cross post: Would you be offended or would you dance

[diabeticman]

I did post this in the LGBT section as well:

My wife asked me to post this: We have friends who are gay and a few lesbian friends as well.

Now my wife's best female is married to a great man and has two children one of which is an 8 year old girl who has this MAJOR crush on one of our gay friends. She has had a crush on this one guy since she was 2 years old. Now the guy she has a crush on has been in a committed relationship for about 12 years and the 8 year old knows Uncle X and uncle Y live together and are in love like Mommy loves Daddy BUT she still has this crush and this shy 8 year old manage to get the courage to ask uncle X to dance with her at a wedding this weekend.

It was one dance and we don't know if X had a bad day or just whatever but he told her no (lucky uncle Y asked her to dance with him and took her out on the dance floor) now X looks at the 8 year old's parents and told them they need to teach her that she needs to stop crushing on her because it isn't fair for her.

it is a harmless crush...

[Aristus]

1. I'm straight, but I can't imagine my reaction would have been different if I was gay.

I would have danced with the sweet little girl. I feel bad that he may have hurt her feelings, and it was rude of him to react that way.

[nolabear]

2. He should have danced. Little girls are precious things, and their crushes are honors.

She'll get over him on her own, but she might be very hurt by him refusing her and might not ask for something she wants next time. I don't care how bad a day he's having, he didn't need to step on tender feelings.

[Sekhmets Daughter]

3. When I was just about the same age,

my mother's youngest brother did pretty much the same thing to me. He danced with all of my cousins, but no matter how nicely I asked, he refused to dance with me. After that wedding, I never asked him again for anything...not even the time.

When I was older, I learned that he had never forgiven my mother, who was 16 years older, for getting married after my grandmother died. It was a crappy thing for an adult to do to a young child, and it was my first lesson in how unimportant 'family' can be.

We rarely know, at the time, what motivates people to do the terrible things they do. I hope the little girl is not made even more shy by this experience. Perhaps someone should tell Uncle X he is a first class ass.

I'd dance with the devil if he were disguised as a child.

[winter is coming]

7. "I'd dance with the devil if he were disguised as a child."

I didn't realize you'd met my daughter.

[Sekhmets Daughter]

8. !!!

I can sympathize! I raised two daughters, both were 'headstrong'. My son was a breeze. Go figure!

[Moondog]

4. It sounds to me as though

X is a sanctimonious little shit who wants to score political points by crapping on a vulnerable little 8 year old child. In this case a girl.

There is a a word for people like that, and it is this - "bully".

Fuck him, and the horse he rode in on. That man would be dead to me from this day forward. His partner could redeem himself by losing the bully. But until such time as he did, neither would ever again be welcome in my home.

Yeah, I guess I have an opinion. I don't like bullies.

[mokawanis]

5. Based on the info in your post

I would have danced with the girl one time. Glad to read that uncle Y stepped up and offered to dance with her.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

6. I would dance.

[pipi_k]

9. Just a thought...

but I wonder if the guy might have acted that way because he had been called a pedophile in the past.

Or maybe he's sensitive to the fact that a lot of very ignorant people automatically assume that gays are pedophiles.

The guy might not be a jerk at all, just scared of being accused of something he's never done.