Got ticket! Leaving tonight.

[Lady Freedom Returns]

He was happy to shove me out the door. But here I am ready to go.

[handmade34]

1. stand strong...

and find some good friends... be a survivor!!

[Lady Freedom Returns]

3. Thank you!

But I don't feel to strong.

I do love Tucson. But I will be back!

[handmade34]

7. I know

Tucson is nice and my daughter is in Phoenix... there is good, someplace everywhere you go... you will find it!!

[Lady Freedom Returns]

9. I'll be back.

I have started to put that devilish mind to work. I am starting a 5 year plan to get back. I did a 5 year plan once before. And I succeeded. This place it to cool to stay away!

[NYC_SKP]

2. .

[Lady Freedom Returns]

4. ...

thank you.

[Chan790]

5. Don't go easy.

Make him fight you tooth and nail for every piece of community property. The VA gave him the house...everything in it is contested property. Get a UHaul and leave his ass on a bareass floor of an empty house. (Advice from my college fraternity buddy, one of the best lawyers in DC.)

[Lady Freedom Returns]

8. There was only two peices of property worth anything.

And I got them!

[olddots]

6. Don't look back you deserve better

Some day this will be just a bad memory and you will be free of this fool .

[Lady Freedom Returns]

10. Will be a while.

But one thing is for sure, I am not going to get into any relationships for a long time.

[HipChick]

11. Take your time,but don't deprive

someone else of the loving being that is you, because of one bad experience...

This is my fav song

I Will Survive

[Lady Freedom Returns]

13. Thank you for posting!!

[Kath1]

12. He was happy to shove me out the door. But here I am ready to go. - Been there!

Things between my ex and I came to a head in 2003. I was getting into progressive politics and was very anti Iraq war and he was a control freak, Bush voter, very Catholic, Republican, and a Limbaugh-Hannity-Fox fiend. (I still blame Fox and talk radio for brainwashing a formerly apolitical nice guy.) I had gone along to get along too long.

We just could not agree on anything anymore. When I attended the 2004 March For Women's Lives against his edict, he really freaked. The event was so moving and I was so motivated that I came home ready for divorce. And so it was - painful, nasty and long. Finalized late in 2004.

So I changed. I made sure I got custody of my daughter (No. 1 priority). I became much more visible and vocal in my anti-war and pro-woman views. I threw away those annoying contact lenses and went back to wearing glasses. Opened myself up to all ideas and opinions. Started dressing for myself and and bought hipper clothes. Got way more involved in the feminist community. Went to some NOW meetings and met women who knew what I was going through. Resumed my smoking habit (Stupid, but I had quit for him, not me). Became my own person.

After all the pain, sorrow, feelings of failure, tons of shit from my relatives and his - I wouldn't change a thing.

Long winded, I know. I always enjoy your posts, Lady Freedom Returns. You can do this. You'll be better in the end. Peace. Kath.

[Lady Freedom Returns]

14. I am siting here scardd to death right now.

I am shacking like I am sitting on ice! This is real hard. I have no job, no home, not a cent to my name. I feel like dirt right now. I hope it gets better like it did for you.

[Kath1]

15. It will, sister.

Believe in yourself. Seek out support. Don't be ashamed to reach out to friends.

I was totally abandoned by strict conservative Catholic parents who saw me as totally wrong. Lost my job because of all the turmoil. Felt like shit and blamed myself.

Don't know you personally, but have always enjoyed your posts here. You are a good person with a good heart, strong opinions and intelligent views on things. Easy for me to say now, but you can, and will, come out of this for the better.

[Joe Shlabotnik]

16. Best of luck to you!

I just read your other thread, my, what a shitty thing to go through.

Hopefully the dust will settle soon, and you'll find the peace that you deserve. And perhaps something good might eventually come out of something bad. Keep your head up, and don't look back.

[NaturalHigh]

17. Best of luck to you.

I've always thought that Joplin was a very nice town. Hopefully things will go well for you there.

[Locut0s]

18. We are here for you...

Sorry to hear what has happened to you.

[walkerbait41]

19. Good luck to you

[R B Garr]

20. Great news! That's a huge and positive step

Those steps will pile up into real progress. You've already done a lot in one day by planning this bus trip. That Chad guy sounds like he has a lot of experience meddling in other people's lives, which even his ex-wife confirmed for you. What a snake.

I liked your list of goals that you posted in another thread. Someone told me to write down my goals because you internalize them and commit to them more, but I haven't done that yet. Still, every day I make sure I work on something with the future in mind: Paperwork, old contacts, giving things to Goodwill, etc. It adds up.

You never know about another relationship, either. My situation is that I've been living with my SO for 5.8 years now, and he still hasn't gotten around to finalizing his divorce. He barely even started on it until three years into our relationship, which should have been all the time I gave him. This is not something I would have gone along with, but a divorce only takes six months, and they were separated for years, so I could see it happening quick -- just like he said it would. But ... no. That puts me in a position of being a nag and questioning him, which then gives him all the control. In the meantime, my neighbor knows I'm not happy living with someone who is still married, and he wants to start seeing me after I have my SO move, so I'm working on that! You never know who is around the corner. Keep your heart and mind open.

[patricia92243]

21. Please, please keep us posted. I hope you can find a place for internet access - maybe McDonalds.

[redwitch]

22. For you, hope the link works!

In case it doesn't google OK Go, "This too shall pass"

[nolabear]

23. Hang tough, Baby. Stay in touch.

[miked62916]

24. Good luck!

Hope you have a happy and successful future.

[rurallib]

25. best wishes.