Would you quit your job if you hated it?

[cwydro]

And you could?

[cwydro]

1. Anyone?

Bueller?

[mrmpa]

2. I have done so.......

last January, I walked out & told my boss to "fuck off." Before I quit I called my 84 year old mother & asked her if I could quit. Her answer was "get the hell out of there."

[cwydro]

4. Omg...you sound like me

Because my mom is 88, and I want her approval.

She knows I hate the place.

I'm very well respected there and all that shit.

But it is killing my soul.

[hopemountain]

3. what is right for you

is right for the universe. one door closes - another opens. follow your heart.
unless you have little ones and extra mouths to feed... then you suck it up and don't quit until you have another job.

[cwydro]

5. Hope, I only have me

and my chickens and dogs.

I'm in my late 50's and I think it is time to stop being unhappy.

[hopemountain]

6. yes! happiness is undervalued.

i have quit a couple of jobs i hated - and i have to say, it is very empowering - scary - but things important to one's well being do not constitute fodder for abuse - nor compromise.

will this be the day?

[cwydro]

7. It might!

Thank you for your input.

[hopemountain]

8. do something you haven't done in awhile afterward

physical or sensory (other than contemplative)

and start having fun!

[cwydro]

9. I'll go ride my bike lol.

i'm just a (very old) kid.

[Arkansas Granny]

10. I have quit a couple of jobs, but only after lining up another and

giving notice. I couldn't afford having no income or the bad reference from my employer.

[KG]

11. have several times

[magical thyme]

12. I did many times in my 20s

Later and now I've stuck them out because I have my fur and feather-family to care for.

But I hate my one p/t job so much that I am starting to eff up and not care. They can't threaten me with firing because 1. I'll be grateful and 2. no matter what they fired people for, they still had to pay unemployment The state knows they're failing and their headquarters are out of state, so they're happy to take them for whatever they can get out of them.

I'm sticking it out right now until their "high" season is over. I know they won't fire me right now because they are coming into their "high" season. But April 1 or so, I give them notice.

The other p/t job should give me enough work to get through the summer, and possibly enough for year round. If not, I'll start collecting social security early.

Life is toooooo short for being miserable all the time. I just spent my entire weekend miserable because I didn't want to go to work on Monday. I. am. done. with. this.

[Callmecrazy]

13. How are the horses doing?

Are you getting snow?

[magical thyme]

17. the horses are fine. just came in from cleaning up.

They've moved themselves into the northwest corner, where they are protected from all the wind and snow that's blowing in under the eaves. Wind is coming from the west-northwest.

We're getting hammered. I thought maybe it wound down when I was cleaning, but it's just that the wind is steady now and I got used to the sound of it. It actually strengthened in the last hour.

[cwydro]

21. Thanks for this post.

Sounds like me.

I hate the place.

[raccoon]

14. One thing to consider, if you're going to look for another job after leaving this one.

It's easier to find a job if you have a job.

For whatever reason, many if not most employers find you more desirable as an employee if you already have a job.

If you can grit your teeth and bear it until you find something else. I know what it's like to hate a job. I hated one
so much that I found myself thinking, Gee, if I got in a car accident, I wouldn't have to go to work.

[cwydro]

29. I know that feeling.

I know it well.

[Phentex]

15. Yes. I quit one after four days...

but it also helped that I heard back from another company and they offered me a job.

Not sure how long I could have lasted.

[IrishEyes]

16. If I could. Absolutely.

Unfortunately, I can't quit until I find another job. I hate my current job. It pays very little and they don't seem to ever give raises. They laid off a lot of people and gave their work to the rest of us. Then they laid off more people and gave us more work. In the two years that I have worked here, I have seen a ton of people leave or get fired but I haven't seen very many people get hired.

[femmocrat]

18. I have, but nothing dramatic.

Once I quit to relocate and another time I just took a permanent maternity leave.

The last job I left was due to retirement. I had had enough though, and couldn't wait to get the h*ll out of there. Fortunately, I was finally eligible to retire.

Good luck, no matter what you decide. It does take some planning so you won't be penniless.

[cwydro]

26. Oh I would give notice and all that.

I won't be penniless.

And I have 26 acres my dad left me that I could really enjoy if I didn't have to go to the hellhole every weekday.

[femmocrat]

27. That sounds lovely.

I have really been enjoying the wildlife and my gardening since I retired. There is much satisfaction in being close to nature!

The farm above us has a very busy chicken coop. They come down to the fence, across the corn field, and occasionally wander into our yard. They are such fun to watch and drive the dogs bonkers. LOL

[cwydro]

36. Chickens are a blast. And they lay eggs!

We have a goose and ducks as well.

