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I was contacted recently by an ex-girlfriend of mine. I was kind of shocked, things were great when we dated but when I broke up with her, things got bad fast.
Somewhat shocked that she contacted me, I felt intrigued. A Quick look at her profile showed that she was religious and conservative. I can admit I may have leaned right and was brought up in a religious household but now I lean left and am atheist. So what's up? Suddenly, she has recalled the past and she has never been happier with anyone other than me! dang, just what I wanted to hear but it has been 20 years since we last saw each other. She is married and so am I! but I wanted to listen to what she had to say.
Apparently her Fox News watching husband, who she divorced several years ago due to his drug and alcohol are again having problems. He works side jobs but they got evicted from their apartment due to him not paying the rent for several months. They moved to a new place two months ago and he is already hasn't paid the rent. He doesn't pay any bills, so I inquire just what does he do with his money? It is unknown. So I suggest that the drug or alcohol issue has probably returned, "no" she said, she would know. But she tells me she has had it with him and she is basically reliving her past.
It turns out, she is conservative as well, she believes we should all say the pledge "under god" and if we or the President doesn't believe in the constitution, we should go to Canada, she has hairy Bear arms... I just found it too funny. So I explained I was now atheist and explained that I thought it was funny how people get all caught up in talking points. So suddenly she changed her stance and was not really that religious and was in the other room while her husband, who can't seem to pay the rent, was watching Fox news, lol!
Later in one of our messages, she admits that she's not racist but doesn't think blacks and whites should mix??? I think it's funny when people say "I'm not racist but..." and then put their foot in their mouth. So I explained I did not share that feeling and of course, when I did, she changed her tune as well.
I think she's been brain washed by the Conservative view, should I start bringing up liberal causes? Let her know how happy I am that "Stephanie and Linda" were able to tie the knot? That my friend who works for the Catholic University can finally get birth control coverage for the issue they have been having? That Cherrios really is a cool cereal?
Dapper
pscot
(21,024 posts)in your current relationship, go for it. She sounds like just what you need.
Ptah
(33,037 posts)dapper
(758 posts)She rolled her eyes.
I have to admit, I left out "ex" and "girl" and described the political aspects as from a "Friend", lol.
The ex's life has always been a soap opera. I'm not about to re-live it.
Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)sounds like you already are and have definitely already lied to your wife by omission of pertinent facts.
Ptah
(33,037 posts)PoliticAverse
(26,366 posts)annabanana
(52,791 posts)trof
(54,256 posts)Seriously, dood.
dapper
(758 posts)I have no interest in her. Her life was always a soap opera.
running away! it was just too funny of a story not to tell someone!
Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)then yeah. it is funny alright.
Sanity Claws
(21,852 posts)She has problems. Don't let them become yours.
Walk away
(9,494 posts)Last edited Fri Feb 7, 2014, 11:06 AM - Edit history (1)
some guy who should know better, starts with a little lie about chatting with a crazy woman and then things escalate. Before he knows it she has traveled half way across the country wearing a diaper so she won't have to make pit stops and shows up in his bedroom closet with a chain saw and a dozen rolls of duct tape.
It's been done to death!
pengillian101
(2,351 posts)pacalo
(24,721 posts)Yup.
Xyzse
(8,217 posts)That was crazy.
pacalo
(24,721 posts)Why did you mention this?
Iggo
(47,565 posts)seaglass
(8,173 posts)Xyzse
(8,217 posts)They still divorce, just live at the same place.
Don't ask me, but such train wreck relationships happen.
I had a friend who lived in with her boyfriend, where they merged their finances and got a shared bank account.
Hearing her horror stories, is one of the huge reasons that if I ever get myself hitched, there has to be separate banking, and if there has to be a shared one, it is just something we contribute to.
seaglass
(8,173 posts)still have to live with the person years later. I don't even know how that would work - you couldn't really have expectations of each other and how do you date and/or have intimate relationships. Yuck.
Xyzse
(8,217 posts)They make do with what they have.
My friend was lucky that she was able to move back in with her mother after a while, saving up for a plane ticket.
seaglass
(8,173 posts)and another says she is divorced so who knows - just thought it was a weird story.
Xyzse
(8,217 posts)Rather than saying ex husband over and over. Since he was her ex, he can't really say her "ex" over and over.
Then again, I may be reading it incorrectly.
MissB
(15,812 posts)because they couldn't afford to sell their big home in a down market. Made it uncomfy as hell when one of them wanted to start dating.
LynneSin
(95,337 posts)They are whatever it is that they used to fill in that blank.
And on an edit note:
I don't think you should bring up 'liberal causes'. Honestly I found trying to discuss these issues and convert people that way is nothing more than a major brain drain for all parties involved. Instead I think you should just show how happy you are, how you are enjoying life and overall positivity. When she realizes your outlook in life compared to hers she'll start asking the questions about your 'liberal causes' which in reality is just living life where you don't judge others or use people who aren't like you as the fault as to why your life is miserable. The rest will just fall into place.
dawg
(10,624 posts)haunting hazel eyes, a million dollars in the bank, and the sexual appetites and abilities of a twenty year-old. But I generally agree with what you just said.
LynneSin
(95,337 posts)and blah blah blah
Just saying.
Iggo
(47,565 posts)PumpkinAle
(1,210 posts)liberal thinking people and thank you for your call - sorry things aren't working out for you, but hopefully the future will be better. Good bye and good luck.