselves where I picked her up in a car (as opposed to mom driving us and chaperoning)
was to see the first Raiders of the Lost Ark movie.
I elbowed her in the head 3 times trying to smoothly put my arm around her.
She finally just grabbed my arm slipped it over her head herself - not so much because she wanted to be in my arms but more because she didn't want a concussion.

Still friends with her on FB...she ended up married to the guy she broke up with me to date.


I loved the movie but she was grossed out by the face melting. Or maybe she was just queasy from the brain injury.

Joe Shlabotnik

(5,604 posts)
14. I Spit on Your Grave,
Thu Feb 12, 2015, 11:07 PM
Feb 2015

The Last House on the Left (1972), Deliverance, Faces of Death, The Doom Generation, Trash (1970), maybe Eraserhead too.

Laffy Kat

(16,385 posts)
17. "Eating Raoul"
Thu Feb 12, 2015, 11:17 PM
Feb 2015

It was funny (I thought) but not for the prudish or squeamish. I saw it on a first date waaaaaay back when. I didn't really know too much about my date and it turns out he was quite conservative. No loss.

Jamaal510

(10,893 posts)
18. Any movie is bad on the first date.
Thu Feb 12, 2015, 11:18 PM
Feb 2015

The first date is typically a time for two people to converse and get to know each other better. During a movie, there's not as much time for chit-chat, especially when in a theater. I'd rather spend a first date doing something else like going for a walk or getting something to eat or drink, and save the movie-watching for another time.

LynneSin

(95,337 posts)
27. That's not necessarily true
Fri Feb 13, 2015, 09:54 AM
Feb 2015

If all you do on a first date is see a movie then it sucks terribly.

Many first dates I've had included dinner, then movie and perhaps drinks afterwards. That is perfectly fine as a first date. I had one first day where we went to the movie first then that movie gave us great conversation for drinks afterwards. We dated for 6 months until he had to relocate for his job and in the end I just found him a better friend than anything else.

Also one time I knew a first date was going bad at dinner so I did suggest a movie just so I could find a way to make it end with less communications. Then afterwards I plead an early morning.

Blue_Tires

(55,445 posts)
28. Nope
Fri Feb 13, 2015, 10:24 AM
Feb 2015

Especially if you do dinner/coffee afterwards to discuss the movie (hopefully you choose something with enough artistic/comedic/intellectual merit for a philosophical discussion later...)

And the old cliche still rings true (well, at least for girls in their teens-mid-20s): If you want your date to be all over you like velcro before the night is over, scare her with a horror or suspense flick...

kentauros

(29,414 posts)
20. Magic (Anthony Hopkins)
Fri Feb 13, 2015, 02:56 AM
Feb 2015



Also

Caligula (R-rated version) and from the first row at that!
And she's the one that wanted to see it.




Now, Heavy Metal turned out to be a good date movie

Art_from_Ark

(27,247 posts)
21. Debbie Does Dallas
Fri Feb 13, 2015, 03:06 AM
Feb 2015

Satan's Cheerleaders
Molested
Deep Throat

*Disclaimer: I never went to any of these movies on a date. My first date movie was either the original Star Wars or Close Encounters of the Third Kind.

LynneSin

(95,337 posts)
26. I'm going to ask the moderators to lock the thread - YOU WIN
Fri Feb 13, 2015, 09:50 AM
Feb 2015

Words just profoundly escape me as to ask how!

(ps moderators do not lock the thread - it was just a figure of speech)

Blue_Tires

(55,445 posts)
31. That's actually a damn good date movie
Fri Feb 13, 2015, 10:37 AM
Feb 2015

It's always been kind of a shame that Deliverance is mostly just remembered for "that scene", because it's a pretty complex film that is well-directed, beautifully shot, and overflowing with social/societal/environmental commentary...

A dude taking you to that because he's interested in your intellect and wants an engaging discussion afterwards is pretty smart...If he took you to see it in an effort to 'grease your wheels' so he could 'get in' later, then it's not so smart...

NewJeffCT

(56,828 posts)
29. Well, as I said in another thread
Fri Feb 13, 2015, 10:25 AM
Feb 2015

I had a first date insist that we go to see Silence of the Lambs on our date. It had been getting great reviews and a lot of publicity, but I'm not sure it was clear from the reviews that Hannibal Lecter was a cannibal and the bad guy was skinning people alive.

Needless to say, it was not the kind of date that you would take a person to after dinner in most cases, so we did not go on a second date.

LynneSin

(95,337 posts)
34. Nothing personal but the DUer who saw 'Deliverance' on a first date
Fri Feb 13, 2015, 11:49 AM
Feb 2015

they just kicked your butt in this category



(scroll up)

Xyzse

(8,217 posts)
33. Since I don't really date... Let me tell you the one movie that was bad for me.
Fri Feb 13, 2015, 11:46 AM
Feb 2015

Virgin Suicides directed by Sofia Coppola, with Kirsten Dunst and a bunch of other people.

The great thing about it though was we both got fed up with the movie and left the theater for some other type of action.

Problem was, at the time, I still had the idea of saving myself for marriage, and she pushed too far, and when I balked, well... She didn't talk to me for about two weeks.

Yeah, I have bad associations with that movie.

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