parenting advise...
My darling daughter has turned two...and with it have come a whole bunch of problems.. she likes to explore...and that gets her into a lot of trouble...she tore the pages of books in my home library..by the tens of them... she insists on walking around the house wearing my shoes.. and bunch of other things..
Ands when I restrict her from doing what she wants..she gets very frustrated and starts biting me ..yelling at her and time outs have had no impact and she is absolutely fearless..
What should I do?
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I had a brother who was the same way and a biter; the way my parents resolved it would probably get you arrested today.
(He bit my mother hard enough to draw blood so she bit him back and said "How do you like it?!"
As for the exploration, that ended when he hid in a bookcase that was in-set behind his bedroom door and fell asleep--the police were called, they didn't find him so the local FBI field office's team for abducted children was deployed and four hours after this all started, someone finally closed his bedroom door. After that, my parents took all the furniture out of his room except the bed, tore out the bookcase and put a hook-and-eye lock on his closet door. (Thus, no place to hide and sleep.)
My youngest sister's daughter was a biter, also. And she had the worst tantrums.
One day she bit my mom, who bit her back.
Well, it wasn't long after that when my sister's pediatrician decided to have my niece tested for a seizure disorder. MRI and everything.
Well guess what...
Tests came back that she did have a disorder. Some meds took care of the problem and she never acted out like that again.
I sometimes wonder if my mom is ever sorry for biting her own grandchild when the poor kid couldn't help her behavior.
and I will add a bit..."yelling at her" only teaches her to respond the same way. I have four grandkids, including one on the autism spectrum, and have found the gentle approach, which requires a lot of patience, has given us the desired behavior. Some kids want your attention 100% of the time; it can really be tough on the parent.
For us, a special drawer or cabinet in each room that had grown-up stuff (we changed items frequently) but that the kids could play with, worked well.
Good luck, and vent your frustrations here.
...it is always tenuous to give advice to others about their children... but from my experience (5 kids, academic work and teaching) the #1 thing I would say is stop yelling.
Understand that your daughter is normal and it is your job to teach and guide her. There are many parenting techniques and there is not just one best way but respect and unconditional love is key. My strongly held belief is that children want and need structure and boundaries (even, and maybe especially, when it seems they are asking for just the opposite). The frustration that your daughter is displaying may be in response to not enough structure in her life...
don't yell and try not to be impatient and frustrated yourself
give her a choice between two things when possible
talk to her like a real person (albeit a little one with less life experiences than you) with the respect you would give the most important person in your life...
hold her often and maybe even more when she is frustrated
spend positive time with her and find things to laugh about
tell her that "we don't do those things here" and "I expect _____" she needs to know what your expectations are and what your priorities are...
all that being said, I was usually very permissive with my children but they understood they were loved and that there were some very important boundaries...
Respect for the child is the cornerstone on which all other Montessori principles rest. As Montessori said,
As a rule, however, we do not respect children. We try to force them to follow us without regard to their special needs. We are overbearing with them, and above all, rude; and then we expect them to be submissive and well-behaved, knowing all the time how strong is their instinct of imitation and how touching their faith in and admiration of us. They will imitate us in any case. Let us treat them, therefore, with all the kindness which we would wish to help to develop in them (Montessori, 1965).
We show respect for children when they help them do things and learn for themselves. When children have choices, they are able to develop the skills and abilities necessary for effective learning autonomy, and positive self-esteem.
http://www.activeparenting.com/Parents-Parenting_Style_Quiz
but 
for anyone raising children these days... so difficult when they are young but trust me... when they are older it will all be worth it
Heady and esoteric but I always loved Gibran's philosophy...
On Children
by Kahlil Gibran
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.
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...
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.
