Just informed my 83 year old mother that her favorite son is no longer welcome...............

[mrmpa]

in my home.

Mom lives with me, I told her that this brother of mine is welcome to visit her, take her shopping, etc. but I need advance notice because I will not share the same breathing space as him. He is welcome for holidays, but I will not be here in the home, I will go elsewhere.

Why, you might ask I did this, it's because he's been fucking with me for 3 weeks. Here's the reason. As some of you may know, I've been unemployed for near 3 years. I have 3 brothers and I have begged them (they know everyone) to help me find something. This brother always tells about how he got someone (not family) a job. This brother has a full time job and is a high school JV coach. I have a Masters in Education. I'm not looking for a teaching job, anything in a school district will help. So I called him on the carpet 3 weeks ago and said you have to help me somehow.

The plan was for me to email the Superintendent (his very good friend) tell him what I was looking for and I would even take a part time job (just to get my foot in the door). I did that, I have never heard back from the Superintendent. But my brother has lied for 3 weeks. Lies, like "Super said he hasn't filled everything yet, Super will email you, then secretary will email you, then it was I should have an email on August 9, then it was August 12, etc. When there was no email yesterday & no new listings on the District's website, I realized he's been fucking with me. Brother is now not answering his phone or texts. Mom talked to his daughter & told her to have her Dad call Mom, wonder of wonders, no phone call.

I left a message on his voice mail last night and was in a tirade, told him that I don't like getting fucked by a brother, that he should grow some balls and tell me the truth, etc. I am now going to text him and tell him the new rules. I was up until 4 a.m. in tears that he did this to me. I was looking forward to working in this district (I student taught there), they have no nepotism rules, so that's not the reason he did this. I'm crying now.

Thanks for reading.

[femmocrat]

1. About school districts---

I think you are in PA, right? You do not say if you are certified to teach, but if you are, you could get on the substitute list. The superintendent has nothing to do with hiring, for the most part. You have to go through the proper channels of the application process. You need to call the Superintendent's secretary to find out what positions are available and how to apply. The superintendent can recommend someone, but the School Board does the hiring.

It is probably too late for the beginning of the year, because you have to have several clearances and all your paperwork in order. It is an involved process! Just having a master's degree is not sufficient unless you have credentials.

I don't know what your brother is talking about, but he cannot get people hired. Even coaches have to go through the same process. In PA, the teachers' unions carefully monitor that the district is posting vacancies, etc. Some vacancies might not be advertised (not required) but they need to be posted in the buildings. (This is where the secretary comes in handy.) Teaching vacancies are also posted on a site online through the Dept. of Ed, I think. Sorry, I don't know the address.

Don't be so hard on your brother, even if he is full of sh*t. It will hurt your mother to see you two alienated from each other. Good luck, mrmpa.

[mrmpa]

2. PA is right.....................

I can't teach ( I have all certifications, etc), but do to injury I can't stand for more than 20 minutes at a time, or walk for more than 20. The Superintendent can make recs (that will be adhered to) and in particular for his office.

Postings I understand. But contacting the Superintendent does me more good than harm. I understand processes. Everything in PA school districts is who you know, even when processes are followed.

Hard on my brother, he's done this shit before. As for jobs he's gotten for people, it's been a couple in the district & then you can't imagine the number in the company he works for and outside that company.

He deserves everything he gets.

[femmocrat]

3. What kind of position would you be able to do then?

Other than secretary.... just about everything else requires you to be on your feet. Sure, it never hurts to network, but jobs in schools are hard to come by, as you well know.

Good luck, mrmpa. I hope something happens for you. Three years is an awfully long time to be out of work.

[mrmpa]

7. There are positions...........

within the Anti-Bullying program (it's on their agenda) I've taught non confrontational techniques, etc. They have an outreach program to the immigrant community(I have experience), there are coordinator positions within the Security Unit, at risk programs, etc.

[Orrex]

4. Where do you live?

[mrmpa]

8. Western PA.........eom

[HeiressofBickworth]

5. I'm sorry it's come to this for you

but as I was reading your post, a thought came to mind. Perhaps your brother is a blow-hard, you know, a liar. He may not have actually assisted anyone in getting a job, but bragging about it does something for him. Claiming he knows many wonderful and influential people is just to puff up his image to you and your mother. So now that you need a job and have called upon him to exercise this influence he claims to have, you have backed him into a corner where his lies may become exposed. So he can continue to cover-up by alternately stringing you along and then not speaking to you.

Might not be the case, but it was just a thought.

Good luck with your job search.

[mrmpa]

6. No he's gotten them jobs.............

I know some personally and they have said to me "if it wasn't for your brother, I wouldn't have had this job." He's just an idiot, who lies through his teeth. My 83 year old mom has texted him repeatedly since yesterday. I texted him that he needs to speak to his mother and apologize.

There was a secretary/coordinator position in the Athletic Department that was open a month ago, that he was able to get a friend's wife the job (I learned this 3 days ago). When I asked him why, his words were "she needed the job." So he's lethal to family.

[davidpdx]

9. I don't know much about your situation other than what you wrote

But I know the longer you are unemployed the harder it can be to find something. That being said you just have to keep fighting on and find something.

As for family, they can be a pain in the ass IMHO so I can understand why you are upset with some of them. Keep your focused on finding a job and work out the rest later. There's no need to waste energy on things you can't control much.