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I'm starting to feel better emotionally of late, perhaps due to new meds I'm taking. Went for a nice long walk today during which I shot a number of photos. I'll post them in the photo group later. It occurred to me while out though that the type of person I am is the quiet deep thinker. I'm most happy and most at home when by myself with my own thoughts. I've now overcome most of my earlier socializing difficulties, accept when it comes to women and I quite enjoy socializing in small gatherings of like minded people. But I'll never be the party goer and I know I don't have to. It occurred to me today that maybe I can build a happy life as a quiet thinker type of person. I'll have some type of IT job most likely but my off time might be spent largely with my own hobbies (photography, computers and gaming, reading, hiking and camping, writing and traveling etc). It occurred to me that finding a life partner may not be that important to me after all, something that has worried me of late. I may not even be that type of person, and I'm OK with that. Some my friends who have their own issues are so tied up with the whole GF, sex, issue that they are deeply disturbed and it occurred to me that while the issue matters to me I'm really not that type of person after all. I'm the stereotypical quiet thinker who enjoys being by himself. I still think about the issue of sex though and what to do there. As reprehensible as it may be to some women, though I've learned on here not to all, I've though of seeing an escort or prostitute, and maybe that will be my "release" in the short term. In the long term I don't know. At any rate I'm basically just mulling over stuff out loud. Sorry if this drivel bothers anyone.
applegrove
(118,688 posts)There are quiet, deep thinkers out there who are female and your age. But I hear ya in regards to enjoying your time alone.
Locut0s
(6,154 posts)If so why? I realize there are female quiet thinkers out there and maybe if I meet one one day we will hit it off
applegrove
(118,688 posts)stronger in men. Yes. I'm not sure if it was you I was talking to but I advised someone to join groups that would attract a highly sensitive deep thinking woman: mental heath groups, assertiveness training classes, organizations whose main mandate is to help humanity. Groups and places where you might find people just like you who are struggling with their place in the world. Then when you hook up with this woman you can look back on all your struggles and laugh at how the act of finding yourseves actually brought you together. Would it not be cool to find someone who hates parties as much as you do? Someone you can laugh at all the extraverts with?
Locut0s
(6,154 posts)I might have been the one that you talked to. I'll go back and take a look I posted about getting a girlfriend some time back and take a look. I guess my point with this thread is that I'm coming to realize that it doesn't have to be the central theme of my life. I think I can be quite happy, at least for now, with myself.
applegrove
(118,688 posts)relief it must be. But do take my advice a join a few organizations where you'll meet like minded people. Think of it like finding the icing on the cake to find someone with your interests once you've settled into being your rightfully happy self.
Locut0s
(6,154 posts)I've had many other happy periods in my life and they have tended to be short lived. This one DOES feel slightly different, I feel more empowered, so here's hoping that it's more permanent.
Wounded Bear
(58,670 posts)some are here to plumb the depths of those chasms.