Question for the lounge about traveling

[a la izquierda]

My husband and I have moved quite a bit. As a result, we have friends in many states. However, we have always done the traveling to visit people. Our friends have never reciprocated. Here's the question: is it appropriate to tell people we will no longer travel to visit unless there's some give and take?

[Chan790]

1. Yes. n/t

[a la izquierda]

2. Thanks.

A close friend told me I was being passive aggressive and expecting too much of people...those with kids get a pass. My single/married friends who have good jobs and money do not.

[olddots]

3. maybe it boils down to who has enough money to travel

n.t.

[a la izquierda]

5. Two professors.

They travel everywhere, they can afford it. in fact, one of them is three hours away and never said anything.
Our other friends travel to see mutual friends out of state.

[pipi_k]

4. Appropriate?

I don't know.

But I wouldn't do it.

First of all, one can never know why someone can't/won't travel.

Money. Physical issues. Travel anxiety issues.


If you actually plan on carrying this out, maybe it would be better not to say anything unless/until someone asks why they haven't seen you in a while.

That's when you could (kindly) state that you would welcome the opportunity to entertain them for a change on your home turf.

[a la izquierda]

11. I'm the one with travel anxiety...

So I'd love the opportunity to entertain for a change.

[Wait Wut]

6. Yes.

Tell me how it works out, because I'm doing this next year...or the year after.

Another option, ask your friends to join you on a 'real' vacation. That way, no one feels the need to play host/tourism director/entertainment director, etc.

[a la izquierda]

7. That is a great idea.

Some of our friends from LA meet up with us in Vegas.

I'll definitely bookmark this and keep you posted.

[dixiegrrrrl]

8. I take it you HAVE invited these people to your home/area???

Is there something about where you live that is off putting?

[ballardgirl]

9. Exactly what I was thinking

invite them and they will come?

[a la izquierda]

10. Oh yes.

But I live in Ohio, so that may be it

[Kali]

12. jeebus, be careful what you wish for!!!

[a la izquierda]

13. Yeah, I know.

I keep moving closer and closer to my family. While I love them, I don't want them in my house every weekend