I really love my feathered family.

Also two big dogs, and three cats. That's where I need to be everyday. With them.

[Xyzse]

19. If I could, and I had a different job lined up? Sure.

I just can't imagine not working...

I would have no idea what to do with myself and feel as if I have no purpose.

[magical thyme]

30. I'd be volunteering at an animal shelter if I had the time and energy

there is so much important work to do...

[cwydro]

34. You are so right.

I work at a call center for whistle blowers/complainers about work.

It is horrid.

[magical thyme]

38. I work at a call center for mutual fund companies

mostly spoiled, obnoxious people throwing tantrums about problems that most of us would consider a blessing.

[raccoon]

42. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers. That sounds horrid. nt

[cwydro]

43. It is.

Thank you for your post.

You said it all.

[Xyzse]

37. I volunteer for MAGSR now and then.

I just don't have the time lately, though I guess you're right.

[davsand]

20. Let me rephrase your question, WHY would you stay if you are unhappy?

I totally understand why people stay in jobs they hate if they need the money or the benefits, but if you don't need the job what possible reason would anybody have to keep doing it??? Think about it this way, if you work full time, you spend something around 8-9 hours in your workplace. It probably takes you something like an hour (or more) to get out of bed, fed, dressed, and get to work. You leave work, deal with some kind of food for your dinner, and if you are lucky, you have a couple of hours to spend doing stuff you choose to do. Then you go to bed and sleep so you can do it all again the next day. Someplace in there you are probably going to have to procure food by going to a grocery store, and at some point you have laundry to deal with and maybe even some cleaning of your living space...

We all get about 16 hours a day of awake/alert time (assuming you sleep 8 hours) and if a huge chunk of that time is devoted to doing something you don't enjoy and have no compelling reason to do, that is a pretty sad sort of existence, IMO.

I kinda like what I do now, but if I won the lottery and money wasn't an issue, I'm pretty sure I'd quit. I have too much other stuff I'd like to be doing.


Laura

[cwydro]

22. You nailed it.

I have a lot of other things I could be doing.

[crim son]

23. Yes, and I did. n/t

[cwydro]

25. Thanks crim son

[GOLGO 13]

24. Of course. But, I like my job now quite a bit.

Then I wised up and got down with civil service. Got a damn good union job & 5yrs away from a pension.

[Aristus]

28. I've had several jobs in thepast that I hated for one reason or another.

I stayed with them as long as I possibly could, usually because I needed the money so bad. But as soon as it became feasible to quit, I quit.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

31. If I didn't need the money I would quit my job in a NY second.

so burned out.

[cwydro]

35. Me too Tuesday.

I keep putting arbitrary deadlines on my quitting decision:

Wait till I get a new laptop.

Need to buy some more chickens.

Need fencing for the farm.

And on and on...I'm at the end of my rope I think.

[kentauros]

32. I didn't hate my last job.

And they may hire me back if they win the bid on another contract/job.

As for jobs I've had in the past? I most certainly would have quit them if I could and didn't then need the assistance from UI.

[Myrina]

33. Have done so. Several times.

Can be scary and inconvenient as hell the first time or two, but once you learn to value your peace of mind more than your title, and keep your resume, skills & contacts updated, and a tiny bit of scratch under the mattress to keep the lights on, it's no big deal.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

39. I should have, but I couldn't bring myself to do it.

It was a mistake.

When I did finally leave, it was a huge relief. If only I had known that before, I would have left sooner rather than later.

Follow your heart, my dear cwydro!

[cwydro]

44. Peg....

I value your advice.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

47. I appreciate that very much, my dear cwydro...

[cwydro]

49. I've been talking to my mom.

Even she thinks I should quit.

It's s soul sucking place.

If you ever read the Harry Potter books...my job is like the Dementors

[CaliforniaPeggy]

51. Ohmygawd, you are no Dementor! You need to get out of there.

Yeah, I loved Harry Potter!



I'm off to bed! PT tomorrow...

[cwydro]

52. Oh Peg.

The job is like the Dementors lol.

Sucks my soul.

Good night hon. And I'm giving notice tomorrow.

[hibbing]

40. I hate my job

I used to really like my job. After not getting hardly anything for a raise and my workload increasing to unmanageable amounts and new bosses coming in I dread coming in every day. However, I can't quit unless I have another job lined up. I would love to go into by boss' office and tell her a list of crap of why I am walking out the door and never coming back.

Peace

[cwydro]

50. Thank you

I'm out of there.

I gotta do the two week thing and all.. But I am done.

[handmade34]

41. YES!!!

makes no sense to waste this one precious life we have...

fortunately, I like my job

[cwydro]

46. How lucky you are.

I guess I'm lucky too. This is the only job I have hated so much.

[mackerel]

45. When I was younger it was easier to leave a job that offered me no happiness. It's harder now but

there are aspects to my job now that I really enjoy and then there are hard days. If been better paid but I do have health benefits and they match to 3% of my Simple IRA. I like the people I work with it's just sometimes my bosses don't get it.

[HipChick]

48. I'm a serial walk out on a job

I don't do it as much now,because I am older...but am prob going to be taking a very early retirement..and work for myself

[HeiressofBickworth]

53. I LIKED my job and quit anyway

I was in the legal department of an engineering company. I liked the work and enjoyed most of the people. But then the company sold out to a mega-corp. Of course management kept saying that everyone was secure, there would be no lay-offs. HA. I worked in the field of law long enough to know bullshit when I hear it. I've worked on many corporate acquisitions/mergers so I know the drill. Keep the lid on until after the deal closes and then start the lay-offs. So, I checked the calendar, figured out my finances, got all my ducks in a row and gave notice that I was not only quitting, I was retiring. They were shocked. They were counting on me to work on the transition, knowing that they would not be keeping me. The new owner had a complete legal department in another city and I was not going to be part of it. They even offered me $5,000 to stay for another three months until the deal closed. I declined. A week after I left they called and asked me to come back for just one week -- they would pay me $5,000! So I took the $5,000, worked for a week and left. And here it is 6 years later -- the company has been fully integrated into the mega-corp. My employer had 550 employees at the time I left, 175 of them being in the local office. Now, they have moved the office twice, each time to smaller quarters. Of the 175 in the local office there are about 50 left. The name of the company has been changed so there really is nothing left. I never regretted leaving.

[cwydro]

54. Good for you.

They won't be happy when I leave either.

We were just swallowed by another corporation too.

But I won't be getting any offers like yours, I'm quite sure.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

57. Me, too. At least I liked it for many years

until my company was acquired by an even bigger one and my job (which I was at least able to hang onto, unlike some of my co-workers) changed into something I didn't like at all - micromanaged from a distant city, the acquiring company's headquarters. But they told us our department was secure and there were no plans to move that part of the operation. Ha. Not long after that promise was made we were told our department would be merged into the acquiring company's equivalent department and would be moved to the headquarters. Those of us who hadn't yet quit or been laid off were offered a woefully inadequate moving allowance, which didn't help morale much. The one good thing was that they offered a severance package to those of us who were eligible for early retirement. It wasn't spectacular, but I took it and ran, as did a number of others. Had that merger not occurred I probably would still be working because I really liked the original version of my job. The new version at the new location, not so much. I've never looked back.

[Brigid]

55. Oh, yes.

I know -- I've seen me do it.

[cwydro]

65. Yes!

Thank you'

[lame54]

56. I did 10 years ago...

i looked for a few months and took a job at half the pay and never looked back

[Paladin]

58. "And you could?"

That's a loaded phrase. Most of the jobs I had paid good money, and my family depended on it. I didn't have the luxury of walking away from a job just because I hated it, and I suspect that many of you have faced the same circumstances.

[cwydro]

60. Yes.

I can do it without starvation.

I have 26 acres, chickens, and no dependents.

[Paladin]

61. Having a family has a way of changing your perspective on things. (nt)

[cwydro]

62. Of course it would.

I have a mother of 88.

And a sister also gainfully employed.

It's only me.

[bigwillq]

59. Yes.

And Yes.

[cwydro]

63. ...

Thank you bigwillq!

[RobinA]

64. I Quit

a second job I had cold turkey after they wanted me to falsify records and falsely accused me of undoing some work that had been done - all on the same evening I came in during a snow storm when I wasn't scheduled just to help them out. And yes, I strongly disliked it, but I quit for the above reasons.

[Tripper11]

66. In a heartbeat....

....and when I was single and had only me to worry about, if a job wasn't working out, I would leave. No muss no fuss.
Sometimes I would have something lined up, most times, but there were a few times that I went out without a safety net.

Been married 16 years, 2 kids and although I would love to walk away, I have to suck it up and stick with it.
That said, I know some people, with families that did quit their jobs. Just put it all out there, and ended up with a better or more satisfying job.
I'm just not that big a risk taker and no savings to take a crack at something like that.

[cwydro]

68. Going to do it.

I hate my job.

[hobbit709]

67. More than once